Oh I remember this one like it was yesterday. When I was 10 I had a friend with the most beautiful blue eyes, and people would always tell her what a pretty girl she was, which never bothered me because I thought so too. On one occasion though, a neighboor (probably in his early 20's back then) was telling her how beautiful she was gonna be when she grows up, and then he turned to me and said: "You? I can tell you're gonna be ugly!" Now, the comment didn't mean much at the time, because I was a kid.. but when I did grow up, I'd look in the mirror and wonder if he was right.
one comment which has affected your confidence
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Phoenixx
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This following sort of comment wasn't directed at me, but it still hurts to think there's people out there like that...
Today in English class, we had to do presentations about the 1960s. Well, one of my friends had to do a presentation about mental disorders and treatments in the '60s (really interesting!). Anyway, one of the "mental disorders" on there happened to be anxiety disorders (including SA) and agoraphobia. One girl asks, "What's agoraphobia?" My friend explained exactly what it was (including SA), fearing crowds, going out in public, approaching people, etc. and this girl actually laughed. She laughed and through laughing she says "How can someone be like that?" I don't think I've ever felt more hurt in my life, even though the comment wasn't even directed to me. I honestly wanted to get up and hit the girl for just laughing like that. I can't believe there's actually people out there that think it's all a joke...
Today in English class, we had to do presentations about the 1960s. Well, one of my friends had to do a presentation about mental disorders and treatments in the '60s (really interesting!). Anyway, one of the "mental disorders" on there happened to be anxiety disorders (including SA) and agoraphobia. One girl asks, "What's agoraphobia?" My friend explained exactly what it was (including SA), fearing crowds, going out in public, approaching people, etc. and this girl actually laughed. She laughed and through laughing she says "How can someone be like that?" I don't think I've ever felt more hurt in my life, even though the comment wasn't even directed to me. I honestly wanted to get up and hit the girl for just laughing like that. I can't believe there's actually people out there that think it's all a joke...
In my senior year, one of our classes foreign exchange students said two things to me at two separate times that I still remember. Once she hugged me and said I was fat. Then, on Senior Night, she said I was dressed like an old woman. Neither of those statements are really false (the outfit I had on wasn't youthful at all as I had to go on stage to accept an award and I used my wardrobe to hide every inch of skin), but they've always stuck with me. It might be that I was so surprised that she would talk so candidly and that she didn't know that Americans generally don't say things like that to each other unless there are some mixed feelings involved. I was just blindsided, I guess.
StandingJelly
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A friend, whom I was quiet close to at the time, said something like "You are like a wall"
From that moment onwards, I couldn't think of anything to say to other friends even when I usually could [this awareness of myself, just took over brain's social processes] , and everything started getting awkward and I started to lose friends. It was like a curse.
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I think subconsciously this reminds me of the time when I was 2 years of age where both my parents left me for a long period of time for work, and I was left with some relatives that didn't really put much attention on me. I heard that I spent most of the time staring at the wall back then.
From that moment onwards, I couldn't think of anything to say to other friends even when I usually could [this awareness of myself, just took over brain's social processes] , and everything started getting awkward and I started to lose friends. It was like a curse.
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I think subconsciously this reminds me of the time when I was 2 years of age where both my parents left me for a long period of time for work, and I was left with some relatives that didn't really put much attention on me. I heard that I spent most of the time staring at the wall back then.
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My Mum walking around the house sarcastically singing the line: "I only have one son". Btw, my brother is my only sibling.
bitingthepea
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i said to my boss is there anything i can do ?
n he said yes you can shut up, all you ever do is talk.
what a sarcastic comment!! felt like kneeing him VERY HARD in the balls (as i never talk unless spoken to)
n he said yes you can shut up, all you ever do is talk.
what a sarcastic comment!! felt like kneeing him VERY HARD in the balls (as i never talk unless spoken to)
Foxie913
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One time my mother and I were in a shopping mall and we walked past these three guys and as I past them they looked at me and one of them said "Yuck" as if to say "Yuck she's ugly". :
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That happened seven years ago and it still affects my confidence/self-esteem to this day. I think his shallow attitude makes HIM ugly.
:That happened seven years ago and it still affects my confidence/self-esteem to this day. I think his shallow attitude makes HIM ugly.
StandingJelly
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I had a friend like that ;'(
okcancel
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At a birthday party when I was about 10, we were going inside a couch and after I came out the birthday girl said (trying to be funny) "If she can fit, then any of us can!" no one laughed...we all just kinda stood there, and I felt like scratching her eyes out. She was a terrible friend, but I considered her my best friend :/ she was a bully.
Then another time when I was about 15 I walked out of a store and there were these girls and I held the door open for one of them and she said, "White girl" in a very nasty voice. Made me feel terrible.
And another one was a long long time ago, and I was singing a song (Complicated by Avril Lavigne) with my sister and a friend of ours and the friend said, "That's not what it says." I've never had the confidence to sing in front of anyone ever again.
Then another time when I was about 15 I walked out of a store and there were these girls and I held the door open for one of them and she said, "White girl" in a very nasty voice. Made me feel terrible.
And another one was a long long time ago, and I was singing a song (Complicated by Avril Lavigne
) with my sister and a friend of ours and the friend said, "That's not what it says." I've never had the confidence to sing in front of anyone ever again.
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GhoulsNightOut
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Same here. I just remember people making me feel stupid back in high school.
twiggle
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I hope you got rid of them.
What she did will always hurt me and its pretty much where the SA started but the truth is she's a pathetic person (moreso than me
) and if ever I see her out now I just laugh at her, because she acts all confident but I know how pathetic she really is as she treats people like rubbish, if she feels she can get away with it.
LonelyWonders
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I agree, i'm ignored often in my school/home/town.. I actually wish they'd insult me..