Question about dating and first kiss ...
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spect01
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you are correct.
Which is why being a guy with SA sucks!! ;x
Ouch... the sad thing is, I hate to think it, but you're probably right 
*cries*
*cries*
WriterChick3
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You guys shouldn't be upset about not losing your virginity ... Some girls like that, you know. It may give them the idea that guys are willing to wait for someone they really care about rather than give it up for their first love.
vj288
not actually Fiona Apple
How many of these said girls are there?
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WriterChick3
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Well, personally I think that way. :\ So, if there's one there has to be many more who think like me. There isn't only one person in the entire world who thinks a certain way -- and it doesn't mean they're odd or sad.
MaliceInWickedland
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I've been in relationships before, but I regret them completely. Got cheated on both times, and I will admit that I've tried online dating and that actually worked out a lot better than my real life relationships, which is a pretty sad thought.
In my opinion, people who haven't dated during their teen years are lucky. Sure you get experience out of it, but for the most part I can only regret dating for all the pain it's left me in and now I try to avoid guys completely in fear of being hurt again. It's better to date during the adult years when people are a lot more mature.
My biggest piece of advice: don't trust anyone. I'm not saying you should be completely skeptical of people, but always have at least some fragment of suspicion towards someone because you just never know. You can see a person's face, eyes, and smile but all of that is just a mask that hides the soul underneath.
In my opinion, people who haven't dated during their teen years are lucky. Sure you get experience out of it, but for the most part I can only regret dating for all the pain it's left me in and now I try to avoid guys completely in fear of being hurt again. It's better to date during the adult years when people are a lot more mature.
My biggest piece of advice: don't trust anyone. I'm not saying you should be completely skeptical of people, but always have at least some fragment of suspicion towards someone because you just never know. You can see a person's face, eyes, and smile but all of that is just a mask that hides the soul underneath.
spect01
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can you buy these anywhere?
I second this, I am still pretty young, but from what I can tell/see, people whom I've known in high school (I have only left high school for some 5 or so years), the seemingly popular or attractive ones don't seem to have out perform those who were considered losers back then. If anything, the 'losers' seem to be out performing the ones who had it all.
As for dating and first kiss, I have never even been to one date in my life. I just kind of fall into the kissing scenario, oh well.
UglyAsianGuy
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The most intimate I've gotten with anyone is a handshake. I don't know if I even care that much.
Snowdrop
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Omg! It sounds like you're reading my mind I'm 18, girl, never been kissed, never dated or hugged a guy (well who I liked) nada, nothing!! I've got to say I'm somewhat relieved that I found someone whose like me, I was starting to worry that I was the only one.
I know EXACTLY how you feel though. Everyone in my college, it seems, has a boyfriend/girlfriend. The people I hang out with all have a boyfriend apart from me and I am totally starting to feel the pressure. I would love to have a boyfriend, someone that just cares about me, however I've always been shy and social phobia has made a real impact on my social life, it's prevented me from being able to be MYSELF around guys and I don't let anyone in. I refrain from going to clubs and parties because I feel really under pressure and just not comfortable when I'm with other people.
I hate that I'm like that. I want to be the girl who can talk with any guy and be carefree.
But hey. Life's all about growing up, we're just a little bit late and like taking it slow, right? Besides, not dating in our teens means that yes, we do concentrate more on our studies naturally and it will mean a better job for us in the future! I've posted a question similar to this on another site and had lots of reassurance about it. Surprisingly a lot of girls haven't had their first boyfriend until their early 20s. Plus, if you wait for the right guy, think how special you'll be waiting for him
I'm 18, girl, never been kissed, never dated or hugged a guy (well who I liked) nada, nothing!! I've got to say I'm somewhat relieved that I found someone whose like me, I was starting to worry that I was the only one.I know EXACTLY how you feel though. Everyone in my college, it seems, has a boyfriend/girlfriend. The people I hang out with all have a boyfriend apart from me
and I am totally starting to feel the pressure. I would love to have a boyfriend, someone that just cares about me, however I've always been shy and social phobia has made a real impact on my social life, it's prevented me from being able to be MYSELF around guys and I don't let anyone in. I refrain from going to clubs and parties because I feel really under pressure and just not comfortable when I'm with other people.I hate that I'm like that. I want to be the girl who can talk with any guy and be carefree.
But hey. Life's all about growing up, we're just a little bit late and like taking it slow, right?
Besides, not dating in our teens means that yes, we do concentrate more on our studies naturally and it will mean a better job for us in the future! I've posted a question similar to this on another site and had lots of reassurance about it. Surprisingly a lot of girls haven't had their first boyfriend until their early 20s. Plus, if you wait for the right guy, think how special you'll be waiting for him
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I'm 23 and still haven't got my first "real date" nor my first kiss. I'm not worrying so much about it anymore. If I had some money I would go to a escort that offers sex services including kiss ... but since I don't have I'll wait for my first girlfriend to be really gentle and accept me this way
UglyAsianGuy
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I'm 23 and still haven't got my first "real date" nor my first kiss. I'm not worrying so much about it anymore. If I had some money I would go to a escort that offers sex services including kiss ... but since I don't have I'll wait for my first girlfriend to be really gentle and accept me this way
desperate mofo
Wow you guys are crazy. You are young and act like its the end of the world 18,19,20,22,25,even 30 yrs old is not old! You got tons of time. Yeah the ones who have sex and do stupid **** when they are young are also the ones paying for it with having all these kids they do not want.
You do not have to do the things others are doing just to feel adequate. Do what YOU value and care about. IMO probably from the age of 25-30 is when people really understand who they are. Doing anything major before this is probably foolish. You can't make proper decisions on important decisions when you are young/inexperienced/naive.
Don't worry about what all your friends are doing. People like to hype things up and exaggerate. Just because your friend does drugs or has had sex doesn't mean you are missing out and should do whatever they do. If your friends jumped off a cliff would you jump?
You are gonna end up doing things you regret simply because you wanted to fit in or impress someone. Life should not be about that. It should be finding who you are and enjoying yourself and doing the things that bring you pleasure and happiness. **** everything else.
You do not have to do the things others are doing just to feel adequate. Do what YOU value and care about. IMO probably from the age of 25-30 is when people really understand who they are. Doing anything major before this is probably foolish. You can't make proper decisions on important decisions when you are young/inexperienced/naive.
Don't worry about what all your friends are doing. People like to hype things up and exaggerate. Just because your friend does drugs or has had sex doesn't mean you are missing out and should do whatever they do. If your friends jumped off a cliff would you jump?
You are gonna end up doing things you regret simply because you wanted to fit in or impress someone. Life should not be about that. It should be finding who you are and enjoying yourself and doing the things that bring you pleasure and happiness. **** everything else.
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