Hi everyone. This will be a very long post... Hope you will read and advice me what I should do.
I've started working at this new place 3 months ago. New start, and I tried to change, buy going directly to people, getting eyecontact and introduce myself. It went fine in the beginning, when everything was new.
But after a while it got harder to talk to people, as my fears for not being liked rised again.
I sendt most people I talked to at work a friend request on facebook, and was glad that so many accepted. Just 2 of my coworkers did not accept.
Some of the girls that work there where very nice and easy to talk to, and in the beginning I felt accepted. But lately that have changed. Some just seems to avoid me or they are more reserved around me than before.
I talked to them at facebook, commenting on their statuspost, and tried to be suportive and nice. My comments always got liked by the receiver and a nice reply back.
1 person I was talking to almost everynight at facebook. She was nice to me and told alot about herself, family and her interesest and activities. Since we live pretty close (like 5 minutes walk), she said that maybe we could visit eachother when we get to know eachother better. I started liking this girl alot. I did some experiments, like asking her to join me for an event, and asked for her phonenumber. She said no to both.
I also tagged her in 2 contest at facebook, where the price was a jacket. She did not say anything about that, but it was my way of telling her I'm interested in doing stuff with here on spare time.
We have talked alot since I did that, and I have not asking her to do anything with me for long while. I believed that she would eventually turn to me, when shes ready for being more that a facebook friend.
Last time we talked was wednesday evening, and the last thing she said to me was good night. We had a very good talk as we also do, and she has told me that I'm a nice person.
Thursday I logged on to facebook, and was looking forward to talk to her, I couldnt find here. She was not in my friendlist anymore. I then found out that 3 of my friends have suddenly blocked me, and I couldnt believe it.
I know this people are all friends with eachother, and 2 of this person has been very reserved at me lately at work, and doesnt evens say hi anymore.
It was very sad as I think my atempts to be friend with anyone at work have failed, and I'm just as loneny now, than I was before I started there.
I don't have work before tuesday, so I wont see them before then. It will be hard for me to face them at work now.
I don't understand what I have done wrong. I guess I will try to ask them, but it will be hard with the anxiety now. I will probaly start shaking, blush, sweat and maybe fall on the floor (it have happen).
Thanks for reading, and for any reply or advice, I would be very grateful for any input.
I've started working at this new place 3 months ago. New start, and I tried to change, buy going directly to people, getting eyecontact and introduce myself. It went fine in the beginning, when everything was new.
But after a while it got harder to talk to people, as my fears for not being liked rised again.
I sendt most people I talked to at work a friend request on facebook, and was glad that so many accepted. Just 2 of my coworkers did not accept.
Some of the girls that work there where very nice and easy to talk to, and in the beginning I felt accepted. But lately that have changed. Some just seems to avoid me or they are more reserved around me than before.
I talked to them at facebook, commenting on their statuspost, and tried to be suportive and nice. My comments always got liked by the receiver and a nice reply back.
1 person I was talking to almost everynight at facebook. She was nice to me and told alot about herself, family and her interesest and activities. Since we live pretty close (like 5 minutes walk), she said that maybe we could visit eachother when we get to know eachother better. I started liking this girl alot. I did some experiments, like asking her to join me for an event, and asked for her phonenumber. She said no to both.
I also tagged her in 2 contest at facebook, where the price was a jacket. She did not say anything about that, but it was my way of telling her I'm interested in doing stuff with here on spare time.
We have talked alot since I did that, and I have not asking her to do anything with me for long while. I believed that she would eventually turn to me, when shes ready for being more that a facebook friend.
Last time we talked was wednesday evening, and the last thing she said to me was good night. We had a very good talk as we also do, and she has told me that I'm a nice person.
Thursday I logged on to facebook, and was looking forward to talk to her, I couldnt find here. She was not in my friendlist anymore. I then found out that 3 of my friends have suddenly blocked me, and I couldnt believe it.
I know this people are all friends with eachother, and 2 of this person has been very reserved at me lately at work, and doesnt evens say hi anymore.
It was very sad as I think my atempts to be friend with anyone at work have failed, and I'm just as loneny now, than I was before I started there.
I don't have work before tuesday, so I wont see them before then. It will be hard for me to face them at work now.
I don't understand what I have done wrong. I guess I will try to ask them, but it will be hard with the anxiety now. I will probaly start shaking, blush, sweat and maybe fall on the floor (it have happen).
Thanks for reading, and for any reply or advice, I would be very grateful for any input.