Not letting her bring me down

[dannyboy65]

Today I went to the store with my dad and when we parked I noticed we parked beside my recent ex and her new boyfriend. Of course my dad had to confirm it with me. So he went in and she was holding his hand and kissing him. I was mad and depressed, but I was holding my straight face. She then walked back out with him and saw me so when they got in the car that was beside me they started to kiss more and more. Then she lit a cigarette and my dad came out of the store. I had to sit there and watch as she kissed this other man. It hurt terribly and I was extremely mad over everything. The last thing she told me was that I don't exist anymore to her.

As much as I wanted to go and confront her I didn't. I talked to my friends and stuff to get this off my chest, all of them told me that was a bitch thing to do, and I agree. I had not done a single thing to her, no in fact I tried to stay as friends and gave her that friendship that she threw away. But I don't know I'm not as bothered by it. I think this is the first step to moving on.

 

[defiance]

First off that is a horrible thing for her to do. Considering that you have been very mature about the entire thing and she, by the sound of it, isn't. The way I look at it is these kind of people do you a favor in a way because they show you their true colors early rather than later in life when you have some kind of serious relationship with them. So now like you said you can move forward and look forward to brighter days with hopefully people who you benefit from being surrounded by.

 

[dannyboy65]

First off that is a horrible thing for her to do. Considering that you have been very mature about the entire thing and she, by the sound of it, isn't. The way I look at it is these kind of people do you a favor in a way because they show you their true colors early rather than later in life when you have some kind of serious relationship with them. So now like you said you can move forward and look forward to brighter days with hopefully people who you benefit from being surrounded by.

True I'm still pretty angry at her but I don't know I don't feel depression about her anymore just anger.

 

[FountainandFairfax]

Rubbing the new relationship in your face like that was just flat-out wrong, especially knowing the problems you have. Who needs a partner like that? You're better off, even though it still hurts.

 

[dannyboy65]

Rubbing the new relationship in your face like that was just flat-out wrong, especially knowing the problems you have. Who needs a partner like that? You're better off, even though it still hurts.

True, I know it was wrong and I'm just going to ignore her.

 

[Megaten]

Damn looks like you dodged a bullet. Screw all that drama. I'll bet money they wont last a year lol.

 

[defiance]

True I'm still pretty angry at her but I don't know I don't feel depression about her anymore just anger.

I'd say the anger is somewhat validated here. Because after you were willing to still be friends and all and getting that kind of treatment back in return it sure isn't fair to you and anyone would be a bit upset because of it. However it will be a momentary thing and then you'll be done with it for good, or at least I hope you will be. Anyone who behaves in such a manner that is rude and unfriendly is not worth your time or energy. With our day to day struggles the last thing we need is more outside negativity you know what I mean.

 

[BlazeBlue]

No one wants to be with someone who lacks tact. If you were to confront her at that moment you would have been in the same boat with her, but you didn't. And for that you were a class above. Don't worry over such a mismatch.

 

[dannyboy65]

*Update* Thank you to everyone that commented and gave me support it was a great feeling seeing I'm not the only one that thought this was cruel. I am back pretty happy today and it was so nice reading what you guys thought.

 

[zharl]

I can't really know the situation, so I'm not going to pass any judgement on your ex, but since things have been going so well for you, I'd hate to see you take a turn in the opposite direction. It sounds like you've worked through this, and I'm happy to hear that you're moving forward and moving on.

 

[arjuna]

How do you know she knew you were there? I don't see this as such a big deal, I would not made a big deal out of it. I would only confront someone with something if I could see that they were hurting someone or something but not over that.

 

[dannyboy65]

How do you know she knew you were there? I don't see this as such a big deal, I would not made a big deal out of it. I would only confront someone with something if I could see that they were hurting someone or something but not over that.

She looked right at me, that's how I know. I wasn't making a big deal about it I was just saying that what she did was uncalled for. It did hurt to see her do that, it may not hurt you or some other people, but to me that hurts. I'm also sure that a lot of people would be hurt by this. Just cause you may not be hurt by something like this doesn't mean everyone is the same.

 

[Olulinda]

You are the one who needs to get over it, don't need to be mad at her or feel angry, here is a question to you : How would you feel if you were the new boyfriend and when the ex appears your girl stops kissing you? ... You wanted her to stop kissing this guy because of you? If she is not your girlfriend anymore she can do what she wants... you guys can still be friends with her...I mean did she of he said anything to you? if the answer is no...then I don't think you have the right to be mad.... sad is acceptable if you still miss her but you need to get over it

 

[FountainandFairfax]

You are the one who needs to get over it, don't need to be mad at her or feel angry, here is a question to you : How would you feel if you were the new boyfriend and when the ex appears your girl stops kissing you? ... You wanted her to stop kissing this guy because of you? If she is not your girlfriend anymore she can do what she wants... you guys can still be friends with her...I mean did she of he said anything to you? if the answer is no...then I don't think you have the right to be mad.... sad is acceptable if you still miss her but you need to get over it

I'm so tired of this sexist attitude that girls somehow can't be shitty people too.

 

[dannyboy65]

You are the one who needs to get over it, don't need to be mad at her or feel angry, here is a question to you : How would you feel if you were the new boyfriend and when the ex appears your girl stops kissing you? ... You wanted her to stop kissing this guy because of you? If she is not your girlfriend anymore she can do what she wants... you guys can still be friends with her...I mean did she of he said anything to you? if the answer is no...then I don't think you have the right to be mad.... sad is acceptable if you still miss her but you need to get over it

No I was not talking about her boyfriend. If you listen to details I'm pretty sure I mentioned she does not do public affection with anyone, even her son. Sorry if I forgot to mention that. But also I didn't say she can't do what she wants, what I'm saying is that it wasn't right of her flaunting it when I know for a fact she hates public affection. I do have a right to be mad because they are my emotions not yours. This may not bother you but it bothers me and she wanted to bother me that's why she did it. Oh yea and by the way sometimes you don't need words to bully someone, sometimes all it takes is a motion, so asking if they talked to me and me saying no, then you probably saying they didn't do anything, well sorry but you are incorrect. Anyone can be a bully so why does her doing this not count when it was clearly her goal?

 

[nodejesque]

Danny, I absolutely think you reserve the right to feel angry or any other way you so please.

I think she acted very immaturely in doing that when she knew she had your attention. It was an attempt at getting a reaction, and you did great in ignoring her.

I do not know her, but I don't have to actually know her to see that her actions were douchey.

Wish you the best, and good riddance. You deserve someone who wouldn't hurt you even on their worse day.

 

[Megaten]

You are the one who needs to get over it, don't need to be mad at her or feel angry, here is a question to you : How would you feel if you were the new boyfriend and when the ex appears your girl stops kissing you? ... You wanted her to stop kissing this guy because of you? If she is not your girlfriend anymore she can do what she wants... you guys can still be friends with her...I mean did she of he said anything to you? if the answer is no...then I don't think you have the right to be mad.... sad is acceptable if you still miss her but you need to get over it

Even if he was the new bf, if hes smart he wouldnt like that either. I know the last thing I would want is for my girlfriend to use me as a tool to provoke her ex lovers. Because it'll be MY *** getting beat in the streets for it. Lets keep things outside civil lol.