Now i have proof strangers dont like me

[greggy]

Hey beautiful peeps, so had a rather servere panic anxiety attack today and it made me realise i can no longer pretent everything is ok hence me making a appearance here, basicly there is a indian lady that works in my local
store who im pretty sure dislikes me for no reason, two months ago i walked in a picked up somthing then took it to the register where she was serving, i said hello she said nothing at all then after she was finished with me i started to walk out and i heard her say hello to the guy behind me so i went home went to my room and went to bed pulled the covers over my head and tried to imagin i was far away where no one could hurt me, the crazy thing is she did the exact same thing to me again today, i must either be so ugly that people are instantly put
off, or i look angry so they think i dont liie them?? Anyhow im pretty much fed up with my crap cursed life.

 

[TreeBones]

I don't think this is proof that strangers don't like you, I think this is just an example of a very rude, perhaps prejudice person.
You shouldn't let this lady make you feel like crap.

 

[YellowBird]

She seems like a ****,don't feel bad about people like that,it's their fault not yours.

 

[Earthcircle]

Even people who like me, don't like me. What I mean is, people who are minimally polite are really just being minimally polite. When I try to get close, they push me away.

 

[jaim38]

Hey there, you're not alone. I also experiences situations like this in public. The cashier/server would be really nice to another person but neutral or didn't care about me. I'm not sure why, but I wouldn't take it too personally. I'm sure you haven't done anything to piss people off, so don't blame yourself for it.

 

[greggy]

Thanks guys for your kind help here, i feel muchbetter now and encouraged that there are people that feel the same as me and suffer the same as me,

 

[Hellhound]

It's that particular case only. It doesn't mean all strangers are going to be rude.

 

[jc972]

Hey beautiful peeps, so had a rather servere panic anxiety attack today and it made me realise i can no longer pretent everything is ok hence me making a appearance here, basicly there is a indian lady that works in my local
store who im pretty sure dislikes me for no reason, two months ago i walked in a picked up somthing then took it to the register where she was serving, i said hello she said nothing at all then after she was finished with me i started to walk out and i heard her say hello to the guy behind me so i went home went to my room and went to bed pulled the covers over my head and tried to imagin i was far away where no one could hurt me, the crazy thing is she did the exact same thing to me again today, i must either be so ugly that people are instantly put
off, or i look angry so they think i dont liie them?? Anyhow im pretty much fed up with my crap cursed life.

Next time i went there i'd make it a point to be rude to her.

Example: "thanks for shopping with us" i'd reply with "go to hell". As a final injustice, i'd probably spit in the floor too.

I hate rude/descrimunatory people.

 

[PugofCrydee]

Seriously mate, these people are actually doing you a favour.
They are letting you know straight up that you don't want them as friends or even waste your time saying hi to them.
One awesome thing you are doing though, is making the effort to say hello.
That's how small talk starts and can lead onto making simple things in life (such as going to the shops) more enjoyable.
Ok, that old cow is the wrong person to be saying hi to.
So no longer say it to her. No huge loss there is it? ��

But do keep saying hi to others.
If I was serving you, I would have been a lot friendlier.

 

[PugofCrydee]

Oh and by the way , I agree with jc972.
Next time you are there and the old cow speaks, just be condescending to her.

 

[greggy]

Seriously mate, these people are actually doing you a favour.
They are letting you know straight up that you don't want them as friends or even waste your time saying hi to them.
One awesome thing you are doing though, is making the effort to say hello.
That's how small talk starts and can lead onto making simple things in life (such as going to the shops) more enjoyable.
Ok, that old cow is the wrong person to be saying hi to.
So no longer say it to her. No huge loss there is it? ��
D
But do keep saying hi to others.
If I was serving you, I would have been a lot friendlier.

Very true mate, but unfortunitly i am a person who need acceptance and validation from all people, that's why wgen some lowlife is bad with me they instantly make me feel worthless, i wish i could just say screw you! But i cant, i just have to use the fast check out machine from now on, well for one thing is more polite then that old cow!! It even says thank you for shopping here!! I might just walkpass her and say you could learn from your machine bitch! Lol

 

[Hero]

Greggy.

This sounds exceptionally poor customer service. If I didn't greet customers properly, I would get in a lot of trouble. But if you experience anxiety, coupled with low self esteem, this will reinforce it. Also, she may hate her job, and communicate this bad impression unconsciously.

The lady is not worth your thoughts. Some people are too thick to understand an anxious or afraid looking face like yours that you might be projecting. She might see it as I-don't-like-you, even if that's not what you're thinking. It sounds like you're out looking for proof that people don't like you, so you will be more observant in the negative. Some people can only see in black and white, they don't think like we can do. She might even have anxiety herself which is the funny thing!

Spend your worry time or improving yourself, and not think about this. I find a constructive distraction helps, like fitness, hobbies etc.

And in relation to proof strangers dont like you, I like you, everyone else on this forum likes you, so you made a good impression on us!

 

[greggy]

Greggy.

This sounds exceptionally poor customer service. If I didn't greet customers properly, I would get in a lot of trouble. But if you experience anxiety, coupled with low self esteem, this will reinforce it. Also, she may hate her job, and communicate this bad impression unconsciously.

The lady is not worth your thoughts. Some people are too thick to understand an anxious or afraid looking face like yours that you might be projecting. She might see it as I-don't-like-you, even if that's not what you're thinking. It sounds like you're out looking for proof that people don't like you, so you will be more observant in the negative. Some people can only see in black and white, they don't think like we can do. She might even have anxiety herself which is the funny thing!

Spend your worry time or improving yourself, and not think about this. I find a constructive distraction helps, like fitness, hobbies etc.

And in relation to proof strangers dont like you, I like you, everyone else on this forum likes you, so you made a good impression on us!

Thanks for the good advise hero! Somthing you said really made me reasise something as depressing as it is i think my face is to blame lol! I think i must look so depressed when i look at people they instantly think negatively towards me, can someone help me change my face?? Lol! Shall i upload a picture of my ugly face?

 

[greggy]

Scary?

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

I'm jealous of your jawline and bone structure. :sad:

 

[Shymom]

I agree with someone that it sounds like prejudice. I'm a white person in a strong Hispanic community. The same thing has happened to me. I know it sucks. :sad:

 

[Kiwong]

I always use the auto checkout. She is polite and business like.

 

[Hellhound]

Next time i went there i'd make it a point to be rude to her.

Example: "thanks for shopping with us" i'd reply with "go to hell". As a final injustice, i'd probably spit in the floor too.

I hate rude/descrimunatory people.

That'd be just as rude, if not more :|

Don't stoop down to their level, people.

 

[cellophane]

Hi

I'm new here so I hope this is going to be helpful for a first post.

I have the same problem. I sometimes think I'm altogether invisible to some people, but I realized there is more to it. Usually, some people just don't bother to reply to my "hi." Last year, however, one of the customer service people at a local store I frequent gathered his courage and asked me (when I greeted him) "why are you so angry all the time?" It was a shock to me really. I told a friend and she agreed that I come off as hostile to strangers, in the way I talk and my whole demeanor.

I was curious, so I recorded myself talking to different strangers; when I listened to the recordings I could understand better what people were talking about. To me it sounded like I'm different levels of anxious and/or defensive, but sometimes others don't recognize "anxious" in your voice and think it's actually hostility or aggressiveness. And I totally understand why people won't say "hi" to a person they think is angry. Now I'm more mindful of the way I talk and school my expression when around people who don't know how awkward I am.

I'm especially anxious around people who are different than I am (race, sex, socioeconomic status, etc). If it's true for you too, it might explain the "Indian lady" situation." It explained why my friends used to tell me all through college that the opposite sex is intimidated by me and I need to "tone it down" a little.

 

[mixedupgirl]

Next time i went there i'd make it a point to be rude to her.

Example: "thanks for shopping with us" i'd reply with "go to hell". As a final injustice, i'd probably spit in the floor too.

I hate rude/descrimunatory people.

hahaha