Optimism: A Curse?

Noooooo it's not a curse. It's the only way to live, otherwise you'll end up like my dad: sad, depressed and eventually not even able to recognize good things when they come your way!

selon said: ↑

Noooooo it's not a curse. It's the only way to live, otherwise you'll end up like my dad: sad, depressed and eventually not even able to recognize good things when they come your way!

That does not sound good. As miserable as I am, I still have a hop in my step and enjoy laughing and having a good time. I don't ever want to be that depressed.

False optimism is a curse.

ImNotMyIllness said: ↑

That does not sound good. As miserable as I am, I still have a hop in my step and enjoy laughing and having a good time. I don't ever want to be that depressed.

Yeah it is pretty sad to see and it took me quite a long time to see that I'm not like that and that I don't ever want to be like that. That's why I cherish my own sense of optimism and will defend it against all parental arguments :bat:

ImNotMyIllness said: ↑

Do you think being optimistic can be a curse? In my situation, I would definitely say, YES! If you would have told me ten years ago where I would be in life, I would have laughed! There would be no way in hell, I would have ever allowed myself to get to where I'm at. NO WAY!! NEVER!

Well, I did and I'm here in my current situation. I always thought somehow things would just work out.

.....They didn't! :sad:

Do you think you would have been in a better place today if you would have been pessimistic?

Pacific_Loner said: ↑

Do you think you would have been in a better place today if you would have been pessimistic?

That's a good way of putting it.....No, I don't.

I get what you are saying, maybe curse isn't the right word. But I was just thinking about this not too long ago - about how too much optimism isn't always good. Like it doesn't allow you to adequately deal with the issue; you just believe it will all work out; Magic. Whereas the realist would have taken the necessary steps.

Times when I've been quite pessimistic/worried about a problem; I actually work harder, apply myself in a way that leads to good things. When I've been overly optimistic, it's often led to failure. I don't know how that works. Maybe some people are fueled by positive thoughts/emotions and others are fueled by the more negative. My best performnace (in a school/uni setting) was when I was really angry about some prior disappointment.

Guess it's different for everyone.

For me optimism makes me ignore/ fail to look at things properly.

But when optimism is good is when I'm in that really deep dark place, where you do need hope or else.

ImNotMyIllness said: ↑

Do you think being optimistic can be a curse? In my situation, I would definitely say, YES! If you would have told me ten years ago where I would be in life, I would have laughed! There would be no way in hell, I would have ever allowed myself to get to where I'm at. NO WAY!! NEVER!

Well, I did and I'm here in my current situation. I always thought somehow things would just work out.

.....They didn't! :sad:

I would love to hear everyones personal views and experiences on the topic.

I feel the same way, although Im happier with my job nowadays with working for an airline

I don't think it's a curse. It keeps me going, what little optimism I have nowadays does anyway.

I would post on this thread if I thought anyone would read it.

hoddesdon said: ↑

I would post on this thread if I thought anyone would read it.

I'll read it. 🙂

ImNotMyIllness said: ↑

I'll read it. 🙂

You already did. 🤭