Online-Long Distance Relationships

[Koime]

I did it and it ended a year ago and lasted almost 2 years and It went well, but it was difficult for us to meet and I guess she just got bored of a guy like me and being on the computer all the time? She always claimed to be super shy but I knew that was a total lie because she had a bunch of friends, didn't care about being rude to anyone, and always went to hang out with people. I just don't think you can really be that shy if you're like that.

 

[Hellhound]

Doesnt work. At all. It ends up being nothing more than a fantasy. Find someone in the real world.

^ Implying that people online aren't real people.

Long distance relationships can fail just as much as "real world" relationships.

 

[Hellhound]

I'm in a long distance relationship right now, and I wouldn't recommend to get into one with someone not totally worth it, or without meeting in the flesh at least sometime and having some sort of long term plan. You can't really date "casually" long distance, it's an all or nothing sort of deal, and you have to be willing to make that commitment.

I really wouldn't recommend going into one without some sort of plan of who could move when, looking to the future should be done in every relationship but especially long distance ones.

In summary, it sucks but some people are worth waiting for.

I completely agree on this.

 

[kilojoule]

I don't want to date anybody long disstance, although I've wanted to break that rule. I just think it's too impossible for me, especially living in an isolated country.

I'm not against it, as it's obviously worked for others.

Yup yup yup

 

[Emerald_]

Doesnt work. At all. It ends up being nothing more than a fantasy. Find someone in the real world.

I agree if there are no actual intentions of meeting. More hassle than it's worth.

 

[twiggle]

I'm sure it can work, but an online relationship is not something I'd wish to have.

Long-distance I think can work if you've met already.

Just my personal opinion.

 

[Newtype]

^ yeah, as long as you are prepared to meet.

^^^That^^^

 

[Tuukka40]

I met my current girlfriend online. We knew each other for 13 months, were in a relationship for 6 months before meeting. Lived a 24 hour car ride away. We've been together in person for 4 months now. I live 2 hours away and we see each other twice a week now.

I was worried about us not getting along in person as we did online or on the phone. But we get along much better in person. So if we break up now it will be unrelated to us meeting online.

IMO I lucked out. Could have really gotten hurt at any point from the fact we met online.

But it's not impossible, that's for sure.

 

[takeheart]

Well it works for some! I have tried that but I have failed and I’m glad I failed because why would you want an online relationship? I want a physical relationship where the person lives close to me not living on the other side of the damn world!

 

[Pookah]

^ One of the people has to eventually move to be with the other it won't work any other way.

 

[outofthisworld]

Hi all I'm new here...
Online relationship can work but it's really hard work, I met someone 4 years ago, was on an online long term for 3 years, I traveled to the states and lived with her for 5 months and sadly didn't work now.

Due to my S.A it's hard for me to go out and meet somebody and date but I have no issues meeting people online, so I feel more comfortable doing online first that Nobody ever understand me and the only place I can find people that understands me are people from random places.
I'm dating somebody else at the moment for 2 months. but it's hard, but at least she understands my problems.

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

Relationships are hard. Long distance ones are harder. Way harder. I am in a long distance relationship right now, and if it ended, I would never do something like that again.

 

[AGR]

I would if I thought that she was kind and understanding,different than other people and I liked her and she me,its not like I am missing out stuff in real life,"real life" girls dont really interest me usually.

 

[Unspoken]

If two people can handle it emotionally and financially, then good for them. People seem to underestimate it, though, especially when it comes to how rarely they'll be able to have any kind of physical affection. I've seen plenty stories of people who turned an online relationship into an offline one.

 

[lauraelena43]

I remember having one, it actually was nice. Texted and skyped all the time and He was a sweet guy. Only problem was he had baggage with a previous relationship. He pretty much lived and moved for a girl and they had a bunch of cats that were like their kids. I eventually ended it because I knew he had to work that out first.

 

[knowledgeofself]

i've spoken with some great people on-line, a couple have been from america and while we get along really well it feels just like ,what do we do next? neither of us have the money to meet up in real life so it just feels futile and any spark fizzles out.

 

[TailsAlone]

I had one of these a while back. Neither of us was ready for a real relationship, we just wanted to believe we were. We managed to meet a few times, but it didn't work out. We broke it off a few years ago. That was my last relationship. I don't find myself wanting a new one, either...

 

[GhastlyCC]

I tried it a few years ago.
We lived a few states apart(California-Colorado) and despite our desire to meet each other in person one day.
It never happened(Partly because we were too young to travel to another state to meet somebody. lol)
And the whole relationship kind of just faded(Though,I still very much miss talking to her) and we stopped talking completely.
Have had a sour feelings towards the idea of long distance relationships since then.

I've had chances to have more of those types of relationships since then.
But I tend to just kind of distance myself from people that I feel I'm developing feelings for online now.

I think they can work though.
I've seen them work.

 

[OceanMist]

What do you think? What if you meet someone online then end up dating long-term in-person?

For me this would be impossible. I have about $1000 in my bank work about 12 hours a week at a 8$ an hour job. Usually women expect the man to "come to them" anyway, so there is no way I'd do that considering my financial situation.

Maybe if she moved in with me at an apt. in my town in could work, but I just don't see how any woman that is attractive to me would ever do that from a long distance. Most of the women I've met on the internet weren't my type.

In my opinion, any woman that is attractive doesn't go on the internet and agree to move to a guy's place who lives extremely far away just based off of meeting him online.

I don't like it for a multitude of reasons.

Another good reason is that I've been on 10+ dates with women through online dating, and many women are different in person than they are on the internet or through texting. It's so easy to wear a mask online, or even tweak your profile picture.

Gosh, I remember this date with this one girl that was disastrous. We got along fine online and she sounded normal, then we met in person and she was so weird and we had nothing to say. Oh yeah, and she looked nothing like her profile picture. I had another instance that was similar to that too.

I hate bars, but I am actually trying the bar thing now just because I'm so tired of online dating and being disappointed with it. At least I can see what a woman looks like from head to toe in a bar before possibly going on a date with her as opposed to looking at a profile picture where a woman just shows her face and hides her body. And i can immediately converse with her in person as opposed to typing words on a computer. I am aware that approaching a woman in a bar is wayyyy harder than online.

I just know that typing and texting can be totally different than talking in person.

Sorry this turned into a rant about online dating. That just sort of happened. I do know that others have had success with it, I don't mean to hate.

 

[A friend]

I don't believe in online dating due to a disturbing thing I found out about a long time ago.

There was a situation two years ago on youtube where a teenager was having an online relationship with someone he thought was a 16 year old girl. He grew to love her and revealed where he lived, and...

...A few sneaky, yet intelligent individuals one of my friends knows of, found out that this was actually a middle-aged man playing a trick on him.

-_-

So yeah, that's why online dating isn't worth it. Your so-called lover could actually be an impostor messing with you.