I'm such a freak. Eurgh...

[WishingICould]

There's a guy at work who's new, i think he started about 3 or 4 weeks ago. Anyway, he started talking to me today and i just acted and felt so awkward.

First, he came up to me and tried to start a conversation about how my day was going. I just responded with "erm, er, yeah... ok thanks". :kickingmyself: Then he came up to me again and said his parents were out of town on Wednesday and would i like to go round his house as they're doing some kind of movie night. He said he'd invited a few other co-workers as well.

Again, i was just like "Oh! Erm, thanks. Er, i'll...let you know?". He just said "yeah, let me know". :idontknow: I'm not going to go but God, i wish i could act normally around people. I especially freak out if guys talk to me, even if i'm not attracted to the person (i'm not attracted to him).

 

[coyote]

why not go?

watch a movie, have some fun

 

[Razzlecherry]

Yeh, I'm the same way. I kinda feel bad for anybody (whom I don't know or know only slightly) who bothers trying to talk to me.

Like coyote said, I think it might be an alright idea to go watch the movie and hang about with your co-workers. I do understand how tough that can be though.

 

[selon]

Yeah I know how you feel it sucks so bad!! I read an interesting sentence in another thread (about blushing) that went something like this: when you feel the blush coming tell yourself that you accept the blushing, that you are not going to be embarrased by it... and after a few times your brain starts to believe this fake acceptance and it becomes real. So after a while you won't blush because your brain will no longer believe that it has to make you turn red.

Maybe you could try a 'technique' like that too.. even if you're not a lobster like me ^___^ But maybe it'll help you to stop feeling like a freak during those situations.

Personally this acceptance thingy doesnt work for me... yet, I'm gonna keep trying!

 

[Lamb]

Why don't you consider going?

 

[WishingICould]

Why don't you consider going?

When people invite me out i feel like it's out of pity or just because i'm weird and they want to make fun of me. :sarcastic:

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

When I was at my last job, coworkers were always asking me to go out with them. I always declined or said maybe and then didn't go..........Eventually, I started to go out to lunch and sometimes dinner with them. By then, I was comfortable enough. But, if the event is going to involve people that I don't know, then I will not go. It takes a while for me to warm up to someone.

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

When people invite me out i feel like it's out of pity or just because i'm weird and they want to make fun of me. :sarcastic:

That doesn't even make sense. NO ONE does that! If they invite you out it's because they like you. Even I know that. People always ask me out but going out makes me uncomfortable. I know their feelings are hurt. So many people over the years have tried to get to know me, but I push them away.

 

[Lamb]

I think you should give it a shot, even if it doesn't work out in your favor. You're assuming the worse case scenario. If you go it'll give you something to feel good about, an accomplishment. I know that's not the point of this thread. I freak out too if I receive any attention. Then I have to remind myself to relax and not pop out the mace. lol (j/k)

 

[Xervello]

Go for it, WIC! :thumbup:

 

[ForeverTheWeirdKid]

I think you would have fun.

 

[GraybeardGhost]

I agree with the others posters: no reason not to go. If he didn't really want you there, he probably wouldn't have asked.

However, it might be wise to check with some of your other coworkers to make sure they've actually been invited, too. Things are not always as they seem, especially when the parents are away.

 

[laure15]

^Agree with Greybeardghost. Going to someone's house can be a little tricky. If you decide to go, tell your family or a friend beforehand so that they know where you're at, in case something goes wrong.

 

[IntheLabyrinth]

Yeah I know how you feel it sucks so bad!! I read an interesting sentence in another thread (about blushing) that went something like this: when you feel the blush coming tell yourself that you accept the blushing, that you are not going to be embarrased by it... and after a few times your brain starts to believe this fake acceptance and it becomes real. So after a while you won't blush because your brain will no longer believe that it has to make you turn red.
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Definitely Easier said than done. My problem is that my form of blushing is followed by profuse sweating from my face. I have started trying what you said though and it hasn't worked since I started last week. It has actually made it worse. However, I think it worked today so I am going to keep trying.

 

[OCDd]

When people invite me out i feel like it's out of pity or just because i'm weird and they want to make fun of me. :sarcastic:

no one will make fun of you, they just wont, no one does that, at all. and i just tried some ERP and it works it really does. if you can, go their and say you have to leave early or something cause you have something to do and just see how it goes for like half an hour and just try to have a basic conversation, hope this helps, and God bless you. p.s. you could pray, God will help you and you can talk to him about anything, no matter what you need help with, and ask for forgiveness of sins to, he will forgive you if you really mean it and want to be forgiven. but you can just talk to him and see what he has to say, it makes no sense keeping something from him because he knows everything. so just let out whatever it is you want to say. and keep and open mind, God sometimes answers are prayers in odd ways so be on the lookout. Good luck

 

[mismeek]

You might feel more in control if YOU initiate the conversation. I know I do. Try it!

 

[1BlackSheep]

When people invite me out i feel like it's out of pity or just because i'm weird and they want to make fun of me. :sarcastic:

I feel this way a lot of the time too, but like others have said it's likely not true. Maybe you could bring someone along with you for moral support?

 

[planemo]

No you're not a freak for being awkward. Everyone on this site would have responded the way you did. Well perhaps not me, since i would of run away or hide under a table and would never even get a chance to being invited. h:

Sometimes i think we're the most sensitive and unforgiving people towards our own awkwardness, and we assume others have the same opinion. maybe you should go and i'm sure you'll realise most people don't bother about it at all. :bigsmile:

 

[Srijita52]

I agree with the others posters: no reason not to go. If he didn't really want you there, he probably wouldn't have asked.

However, it might be wise to check with some of your other coworkers to make sure they've actually been invited, too. Things are not always as they seem, especially when the parents are away.

^Agreed. But if others are invited, you should totally go and have some fun.
I can relate, I guess I've been not taken seriously and made fun of so many times that it actually surprises me when people try to talk.