gustavofring
Well-known member
Do you think it's bad to judge others? Isn't it inevitable and the people who say they don't judge others merely say it to be perceived as a nice person?
I've held up the Mr. Nice Guy facade for very long and it hasn't given me anything at all. I don't think "Judge not and you shall not be judged" thing is true. It's self-delusion. You will always judge be judged. Some people will like you, others will not, that's life.
I more and more slip into the "I don't care anymore how anyone will perceive me" modus. It feels liberating to judge others sometimes, quietly in my mind, and I now understand why everyone does it; because it makes you feel better about yourself. It defines who you are by setting yourself apart and in my opinion makes you more likely to form a solid identity. Also it can improve your life by more conciously picking the people you want to have around you in your life.
Now I'm not saying I'm some super judgemental person all of a sudden. I'm not gonna tear anyone's looks or personality or life choices to shreds or be a major gossip queen. But I can say to myself "I don't like that man or woman" quietly in my mind. I won't delude myself anymore to somehow "see good" in everyone.
I've held up the Mr. Nice Guy facade for very long and it hasn't given me anything at all. I don't think "Judge not and you shall not be judged" thing is true. It's self-delusion. You will always judge be judged. Some people will like you, others will not, that's life.
I more and more slip into the "I don't care anymore how anyone will perceive me" modus. It feels liberating to judge others sometimes, quietly in my mind, and I now understand why everyone does it; because it makes you feel better about yourself. It defines who you are by setting yourself apart and in my opinion makes you more likely to form a solid identity. Also it can improve your life by more conciously picking the people you want to have around you in your life.
Now I'm not saying I'm some super judgemental person all of a sudden. I'm not gonna tear anyone's looks or personality or life choices to shreds or be a major gossip queen. But I can say to myself "I don't like that man or woman" quietly in my mind. I won't delude myself anymore to somehow "see good" in everyone.
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