one comment which has affected your confidence

[bsebring]

Sounds like someone who deserves something deeply unpleasant by way of payback somewhere down the line. But I'm sure bsebring is far too nice a person to even consider anything like that.

aww thanks the thing is I didn't say anything bad to him. I just said (considering he was ignoring me) I didn't think he was ready for a serious relationship, and I was. Then I told him I'm too old for high school games and I think we should go our separate ways. I even went as far as saying one day he'll have the amazing girlfriend that he deserves but I'm just not the one.

I guess that's one bittersweet thing about having SA, I'll never loose my cool in a hostel situation.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

"You have no life." Who was my "best" friend at the time.

 

[Wishmaster]

something like... "you never talk and you will never have any friends because of how you act... oh really? name ten of them [friends]."

oh middle school... i've blocked a lot of it out

 

[deleted user 1]

Having been told that I should never have been born, because I was a mistake cut pretty deep.

From someone outside of the family? A lot. I received a lot of racial verbal attacks, purely because I was from South Africa. That affected me a lot, though not in terms of confidence, but subconsciously it affected how I identified with myself and was expressed through a lot of obsessive compulsive behaviour.

 

[Illusions]

Reading all these bad comments makes me sad. I seriously can't believe people have the heart to say stuff like this.

 

[schist]

I remember having people ask me to do that when I was younger, around middle school. Naming friends is a horrible thing to ask someone to do.

Especially when your so-called "friends" backpedal and say they don't really like you at all.

Happened to me many a time back in high school.

 

[AGR]

"Fat Arse!" - said by a horrible group of boys (Feb 2010)
"How big is your nose? It's huge!" - said on msn by a friend of a friend when I was on webcam. (2007?)
"You're my chubby friend." - said by my old best friend. (2008)

There's more, but those stuck with me.

haha,I saw your album pictures, they couldnt be more wrong.

 

[metaphor99]

whatkatiedid: Um, yeah, I have to agree with Adrox, and that's just by looking at your avatar. Whoever said those things has no idea what they're talking about.

 

[Dronee]

whatkatiedid: Um, yeah, I have to agree with Adrox, and that's just by looking at your avatar. Whoever said those things has no idea what they're talking about.

I second this...

 

[Phoenixx]

There's a lot of things that have been said to me that have really hurt my confidence. A few that really stand out to me are:

"No wonder you don't have a boyfriend. No one wants to put up with you." - Said by my own mother

"Ew! Look at that ugly blonde girl!" - Someone actually yelled that about me in public. I didn't think it was me at first until I looked around and saw that I was the only blonde there

"You're such a problem." - Also said by my mother

"You're too fat to sit here." - Said by a "friend" of mine in middle school

“Well we all know that by the time you’re 30 you’re just going to be anti-social and stay in your house all the time.” - And yet again, said by my mom. This comment actually happened last night.

 

[Dronee]

There's a lot of things that have been said to me that have really hurt my confidence. A few that really stand out to me are:

"No wonder you don't have a boyfriend. No one wants to put up with you." - Said by my own mother

"Ew! Look at that ugly blonde girl!" - Someone actually yelled that about me in public. I didn't think it was me at first until I looked around and saw that I was the only blonde there

"You're such a problem." - Also said by my mother

"You're too fat to sit here." - Said by a "friend" of mine in middle school

“Well we all know that by the time you’re 30 you’re just going to be anti-social and stay in your house all the time.” - And yet again, said by my mom. This comment actually happened last night.

That's horrible... I'm very sorry to hear that. It's unfortunate that family.. the people who are supposed to support us are often the ones who hurt us the most.

 

[JamesSmith]

A girl told me the first second she met me that I never get girlfriends and never will get a girlfriend. I'm not gonna lie, that one got to me for years. She's been right for the most part. I've only had one g/f and that was a long time ago.

My mom told me I was a worthless bum a while back.

My co-workers told me I'd never have a g/f or never make any friends. I never did make friends with any of them.

Plus there are names I've been called that I actually figured out I can make a list of. Basically just think of any unmasculine degrading thing you can call a shy guy and say it, I've probably been called it.

 

[BlueDays]

"She is even more neurotic then you"....Funny, I did not even consider myself "neurotic" until my mother made that comment when I was young::

"Your useless"..."You can't do anything right!"...my one and only ex.

 

[Smurfette]

FIRST this is a GREAT thread!!!
SECOND I have too many things to share and it sux
THIRD why do ppl like us even give a care what ppl say or think about us anyway!!!

 

[midwifery&moldavite]

Had to live with my cousin being a 5'11 model, me being a 5'1 munchkin.

One guy in high school came up to me once and said: "You wanna know what the difference between you and [your cousin] is? She's hot and your NOT!!!

Won't ever forget that one...

 

[choochoocharlee]

about 6 or so years ago in high school this girl who i considered to be my closest friend at the time said to MY boyfriend "don't leave me with her, she doesn't talk" i was completely taken aback by that comment as she was pretty much the only one i was actually having proper conversations with. it was like, well if you're the only person i can sort of talk to and you still think that then whats the point in even trying to talk to people. still sneaks into my thoughts quite often.

 

[Snowdrop]

In school, I was paired up with a boy in English class for some project in year 9 when we were 14ish. I thought he was ok. Afterwards my friend who is in the same tutor as him came up to me and told me how during tutor he was b*tching about me even though I had never done anything to him. It was simply childish but I still let it affect me.
He said all I ever say is " umm, errr, dunno" I guess I wasn't talkative when we were paired up but still... That affected my confidence - it was this more than anything that gave me that extra belief that I was rubbish at any conversation and that I was a boring person.
It didn't help that later in the year we went on a school trip to France and we had a disco there, we were doing the hokey pokey lol and he again somehow ended up behind me and he didn't want to put his hands on my hips, he made a face to the teacher. I know this because the teacher said "Oh come on" to him as if to say I wasn't that bad...I sure felt I was that bad.
These are only a couple out of several incidents that made my self esteem plummet below ground level.

 

[EscapeArtist]

about 6 or so years ago in high school this girl who i considered to be my closest friend at the time said to MY boyfriend "don't leave me with her, she doesn't talk" i was completely taken aback by that comment as she was pretty much the only one i was actually having proper conversations with. it was like, well if you're the only person i can sort of talk to and you still think that then whats the point in even trying to talk to people. still sneaks into my thoughts quite often.

Cruel. Amazing, and almost revolting, how those little lines from so long ago can nag at us

 

[forksandspoons]

I was eating lunch in High School, before I had my SA. I don't even remember what I said, but my "friend" interrupted and said "SHUT UP ALREADY! NOBODY LIKES YOU!" I was just shocked. I looked at my other friends and they just didn't say anything. Didn't want to get involved. That has stuck with me since it happened. It led to me second guessing every single joke I think up. I no longer have any confidence when trying to be funny.

 

[PurpleOne]

Ugly, retarded, lots of people always laugh at me for no reason,

My mother called me a bitch when i was a little girl. I realize I was only being a kid. She also to me to "go to hell" when i was 9. All of the rest of my siblings have done worst and she never said anything harsh to them.

One time when my father told me to get him a beer I pouted because I was a little then all of sudden he called me a bitch and a hoe. After that I lost respect for him because he really did wanted to call me that. I was 14 a the time.

Back in elementary school this librarian said to me "you hard-headed little ugly girl" for whatever i done back then.

I can write a book on this if i wanted to. Those are just a few.