one comment which has affected your confidence

[DanFC]

I think everyone gets the vibe from me that if they say anything mean I'd tear a new hole in them right then and there. However, I did see something in TV several years ago that affected me greatly.

It was some comedian, maybe Daniel Tosh, but he said something along the lines of "ugly people are like pineapples; they're ugly on the outside and sweet on the inside" or something like that. And from then on I decided that I would no longer be a sweet guy. I left that behind with high school.

 

[EasySkanking]

^Hmm, perhaps I should stop being a "sweet" guy, maybe then I'll be better off. I'll try it out . though I don't think I can because of my make-up

 

[lunaticbinge]

^Hmm, perhaps I should stop being a "sweet" guy, maybe then I'll be better off. I'll try it out . though I don't think I can because of my make-up

It's difficult to look like a hard ass if you're using make-up.

 

[EasySkanking]

rofl xD Perhaps I'll take it off then..

About this thread, there's so many comments that have affected my confidence to remember them all. I only remember the "special" ones, too bad they're very rare to remember clearly :/. For example, whenever a female gives me a physical compliment, my confidence goes through the roof (even if only temporarily)

 

[BlackPuma]

^Hmm, perhaps I should stop being a "sweet" guy, maybe then I'll be better off. I'll try it out . though I don't think I can because of my make-up

NoooOoooOo. D:

Stay sweet, that's one of the great things about you. C:

 

[sanitariumcalls]

"Maybe you should stop being friends with skinny people, it just makes you look fatter"

 

[DanFC]

^Hmm, perhaps I should stop being a "sweet" guy, maybe then I'll be better off. I'll try it out . though I don't think I can because of my make-up

It doesn't help in the friends department XD But at least I get respect now, whatever that's worth.

 

[Dronee]

"Maybe you should stop being friends with skinny people, it just makes you look fatter"

ugh... I hope that wasn't a friend who said that... That's pretty nasty.

 

[gazelle]

I've had many positive and negative comments...a negative comment I remember goes back to high school when one of my classmates told me
"it's not good being quiet and depressed , if you stay like that no one's ever gonna marry you!"
lol It sounds kinda funny to me now but it was quite harsh on me back then the first time heard it.
A good comment I remember is when I was getting off the plane in Switzerland in a vacation . I was thanking the airplane crew like all the other poeple as I was getting out of the plane when the pilot told me "stay with us!" making a friendly smile at me.

 

[slowmotiondaydream]

i enjoy reading this thread. it really takes you back to the old days and think how it all started really.
mine is.. it was a sporting event. i was around 15, i won 2nd place for something. we were on the 1st 2nd 3rd standing thing. a younger boy was putting the medal around the 3rd participants neck and kissed her on the cheek. the person that was standing in 3rd looked at the person standing in 1st pointed and laughed at me. i had acne and didnt look quite feminine in my sport clothing *sigh it haunts me to this day

 

[CHAKRAPOINT]

my math teacher shouted out when i answered a question " HE ACTUALLY TALKS!!!!

 

[Felgen]

teachers don't actually try to insult their students like in the way kids do. It's called "constructive criticism" thats all that teachers do.

There were plenty of passive-aggressive middle aged-to-old spinsters who deliberately bullied boys in my middle school.

 

[Outer_Senshi]

"OMG what's with your face ?"

I had a lot of problems with my looks (acne) back there and I didn't want to go out because of my neighbours. My face looked better only when I was 17 or 18 years old.

 

[Felgen]

i've never seen it or heard it here in America, although i have heard of teachers that were pedophiles and being put away for molestation, child porn, and statutory rape.

A lot of elementary and middle school teachers here are spinsters aged 40 and over.

 

[scarednotshy]

my ex husbands mother said to him behind my back years ago "she's got the personality of a dead car battery."

still hurts.

 

[Outer_Senshi]

That's really a mean thing to be said to someone, not just you.

 

[scarednotshy]

for me it was never what somebody said, but what they didn't, e.g. when, in attempted conversation, somebody just laughs and walks away. don't know if you've ever had that, but it really is a brain ****- they not only make you feel bad but leave you to work out exactly why it is you should be feeling bad.

happens to me all the time. like 'oh, you're saying something? how boring... oh let me walk around you and talk to this important person' and right in the middle of you're sentence leaving you feeling like a flat tire strewn on the side of the road (or something in that category, haha)::::

 

[scarednotshy]

oh yeah, i just remembered this one cuz people here are talking about parental cruelty: when I was talking to my mother years ago about voting she said, "YOU vote??????" like i'm such a brainless idiot without one ounce of any intelligent cognitive process. i realize now more than ever how little that family thought of me on some levels (grew up in a foster home from the age of 8 mos.)

 

[Gerdje]

Sorry for not fitting in with a comment, more of a well hidden trauma which (without my knowledge then) was a the root of my confidence collapse, when I was in 14 years old class, boys&girls, and I even had a bunch of girls having an eye on me, I really felt confident, until one day my mother knocked on the class door, teacher opened it, and there was my mother crying about the horrible situation at home, serious fights between my parents, my father was alcoholic and physically aggressive, day in, day out, I've saw bloody fights and abuse at home which I always tried to hide at school in fear of being seen as "a special case", from that day, my mask fell off, all eyes from my schoolmates were on me, and from that day I realised I lost the state of fitting in with my schoolmates, and student suddenly somehow started treating me as some kind of victim, but I didn't wanted that, I wanted to stay a part of them, but all of a sudden I felt like being treated "special", no longer that guy being confident and playing soccer during the pauzes, but more watched, I knew the students meant it good for me, they did not blame me for anything, or bully me, but suddenly I felt like "a special case".

Sorry, that's not a comment, I really hated the comments I got after that, I didn't want other students feel pity about me, I wanted to stay part of them, no matter what my house situation was.

 

[vichyssoise]

Blah, just as a random thing: we had something like sex ed at school and some popular girls told me to leave the classroom because it's not like I would ever get to use the advice that we were hearing and it's not like I would ever have a boyfriend or have sex. Turned out to be wrong, by the way.

Oh, and of course strangers and semi-strangers just randomly calling me fat (I lost 20 pounds now, but still).