eso
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I have a crazy problem. I have been with my girlfriend for years but she is strange. I am shy of course, but it's not just a case where she is outgoing and I'm not and it causes problems. I would be so lucky. No, the problem is my girlfriend is balls-out strange. Imagine being with someone that does insane stuff in public, like wearing outrageous costumes, which she does sometimes. And she wants me to come with her and take pictures of it. Also, when she talks to people she can't see that she's making them uncomfortable because she talks extremely fast and rambly. She also talks about all manner of subjects that you probably shouldn't just talk about to any old stranger. She also does things that mortify me in public, like she'll be in a store and ask for odd favors from employees or do things that are flat out strange that seem improper. For example, a couple times she has gone to the post office with the contents of a package, asked to buy a box, and then while at the counter paying for it, she would start packing the box, taping it up, asking for tape, then writing out the address on the box, etc. Basically taking 10-20 minutes to pack up the box at the front counter and having a long line form behind her. This is something that should be done at home, not have the clerk stand and wait for you and have a long line form like that. It's incredibly embarrassing and inappropriate but she doesn't seem to think it's strange at all. It's gotten to the point that I have not been at any kind of checkout counter at any store with her that I don't just walk away from. I have to leave because I know she will talk about or do something inappropriate so I have to just leave and walk outside and wait. And I know she did something odd because she takes 5-10 minutes when it should only take 30 seconds to buy something. It's like she can't understand that things she does can be off-putting to people.
You would think she has something like aspergers but I looked it up on wikipedia and it says something about failing at friendships and whatnot. That is the farthest thing from the truth. She has more friends than anyone I know, way more than any normal person. People are drawn to her like magnets. She is incredibly empathetic to people in trouble. She may not be good at some social cues but her ability to care is beyond more than anyone else I know. She also is extremely helpful to everyone and very easily talks to children. However one thing I read on there fits her perfectly, where it says "not usually withdrawn around others; they approach others, even if awkwardly, for example by engaging in a one-sided, long-winded speech about a favorite topic while misunderstanding or not recognizing the listener's feelings or reactions, such as need for privacy or haste to leave."
Anyway this is extremely difficult to live with. If I was a normal person maybe I would be fine but I am shy so it's like I'm with the worst possible person. It's not like this is the relationship deal-breaker but it sure is hard.
You would think she has something like aspergers but I looked it up on wikipedia and it says something about failing at friendships and whatnot. That is the farthest thing from the truth. She has more friends than anyone I know, way more than any normal person. People are drawn to her like magnets. She is incredibly empathetic to people in trouble. She may not be good at some social cues but her ability to care is beyond more than anyone else I know. She also is extremely helpful to everyone and very easily talks to children. However one thing I read on there fits her perfectly, where it says "not usually withdrawn around others; they approach others, even if awkwardly, for example by engaging in a one-sided, long-winded speech about a favorite topic while misunderstanding or not recognizing the listener's feelings or reactions, such as need for privacy or haste to leave."
Anyway this is extremely difficult to live with. If I was a normal person maybe I would be fine but I am shy so it's like I'm with the worst possible person. It's not like this is the relationship deal-breaker but it sure is hard.