Parents stressing that you have no friends..<.<

[oNecoOlazN]

..it's so annoying and it's not REALLY true?..well kinda ...
it's just that you feel bad already for your lack of social skillz and they just have to keep reminding you that you have NO friends and that yourLONELY..
I mean who saids i was lonely.. i like being this way...geez

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um...does this make sense?..o.o

 

[klytus]

Yes, it makes sense to feel annoyed. While my family has never done this, my peers have - which was almost equally annoying.

 

[mmmm]

whem i was in school i used to lie to my parents. it really works. i'd be like "no, i don't think i'll go to that huge party everyone's begging me to go to because there will probably be drugs." or some crap about not wanting to fall in with a bad crowd or putting my education first.

 

[Banvard]

..it's so annoying and it's not REALLY true?..well kinda ...
it's just that you feel bad already for your lack of social skillz and they just have to keep reminding you that you have NO friends and that yourLONELY..
I mean who saids i was lonely.. i like being this way...geez

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um...does this make sense?..o.o

I got this same argument from my parents, even my battleaxe of a grandmother. “Why don’t get a life, and be more like your brothers.” They had to stop saying this after I pointed out that they themselves have no social life, which is true. Maybe I am this way because of them.

 

[Richey]

I got this same argument from my parents, even my battleaxe of a grandmother. “Why don’t get a life, and be more like your brothers.” They had to stop saying this after I pointed out that they themselves have no social life, which is true. Maybe I am this way because of them.

in terms of conditioning yes! because we as people especially at a young age are very impressionable and influenced by our parents and the people around us and if they are passing on unhelpful habits to you then that proves that our environment growing up is vital to our state of mind and life in general.

your grandmother for instance clearly had trouble using words to communicate her opinion of your social life, instead she took the easy way and used frustration and guilt to express her opinion. then after she made her point did she try and engage you in a light hearted manner by trying to take positive steps to help you with conversation or strategies to make friends etc? she is decades older than you are and still hasn't learnt how to properly communicate and engage people in a proper way and its nothing more then laziness in conversation and affirmation, this comes from habit and never learning but most people end up that way because they never really understand the logistics of real communication and logic that helps the people around them.

by the way when people ask "why dont you have a life"? its actually a highly insulting question and or statement to make. its as if they are saying you don't exist, but because its usual protocol and has become normal to say IT people never really think about the REAL words they use to make a point.

she really means, i'd like to see you with a girlfriend or a close friend and perhaps you could go and join a club or find an activity every so often.

there is always room for change and if we can change the way we think about ourselves then we can make steps to better ourselves.

 

[Ashiene]

"wHY DID I GET A WEIRD SON?"

 

[recluse]

My parents have never encouraged me to have friends. My mother actually discouraged me. On one occasion a work friend came home with me because the plan was, we were going with workmates for our last day of work celebration but my mother told me that she didn't trust the guy. Thinking back i didn't really trust the guy anyway for instance he did drugs so maybe my mother helped me in a way.

 

[Fighter86]

My parents have never encouraged me to have friends. My mother actually discouraged me.

Same here. For awhile after I left school, I had a really close friend, sort of my only one, and we met regularly, like 3 or 4 times a week. Granted, she took advantage of me and treated me like I was her servant sometimes but we did go out and do quite a bit of fun things. And then, because she became so abusive, I decided to end our friendship once and for all so since then, I had zero friends. After that, I stayed home most of the time and if I did went out, I was always out alone, and I think this actually made my parents happy. They are overly protective and want to keep me by their side, and I know for sure my mom is happy I don't even have friends to go out with because I overheard her saying on the phone to a relative how its better now that I don't go out all the time and stay home mostly, can you believe I have such parents? Its such unhealthy behaviour to stay home all day and yet they like it that I'm home all day, they see no problem that I have no friends. Sometimes, I think I hate them, its a strong word, but I feel they could have helped me with the problems in my life, but they never, while I sat back and watched all my other peers being helped by their parents when being in similar situations as I am, I am just fed up with my parents really.

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

My mum hates the fact that I don't really leave the house... So she tries to get me to go out to public places with her. She knows I have SA, so she doesn't stress about the lack friends/social life thing, just the educational/employment related issues and physical health.

 

[zlench]

I get is why don't you get out there and act like more NORMAL person and be socialable. It is really annoying/

 

[music10]

People at school always go on about how I never socialize or try to talk to people. They always ask why are you so quiet. Sometimes though I just seem invisible to everyone though.

 

[cannotbefound]

my mom dont care about all this friend thing...good for me.