uk_27
Well-known member
I have yet to 'break the ice' with some of my neighbours. I bought my house 3 years ago and apart from a 12 month gap where I lived somewhere else (long story!) I have spent the remaining time here.
I always check through the spy hole in the front door to make sure the street is clear before leaving the house. If I happen to see them across the street I tend to panic a bit, pretend not to see them or if that is unavoidable I just give them a quick wave and 'Morning!' as I hurry into my car. I feel I am being really rude and the situation it's starting to really bother me!
Some new people moved in next door last year and when one of their dog’s toys came over the fence I made myself go and knock on their door, return the toy and introduce myself. They seemed really nice people and my anxiety faded quickly (This is rare!). Now every time I see them I am quite happy to engage them in conversation for a bit and it is relaxed.
Why can't I have this approach with the people opposite who have been my neighbours much longer?! I keep imagining how miserable and rude they must think I am and it really gets to me.
I am sure many people must have or have had a similar situation?! How do I combat this situation and leave it in the past?!
I always check through the spy hole in the front door to make sure the street is clear before leaving the house. If I happen to see them across the street I tend to panic a bit, pretend not to see them or if that is unavoidable I just give them a quick wave and 'Morning!' as I hurry into my car. I feel I am being really rude and the situation it's starting to really bother me!
Some new people moved in next door last year and when one of their dog’s toys came over the fence I made myself go and knock on their door, return the toy and introduce myself. They seemed really nice people and my anxiety faded quickly (This is rare!). Now every time I see them I am quite happy to engage them in conversation for a bit and it is relaxed.
Why can't I have this approach with the people opposite who have been my neighbours much longer?! I keep imagining how miserable and rude they must think I am and it really gets to me.
I am sure many people must have or have had a similar situation?! How do I combat this situation and leave it in the past?!