Journey of Jazz

PerseverareJasmine

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That's an awesome idea. As long as youns are talking :) if you had a tray of fish sticks and ketchup i'd have to come over and referee and stuff :rolleyes:

Sorry jc, you just missed the fish sticks. We had a bag of them in the freezer, but they are all gone now. You may have to settle for tilapia if you like it. My mom makes sure we never run out of tilapia, its our favorite fish :). Ketchup is always in our fridge too because I love it.
 
Sorry jc, you just missed the fish sticks. We had a bag of them in the freezer, but they are all gone now. You may have to settle for tilapia if you like it. My mom makes sure we never run out of tilapia, its our favorite fish :). Ketchup is always in our fridge too because I love it.

Bleh! Ill take fish sticks and ketchup any day. I tried it once and didn't like it. I like cajun crawldads though! Yum
 

PerseverareJasmine

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I'm watching Gladiator on AMC. It was on earlier but I missed it. I've always liked it. It doesn't go off until 4 a.m., but I'll most likely be up for that long anyway. I'm having a hard time falling asleep tonight.

My body feels really sore right now from working out. I could use a good massage or a long soak in a hot bath.
 

PerseverareJasmine

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My dad snores so loudly. He stayed the night here and he's sleeping in the living room right now. My dog snores loudly too, its pretty funny. My parents say that I don't snore, but I breathe really heavily when I sleep. I toss and turn a lot too. A lot of nights I'll fall asleep laying on my side, then when I wake up I'm laying on my back with my knees up.

I've noticed that I have a lot more nightmares now than I did when I was a kid. I usually have more nightmares than pleasant dreams. When I'm not having nightmares I usually have very strange dreams. Some nights I have dreams that I don't want to wake up from though, those are always nice.
 

PerseverareJasmine

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Oh, thank you jc. I'll write in here after I have the talk with my mom to tell how it works out. I've been a bit of a nervous wreck about it all day, but I think it'll go alright :thumbup:.
 
Just remember to stay calm and let her relax a bit after work before getting into the discussion. This will be good for y'all.
 

PerseverareJasmine

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Just remember to stay calm and let her relax a bit after work before getting into the discussion. This will be good for y'all.

Good luck Jaz

Ok i can't keep my fingers crossed any more. My hands are hurting ... how'd it go?

Thanks for wishing me luck Steiner. You can uncross your fingers now jc lol. It actually went better than I thought it would. There were a few bumpy parts, but it went pretty smoothly. At first I was nervous and my voice was shaky when I told her that we needed to talk. I usually don't discuss the issues I'm having with either of my parents. When I started talking though it got easier. I just told her what I was feeling and let it flow out. There were a few times when we did interrupt each other, but for the most part we let each other take turns and say what we needed to.

She actually apologized for lashing out at me about my religious beliefs. I was definitely surprised by that. She told me it was a big shock to her finding out that I was uncertain about God. She knew that I had always seemed really uncomfortable during church when I was younger, but she didn't know the reason why. She told me she thought maybe it was because I thought church was boring and maybe it was just a phase that I would grow out of. She told me she still strongly disagrees with my views though. That's the main thing I was still sort of worried about even after we were done talking. She said she would try to be more accepting, but I had this feeling in my gut like she was maybe saying that just to keep the "peace" of the conversation. Words can express a lot, but I'll have to wait to see if her actions match up to her words and if she will actually stop trying to convince me that her religious beliefs are the only beliefs that are right.

I told her about how her constant criticism of me has been making me feel ashamed and stressed out, and that I've been distancing myself from her on purpose because I've been tired of how she makes me feel. I explained that I've been trying to work on not being so nervous in public for a long time now, that its been a struggle for me for years now, and that her criticizing me isn't helping anything.

She said that she's not ashamed of me, but then she said something that I'm not really sure how to take and its been running through my mind since we finished talking. She said that she thought I would grow up to be much different than I am. I was a pretty outgoing kid. My mom told me that she never would have imagined that I would be the way I am now. She said that she noticed me changing as I grew up, becoming nervous in public and incredibly shy around people, and that it frustrated her. She told me that sometimes she wishes that she could have her "loud little girl" back, and that my tendency to stay inside because of my fear of being in public causes her to feel really lonely because she's usually left to go places alone so many times. She asked me if it was something she did when raising me that made me become as introverted as I am now. I'm not sure why she thought that was a possibility, but I told her that the way she raised me didn't have anything to do with it.

I'm still uncertain about how to take the fact that she wishes I were more like my younger self. I don't think she meant for me to feel regretful and guilty by saying it, but I do feel guilty in a way because she has a point. I can see how me not wanting to go out with her can leave her feeling alone a lot. She used to go out all the time with my older sister when she was living with us, and she was always closer to my older sister than she was to me, but its just me and my mom now in the house, so I do understand how she can feel sort of isolated by my ways.

She told me she didn't know that a lot of her criticisms were hurting me. She thought she was helping me by telling me what I do "wrong", as she called it, in public. Just like with her nagging me about my religious beliefs, she told me she'll do her best to lay off the criticism, but like I said before, only her actions in the future will show if she lives up to her claims and actually does try to work at being more understanding and accepting. Hopefully she means what she said.

As a whole I think it went pretty well. Now I guess me and her are going to focus on moving forward from this, and we'll see how things pan out. At least the negative tension in the house seems to be gone for now, which is a huge relief.
 
I'm glad you were brave enough to do it. I think you did the right thing. Sometimes people dont know how they are perceived till somebody calls them on it. I'm glad she was seemingly receptive to what you had to say. I'm happy you're happy :)
 

PerseverareJasmine

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I'm glad you were brave enough to do it. I think you did the right thing. Sometimes people dont know how they are perceived till somebody calls them on it. I'm glad she was seemingly receptive to what you had to say. I'm happy you're happy :)

Thanks :). Its helped me feel a little better, so I'm glad me and her talked things out.
 

MikeyC

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Great going on that talk, Jasmine. You got what you wanted out, and your mum knows some of what she's saying isn't nice, so let's hope her actions match her words, as you say. Good work.
 

PerseverareJasmine

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Great going on that talk, Jasmine. You got what you wanted out, and your mum knows some of what she's saying isn't nice, so let's hope her actions match her words, as you say. Good work.

Thanks Mikey :). Yeah, hopefully she'll hold her word and back off on all of the criticism. I guess I'll have to wait and see how things turn out.
 

PerseverareJasmine

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Well, I decided not to go with my mom to the festival after all. Me and her are still on good terms for now, but I just think going would make me feel extremely anxious. There would be so, so many people there. I was a little nervous to tell her I didn't want to go, but she said it was fine. That was a relief. Usually if I tell her I don't want to go somewhere with her she'll get angry and irritated with me. I guess she's trying to keep her word that she told me yesterday during our talk that she'd be more understanding. I think I'll ask her if she wants to see a movie together. Movie theaters make me nervous too, but not to the extent that going to the festival would make me.

I'm just relaxing and eating some coffee ice cream now, my favorite kind of ice cream. I scream, you scream, we all scream for ice cream! I put a lot of nuts on top of it too. My family doesn't really like them in their ice cream, but I love nuts in mine.
 

S_Spartan

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That is cool! I was listening to The Who while lifting weights at the gym earlier. Good music for lifting weights!
 
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