OceanMist
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This isn't just about online dating, I guess. Although it has a lot to do with online dating sites.
Anyway, I decided to stay home last night (Saturday night) and then I got bored so I decided to get some female online interaction with online dating sites. I am home a lot, I'm not denying that. But that doesn't seem all that relevant because this question was asked by women that don't me that well anyway.
The point of this thread is when I was on OKCupid this woman asks a question that read, "Why are you on here a Saturday night?" I was the timing and the way she said it that made it clear the question had bad intentions. Please don't try to sugarcoat it saying she was just wondering. Because it's not like that when someone asks that question, male or female.
1. The first thing that comes to mind is the counter question of wait a second, "Why are you on here on a Saturday night?" What she said is such a hypocritical question that it's not even funny.
2. Another thing I don't like about it is the question implies that I have to have more of a social life on Friday and Saturday nights and she doesn't have to have as much of a social life on those same nights.
Btw, this isn't the first time I've come across this. Numerous times I've been asked this question by women who are on there on Friday and Saturday nights.
What exactly is this? It's almost as if these women think that because I'm a guy that I have to be "manly" and go out on every weekend and talk to a bunch of women and never set foot in a dating site.
This goes beyond online dating, of course. I've noticed that many people have this mentality that Friday and Saturday are party nights and if you don't go out, you are a freak that should be ignored. You aren't allowed to take a night off, either.
Why am I home? Because I don't feel like going out. Why does that have to be looked down upon?
Besides, the highest traffic volume on online dating sites is on friday and saturday nights. The odds of meeting someone during that timeframe are better. I'm not saying people should stay home and go online during that time, but I don't see why it has to be deemed as "loserness."
I'm sorry, but it seems the loserness label of this question (Why are you home on fri. or sat. night?) is mainly targeted at men.
Anyway, I decided to stay home last night (Saturday night) and then I got bored so I decided to get some female online interaction with online dating sites. I am home a lot, I'm not denying that. But that doesn't seem all that relevant because this question was asked by women that don't me that well anyway.
The point of this thread is when I was on OKCupid this woman asks a question that read, "Why are you on here a Saturday night?" I was the timing and the way she said it that made it clear the question had bad intentions. Please don't try to sugarcoat it saying she was just wondering. Because it's not like that when someone asks that question, male or female.
1. The first thing that comes to mind is the counter question of wait a second, "Why are you on here on a Saturday night?" What she said is such a hypocritical question that it's not even funny.
2. Another thing I don't like about it is the question implies that I have to have more of a social life on Friday and Saturday nights and she doesn't have to have as much of a social life on those same nights.
Btw, this isn't the first time I've come across this. Numerous times I've been asked this question by women who are on there on Friday and Saturday nights.
What exactly is this? It's almost as if these women think that because I'm a guy that I have to be "manly" and go out on every weekend and talk to a bunch of women and never set foot in a dating site.
This goes beyond online dating, of course. I've noticed that many people have this mentality that Friday and Saturday are party nights and if you don't go out, you are a freak that should be ignored. You aren't allowed to take a night off, either.
Why am I home? Because I don't feel like going out. Why does that have to be looked down upon?
Besides, the highest traffic volume on online dating sites is on friday and saturday nights. The odds of meeting someone during that timeframe are better. I'm not saying people should stay home and go online during that time, but I don't see why it has to be deemed as "loserness."
I'm sorry, but it seems the loserness label of this question (Why are you home on fri. or sat. night?) is mainly targeted at men.
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