HopelessMess
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So with CBT the goal is to replace your old negative, unrealistic thoughts with more positive realistic ones, correct?
My problem with this has always been the idea that negative thoughts are supposedly ALWAYS unrealistic. The unfortunate truth is that the world is chock full o' a**holes. So it's quite likely that SOME times you'll be fearing "Oh no, that person is judging me negatively"... and that person actually IS judging you negatively. And that person may even express his negative view of you in some way: an insult, a comment, or blatant "dirty looks".
So what does CBT tell you to do THEN, when your fears turn out to be a little more realistic than your CBT training led you to believe?
This is an honest question for CBT practitioners, not just a slam on CBT. I WANT CBT to work as it seems to be one of the few therapies that others have found successful. But it just seems to me that maybe the "acceptance" method would work better, or even something like Wayne Dyer's theory that you just have to say to yourself "I don't CARE what anyone else thinks. Their opinion of me is not as valuable as my own and makes very little real difference in my life."
So seriously, CBTers: What happens when your "fear of being judged, ridiculed, or looking stupid" turns out to be real? Does CBT offer a way to deal with this?
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My problem with this has always been the idea that negative thoughts are supposedly ALWAYS unrealistic. The unfortunate truth is that the world is chock full o' a**holes. So it's quite likely that SOME times you'll be fearing "Oh no, that person is judging me negatively"... and that person actually IS judging you negatively. And that person may even express his negative view of you in some way: an insult, a comment, or blatant "dirty looks".
So what does CBT tell you to do THEN, when your fears turn out to be a little more realistic than your CBT training led you to believe?
This is an honest question for CBT practitioners, not just a slam on CBT. I WANT CBT to work as it seems to be one of the few therapies that others have found successful. But it just seems to me that maybe the "acceptance" method would work better, or even something like Wayne Dyer's theory that you just have to say to yourself "I don't CARE what anyone else thinks. Their opinion of me is not as valuable as my own and makes very little real difference in my life."
So seriously, CBTers: What happens when your "fear of being judged, ridiculed, or looking stupid" turns out to be real? Does CBT offer a way to deal with this?
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