Parents ruining my life. They are retarded monkeys.

[Skullomania]

Sorry but I need to vent somewhere. We're cleaning out our house and I already told my parents (who are poor) that I'm having a yard sale. Thrift stores are doing well right now and I know I can sell this stuff. I'm so broke that I'm willing to put my anxiety aside and snap on a happy face and sell it all. However, my parents are stupid and you won't be surprised that they are poor.

All the scrap metal I had which I knew would have sold they gave it away to some lady so she could put it in HER yard sale and make money off of it. She obviously wouldn't be willing to have it if it wouldn't sell. They told me I wouldn't sell anything and that I can't do anything but I've proven more than once that I am more than capable of doing things BETTER than their retarded monkey faces. And it's funny because they buy cheap crap all the time why wouldn't someone else. They ruin any chance of me making money and keep me locked in this house. I hate them and want out of this hellhole. They seriously steal money from me, use it up, and prevent me from making any money. They are like a devolved species. I'm ashamed to be related to them.

I'm fed up with their behavior and negativity and they ruin my life. I'm crying right now. I've put up with this for years and no matter how hard I try to get away from their verbal abuse I just can't. I wish I were dead or my father in particular was dead. Anything is better than this sometimes. It feels like nothing will change and what sucks worse is that I TRY very hard to make it change and they reel me back in. It's all hopeless. HELP ME! They are ruining ANY chance of betterment for me. They are ruining my life!

 

[Thundercats]

I feel for you
that sounds horrible. I wish i could help you. Maybe you should speak to them about this.

 

[coyote]

time to make a tough choice

stay and put up with it

or leave and make your own way in the world

only you can take power over your own life

 

[Thundercats]

Like coyote said it's time to make a choice and take power over your life, even though this can seem hard

 

[Falkor]

Wow, Sorry to hear :[ I know it's hard, at the same time it feels like comfort zone, you can't escape from it, but at the other way around you'd wish you be out the situation right now...

So maybe you should live on your own? Just make your own money and have your own place.

Are you a person who is willing to help your parents no matter what? I mean, did you tell them they can sell your stuff, so they will get out of the financial probs and they will be happy again and the situation will be happily again?

I know this is frustrating, but right in the moment there's not much you can do, cuz it's their prob.there are some ways to make it easier, like talking about it.
If your parents are not giving you the chance to make your own money and don't agree to your point of view a lot of times, this can be very frustrating for you and you want to be heard.

Do your parents both work? You might tell one of them to search work or an extra job. So they can make more money! or search another job with more guaranteed that you guys with have a better living, cuz that sucks, i hope it will change for u!

Also, if you have money you can go out and have some quality time with fam, and that is a great thing for better times.

I feel a lot of angry emotion in your topic, if you feel this way, just drop it out and let them feel that you want it to change, and it's unfair, they should not sell your stuff, it's not doing you any good if they will take it away from u, stuff can be important.

Good luck.

 

[Skullomania]

First of all, thanks to everyone for the support and responses.

It got worse. Just an hour or so ago my dad went downstairs into the basement where I am storing personal things. I had forgiven him for the scrap metal but told him not to touch anything in the basement, as that included most of the material I intended to sell. I told him 3 times. And as usual, he brings that lady downstairs to look at it all. There was NO scrap metal there - what would she doing there. I couldn't handle it. I stormed down there and told them to stop. That everything was fair game outside the house, but not into my personal things!

I feel bad for somewhat scaring the lady away but that is a complete disrespect of MY things. No one listens to me. All dad did was yell at me, call me a loser, and say I couldn't sell anything (most likely due to my anxiety). It's funny because I'm trying to help them as dad is the only one working and mom isn't working anymore. I still can't find a job. I try to help them and they just don't care. They just say I can't do anything and are so unsupportive.

How the hell am I supposed to move out with no job and no money and parents that go as far as to steal the little amount I have in my bank account and go into my things and try to give them away for FREE? It's getting frustrating dealing with them and I'm reaching a breaking point. I know I'm supposed to take charge of my life but with all the bad things consistently happening to me preventing this I'm starting to lose hope. I've been trying for a few years.

 

[Skullomania]

My parents don't allow me to hang around any friends - not even the one friend I have. They say fun time is over. I'm in my twenties by the way and they still say I'm a child. I can't help it that I can't get a job right now. They talk as if it's my fault even though I try.

I seriously want to blow my parents brains away. Or my own. I hate them. They are ruining my life. I feel suffocated. As if I'm in a jail cell. They just want to marry me off to some guy so I can be his slave if they aren't controlling me 24/7.

I guarentee that if any of you guys had my parents you would feel the same.

I hate to play the blame game, but my parents are the reason I have social phobia and anxiety. They don't allow me to talk with other people. If I do they make me feel like sh*t about it for weeks. They get mad at me for everything. They make me want to kill myself. This is messed up but I imagine how wonderful it would be if they are dead. I would have true freedom if they would die and I'd be happy. I'd have my own life and not feel terrible every day.

 

[lacucaracha]

u should give your parents a break, my mum died when i was a kid and my dad is disabled from a stroke, ll they did was help an old lady by giving them stuff to sell. stop whingin about your parents, i really doubt they are the real reason ur unhappy

 

[Quiet Angel]

Why don't your parents allow you to talk with other people? Are they over protective? That sounds awful and I'm really sorry. I feel for you.

The best advice I can offer is to STAY STRONG even when times feel tough. It's okay to cry once in a while too because you need to express your pent up emotions. Just know: Change is on its way. You're bound to find some kind of change in your life. That may require time, though. Focus on finding a job right now... that will make your parents happy and will financially support everyone....

Your parents sound like they're having personal problems of their own. They sound jerk-ish but you probably shouldn't hate them. Just know they have their own problems, struggles, hardships, etc. and they don't know how to solve it. If they were more stable, I'm sure they would treat you better.

They love you and I'm sure you love them too but it's probably more hidden, right? I personally believe it's impossible for familes NOT to love another.

EDIT: I can relate when it comes to feeling "suffocated". I'm 22 but my parents give me a curfew. I must be home by 11pm because they believe a drunk driver will kill me or dangerous men at gas stations are waiting for me. They also choose which friends they want me to spend time with. They won't allow me to spend time with my best friend AT ALL because they believe she's a bad influence. One time, a group of my friends were traveling to New York City and they invited me. I was ECSTATIC. I had money! But they said: "NO. NYC is the most dangerous city in America. We will NOT allow it. My friends went without me and I cried. My fun opportunity... ruined.

 

[Quiet Angel]

Also... could you express how you feel to your parents in a kind way? :: It may be tempting to display anger but that may threaten them which may not accomplish the situation at all. You could tell them you love them and you hope everything will work out?

I really hope everything gets better for you guys!

 

[MsBuzzkillington]

I don't know if it helps but I am pretty sure you don't sell things to thrift stores, they only take donations. They sell things for really cheap, so even if they did buy things from you it wouldn't be much more than a couple dollars. Same goes for things at garage sales. I think the most you could sell something for at a garage sale is a few dollars. So even if your parents are kind of intruding in on your space and not letting you sell things, it's not as if they are stealing hundreds of dollars from you. You wouldn't be getting that much money.

I understand how it sucks that they aren't giving you any personal freedom and they aren't letting you try things that you want to try. Especially if you are so determined to get this done.

You should get a job. I know the market is a bit tough right now, but go out there and get a job. Push yourself to talk to different employers and fill out tons of applications online. A job is going to get you out of the house, not a random garage sale. A job will get you out of the house permanently and give you the most freedom to do what you want.

Again, I do understand how frustrating it is when parents do that. But you can't keep blaming them for being stuck in the house. It's your choice how far you are willing to go to get a job and get out. I mean you can get a job, set up your own bank account they don't have access too and then when you get out you can work on your SA and talking to more people. I know how it is to have an over protective parent and that contributes to/causes your SA, but you can get out and then worry about that stuff later.

 

[Skullomania]

Thank you for the support and I appreciate it.

Except for that one guy who said his mom died and I was whining. You can screw off. I'm sorry about what happened to your parents but that does not give you any right to chastise me. You at least probably had reasonable parents. Live in my household with my parents (who are negative, I am not making this up. My negativity has been rubbed off of them) I DARE YOU and you will see why I am this way. So yeah, thanks everyone except that one guy. I'm sure you would say "give your parents a break" to people whose parents beat them to death.

The only way for me to change is to get away from them and right now I've been trying for a long time and I just can't. It's not so much this yard sale situation, it's that they verbally abuse me (and sometimes slap me across the face if they're really mad) and tell me I am incapable of doing anything. Like they know I'm trying to get away from them for the time being and every time I have failed in life they pretty much laughed and said "I knew this would happen." Every time I had a dream they always said I couldn' do it. I did what they told me to do in college, but I was no good at that and they got so mad at me and constantly remind me of how I failed. Every time they get angry (which is every day - my parents hate each other) they eventually drag me into it and then when I don't pick a side they take it out on me. I tried getting a normal job and sent over 40 applications out and no callbacks. I just feel hopeless. I'm not being lazy and whining like some brat, I am TRYING!

I tried explaining stuff to my parents and they just don't care. They keep saying how things are in the country they are from and I just can't agree with that. That best thing to do is to marry my worthless self off and be done with me. It's just so weird. I just want my own life and I'm trying to get that but everything is crashing down. Every effort I tried blew up in my face. Including my interviews. At least I managed to get at least 2 or 3 interviews. Which I screwed up as well. I'm tired of them making me feel terrible about everything I do. I have to come home and then they ask. Oh how I dread it when they ask. I tell them I didn't get the job and they scream at me and give me dirty looks. Why can't they be happy for me just once?

Oh well, enough of me posting in this thread. I guess I should just keep sending out applications and hold everything in untill freedom comes. I'm trying to improve the way I talk to people so that I look a little more confident. But it's so difficult to appear confident when you have no confidence and self-esteem. I'll keep trying. I can't sit here and do nothing.

 

[Skullomania]

^^ I guess you're right. Sorry. Just the way he said it made it feel like he was belittling my situation. They are VERY negative people who scream and shout and throw things and hit each other and sometimes me too. I suppose it is due to the money problems and they fact that they have never had a happy marriage and do not agree on anything. But why they need to scream at each other and yell the things that they do and then drag me into it and take their anger out on me is another story. The one person that said they probably have their own personal problems is right. But they are doing nothing to help their own situations and there is little I can do with those that can't listen, nonetheless NEVER taking me seriously. I seem to have no voice in this house. I'm sick of being nothing but trash.

Oh well, I'm just going to keep trying untill I can get out of this dump. I can't be like this forever. I just can't be near my parents. It's come to the point where I know they are negatively affecting me and it's hard to be positive when you are surrounded by negative people who don't want to do anything about their own negativity and problems and drag you down with them. If you know the cause of the problem, find ways to remove it from your life untill you can change and become strong enough to face it again.

 

[coyote]

you could join the Marines

 

[Skullomania]

Hmm... its tough... I think sometimes families shout at each other just because they feel they can get away with it more than they can if they were to shout at somebody on the street. I often snap at my parents and be bad-tempered with them, but I know that none of my friends would EVER think I'm bad-tempered, because I hide it to them. Hmm just a possible explanation.

The atmosphere definitely sounds tense in your home but it could be caused by a whole load of things. Either way, its best for you if you can, and you will, make a break out of there. Focus on a way to get out and then make a new start.

Thank you very much. Yes, it's beyond tense. It has always been tense here but lately it's just been out of control. No one respects anyone.

I should probably mention that my dad talks rudely and screams at people outside our family too. It's just his way. Some people just have very bad traits that are just...not acceptable in society. Having social awkwardness and phobias is one thing but when abrasive behavior is there I don't know. I'm more scared of my dad than anything. I'll give my dad a break because he's had a hard life but after years he just has not changed his ways and he still treats me and my mother like garbage sometimes. [FECK he's screaming again I feel my blood vessels are going to pop] I don't think the family would appreciate it if I said all of their problems on here so I won't. I want to help but...I just can't. Some people are just long gone. I don't know what to do in helping them nor myself. I just have to leave here for a while or I won't be able to take it anymore.

 

[findnemo10]

I know it's hard. I can tell how upset and unhapppy you are. I've been there. My parents have a tendency to be controlling and living with them was very hard and depressing. I'm still suffering from SA because of how I lived with them. I hope you are able to find a way to move out and escape from their control. It's so tough, esp. when we are not feeling in control or brave enough to step out there. It's still a stuggle for me to get out of my comfort zone and just do it. Good luck to you.

 

[Section_31]

ohh man, i know how you feel. Not MY parents, but my wifes. Were both SO glad they live 7 horus away, and we both agreed if they move an hour closer, were moving an hour further.

Distance is good.

 

[Iluv]

Aw so sorry that sounds bad. Try some alternative ways to gain some cash without your parents approval, try selling some old electronics at the video game store, bring in bottles at the beer store, get a part-time job. I know it seemed like a terrible thing to do but I don't think your parents were doing it to completely ruin your life . Talking to them can always help too.

 

[findnemo10]

I hope things get better for you. I can feel your anger. I grew up with overprotective and controlling parents who wouldn't let me do anything. It's crippling. So I know how you feel.

 

[psych]

Move out. Work, pursue treatment on your own time. Try OTC stuff to help with anxiety.

I do feel sorry that u are stuck in that situation, but you will need to make efforts to affect change. Hang in there.