There has been a lot of mention of still being a virgin, too scared to approach the opposite gender, but want sex so bad etc...
What about the opposite end of the spectrum? Does anybody have sex in order to ease their nerves with the other person so that they can then talk to them?
I am just wondering if I am alone there. It is back to front, usually you at least want to know a person before you have sex with them, but for me it was impossible to say more than "Hi", although I really really liked guys and wanted nothing more than to have a normal conversation I just couldn't, as soon as an open question was asked I would start getting all flustered and blush and have to run away.
So I started drinking alone when I was 17, and then I crashed a school party and pretty soon a guy grabbed me and started making out with me and then we went off and had sex. Which was perfect I thought because there was no need for the awkward and feared conversation. And I was soooo happy about it
It has been suggested I am a sex addict which could stem from other issues in my childhood, but I am just wondering if anybody else attributes promiscuous behavior to SA? Using sex to become comfortable with people... Because if it has been a while then I cannot concentrate on anything else but think about sex explicitly all the time and conversation is way too difficult when you are thinking thoughts typical to SA as well as thinking explicitly while trying to talk to some guy you like. But I relax enough to be able to have a normal conversation after sex. It is kindof unfortunate because any girl worries a bit about her reputation, with SA I just went overboard paranoid about my reputation of being "the mute slut." Although it has been much better in recent years because I have a boyfriend and discovered a thing they call "love" and more meaningful & better sex, I find when I dont have sex for a while then I get too shy to talk to guys all over again (relapse?). And when I am having frequent sex, then I can talk to any guy no probs.
I almost had a nervous breakdown when I moved to Australia and realized that promiscuity is really really despised here. I thought, "how on earth am I supposed to talk to and relate to men then if I cant sleep with them?"
I know they say many SA sufferers often rely on and abuse alcohol in order to talk to people.. what about sex? Am I nuts?
PS: Sorry if my post offends anybodies high morals...
What about the opposite end of the spectrum? Does anybody have sex in order to ease their nerves with the other person so that they can then talk to them?
I am just wondering if I am alone there. It is back to front, usually you at least want to know a person before you have sex with them, but for me it was impossible to say more than "Hi", although I really really liked guys and wanted nothing more than to have a normal conversation I just couldn't, as soon as an open question was asked I would start getting all flustered and blush and have to run away.
So I started drinking alone when I was 17, and then I crashed a school party and pretty soon a guy grabbed me and started making out with me and then we went off and had sex. Which was perfect I thought because there was no need for the awkward and feared conversation. And I was soooo happy about it
It has been suggested I am a sex addict which could stem from other issues in my childhood, but I am just wondering if anybody else attributes promiscuous behavior to SA? Using sex to become comfortable with people... Because if it has been a while then I cannot concentrate on anything else but think about sex explicitly all the time and conversation is way too difficult when you are thinking thoughts typical to SA as well as thinking explicitly while trying to talk to some guy you like. But I relax enough to be able to have a normal conversation after sex. It is kindof unfortunate because any girl worries a bit about her reputation, with SA I just went overboard paranoid about my reputation of being "the mute slut." Although it has been much better in recent years because I have a boyfriend and discovered a thing they call "love" and more meaningful & better sex, I find when I dont have sex for a while then I get too shy to talk to guys all over again (relapse?). And when I am having frequent sex, then I can talk to any guy no probs.
I almost had a nervous breakdown when I moved to Australia and realized that promiscuity is really really despised here. I thought, "how on earth am I supposed to talk to and relate to men then if I cant sleep with them?"
I know they say many SA sufferers often rely on and abuse alcohol in order to talk to people.. what about sex? Am I nuts?
PS: Sorry if my post offends anybodies high morals...