What about anxiety and avoidence towards the opposite sex..you want a relationship, and love, hopefully sex..you like someone ALOT (you see them working at the coffee shop every day (or every other) but can't bring yourself to make a move ever?
How would CBT work in that situation?
I don't know, I never used it that way... I wouldn't make a move on a guy anyway.. He'd have to make a move first..
You could chat to them and hopefully he'd chat back.. It's better if you just smile and he talks to you first..
You could use CBT on any negative thoughts in your head like, 'Oh, he won't like me anyway'... into 'Who knows? Am I a mindreader?'
Or to combat any other negative thoughts to be more at ease or even cheerful and happy - enthusiasm is often found more attractive (if it's real and genuine and not fake and if you don't 'overdo' it, and if other people aren't miserable - in that case enthusiasm can sometimes be seen as 'annoying' lol)
So, you could use ACT - accept yourself, accept the situation... Work on any negative thoughts with CBT.. Go into situations where you meet interested and available men... (?)
It seems you might be attracted to people who seem a bit 'unavailable' (?) Just an impression... There are books written about that too..
![Smile :) :)](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7)
You might wanna work on that too?