I've been snubbed

[cowboyup]

I just had to read my email! I got one of those 'update' emails from that talent agent I used to work with..(still upset over him giving MY job to the younger girl-his roommate)..He sent out the email to a lot of people, not just me. In it he went on and on and on about how he and the agency were doing so well and he just got a 5Mil funding for his screenplay and that means it can be classified as a SAG movie. Then he goes on to say how he and his business partner (the roommate) are going to NM to scout out locations, set up a new office, etc., etc. He KNOWS how badly I need a job outside this 'family nanny gig' I have going (by the way, my sister in law is pregnant again) flippin yay

You may be thinking, "be happy for him" Well, a tiny part of me is happy but a huge part is screaming mad because ever since he worked as a gopher on a local low budget movie (you can YouTube "Dirty Dealing movie" for trailer haha!) he has turned all "Hollywood" on me and never talks to me or anything. I feel I am equivalent to the dirt on his shoes now.

I thought he understood my situation and he even took me golfing to get me out of the house, started showing me the breakdowns of his business, etc. and I was even there supporting him when he went through his divorce and helped him clean his house for when his mother visited....just little things like that I had done, and all the while I thought he was a friend. I've been snubbed by "semi-Hollywood" -- That's crap! I'm not even on the "D" List.

Instead he has put all his faith and trust upon his roommate(s), Tiffany. Oh, and Tiffany has her fiancé living there too, along with her girlfriend, Samantha. So, I've been outnumbered by three young people, and an old man.

I'm supposed to go over to his house tomorrow as I have some things stored in his garage, but now, I am not so sure I want to go over there with all those people there, plus hearing them talk about their 'awesome' life is really gonna bum me out.

And yes, they talk about it. Last time I was there, he let me know in no uncertain terms he was on the phone with some actor. Just his actions were rude, condescending, and I got the feeling of "I'm so busy, I have no time for you now" attitude. Perhaps it was just me and my anxiety rearing its ugly head, but even when I was in a better mood, I felt this strange vibe from him and Tiffany as well.

I think I would be handling this situation better if he would have clued me in with a better attitude than he presented. It was more of a sarcastic, bragging kind of mood rather than the more humble approach.

You're probably asking why I think he should be more humble. Well, because I was there from the beginning and I know how he struggled, especially with money and well, let's face it, the LACK of money. Remember I was the one who did the bookkeeping. We worked our butts off getting no-name actors (sorry to be rude) even a tiny part in some lame commercial that paid 200.00!

Granted, it was work, but we have to be honest here, acting is not a steady career in the majority of cases. And being an agent is just as hard to keep your bills paid, pitch talent, and get actors the auditions.

..I hope this didn't come off as high and mighty-I truly don't want this to sound that way, I'm just venting and pis*ed right now.

OK, I have said my peace (or piece? haha)
over and out.

 

[DeadmanWalking]

I think that your feelings have some justification behind them. You helped him get to where he is (if I'm reading that right) and, as thanks, he kicks you to the wayside to defend for yourself? That's backstabbing in a way that not many people can reach. Well, you can do two things. You could either go there and confront him about what his problem is face-to-face or you could avoid him completely and excommunicate him from your life, you don't need people like that in your life. I'm so sorry about that, I hope that your situation turns around and you get the chance to turn things around on him some day.

 

[MikeyC]

If you were there from the beginning, of course you'd feel snubbed. Sorry to hear it didn't work out for you and hopefully karma bites him on the bum.

 

[cowboyup]

thank you both for the encouragement.

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

What an a******. No, he's not even worthy of being called an a******. More like the hair lining the crack.

Well... if any of his movies ever make it to the big screen, which I hope karma doesn't allow, I definitely won't be throwing away my hard-earned money to give this loser the success he doesn't deserve. I can already tell from the trailer (I hope I watched the right one ---> /watch?v=NtZ3KHikj7k) that he's going to be your typical Hollywood cronie filling society's head with even more crap on sex and money and all that superficial nonsense.

Be glad you're not working for this scumbag because he's going to fall on his face hard eventually and you don't want to be brought down with him when that time comes. You're better off.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

haha
I've watched this happen far too many times to count; even for work I'd been a big part of...
I could just say; 'it happens' and to get used to it--- but venting is probably good to do from time to time.
There's little you can really do about it without seeming 'petty', although really everyone is trying to get somewhere and when they do- if they don't remain completely humble; the people around them will end up holding it against them.

So, you were snubbed... but just because he seems to be doing well in no way means that he'll actually be rich and famous forever or even at all.
Everyone gets their '15 minutes'.
If it makes you feel better thinking about it that way- do it.
...just do it inwardly so you don't end up looking like the bad guy.
haha

 

[Deus_Ex_Lemur]

It's a cruel biz, at any letter of the alphabet It's vital to vent it out you hold it in and let it burst out of you like Alien.

I've known ppl as well this has happened to... if my SA didn't hold back from pursuing acting or filmmaking further I probably would experience this first hand as well. Well I guess technically I have... definitely know people.

Shows you the true color of people - but it is what is - you're story isn't finished being written - just use this as fuel to motivate yourself further!

There's a difference between being humble and confident - he could have done this better; handling it, being more empathetic. Anyways you have every right to feel this way! Hope things turn out for you, cowboy!