Neil Young
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Most SA people say/think they are very good at heart. But is the "goodness" not because we are too weak and afraid to be "bad"?
Yea, a lot of us social phobes fall into "good kid" syndrome described here in detail (The Good Kid Syndrome ?(Find Your Truths)?)
The overall gist of the article is that children who are raised in negative households tend to protect their self-esteem by hiding behind a facade of extreme receptiveness to the needs and demands of caretakers and later friends/teachers/colleagues (in the hopes that they reduce their negativity and instead show approval). In essence, "Being Good" is just a coping mechanism to prevent disapproval and rejection.
This artificial attempt at piety comes at a sacrifice though. Ignoring one's own needs.
Most SA people say/think they are very good at heart. But is the "goodness" not because we are too weak and afraid to be "bad"?
I'm not. I'm a ****, so there!Most SA people say/think they are very good at heart.
Yea, a lot of us social phobes fall into "good kid" syndrome described here in detail (The Good Kid Syndrome ?(Find Your Truths)?)
The overall gist of the article is that children who are raised in negative households tend to protect their self-esteem by hiding behind a facade of extreme receptiveness to the needs and demands of caretakers and later friends/teachers/colleagues (in the hopes that they reduce their negativity and instead show approval). In essence, "Being Good" is just a coping mechanism to prevent disapproval and rejection.
This artificial attempt at piety comes at a sacrifice though. Ignoring one's own needs.
Lol, not me! I'm a normal person with flaws.
Sometimes I'm a bitch. And I can be really selfish and evil at times, lol.
No where near perfect!
Most SA people say/think they are very good at heart. But is the "goodness" not because we are too weak and afraid to be "bad"?
naah i can't say i am good at heart.i try to be polite and 'cool' most of the times but i can be a d*** too.Plus i have too much hate and jealous feelings for some people although i am trying to avoid them.
On the other hand some people with SA ARE really good and that's because life's difficulties can make a person more sensitive and understanding
I'm not. I'm a ****, so there!