I'm going to tell her I like her, some help guys?

[Darker Than Black]

sorry, i meant to say liked****

why did i even do that? I had nothing better to do, and i was bored

 

[BlackKids]

mmmm If I liked someone I'd just go for it but if it doesnt work out it might get awkward.
You could always just ask her out as a friend and then see if anything happens.

 

[Darker Than Black]

........................case closed, your judge

 

[Rodney]

I wouldn't go and tell her you like her considering you never talked to her... she may think your a little creepy for saying that. Instead send her a message on msn being like hey we should meet up for lunch one day at the uni... although to some this might still seem strange because usually you go for lunch with people you talk to its a lot less strange than walking up to a person you never talk to and telling them you like them.

Don't be surprised if she declines though... that might be a sign that your not ment to be. And about you being nervous to go to lunch with her, the only way your going to further your relationship is if you interact/socialize with her. I have never heard of people bieng in a relationship without one of those two components, have you?

I hope this information proves helpful to you.
Good Luck.

 

[Noca]

Most normies(people without mental illness) dont understand mental illness or SA if you tell them about it. They might even think you are crazy. Mental illnesses should be told to them later in the relationship when they have other things to like you for.

If you dont ask her on a date right away you have the chance to fall into a black hole known as "the friend zone" from which you will NEVER get out of. The gurl will consider you as a friend and not dating material.

 

[klytus]

I find your 'feelings' for her inappropriately exaggerated. The girl is entirely unknown to you. There is nothing about her you may like except most superficial aspects. That's fine, but don't sugarcoat it with romance - that is, with statements such as "[you] like her". If she isn't abysmally naive, she will immediately interpret your advances as purely sexually motivated. Correctly so, I may add.

If you dont ask her on a date right away you have the chance to fall into a black hole known as "the friend zone" from which you will NEVER get out of.

No, he can't. He doesn't even know that girl.

 

[Darker Than Black]

........................case closed, your judge

 

[Darker Than Black]

ya ur right this is awkward, i give up

 

[FountainandFairfax]

I say don't do it yet. You're gonna make your landing approach wobbly and most likely crash on the runway if you do it right now.

I'd keep my distance for the time being, and maybe target another girl as a test run first, so if things don't go so well, it won't be such a loss.

 

[Noca]

No, he can't. He doesn't even know that girl.

so? thats exactly what you want, dont need more than a first meeting to get a date or at least a phone number/email then ask from there. If you become friends with her, chances are that's as far as you'll ever get and that's where you will stay. You gotta make your intentions known early on.

 

[RND_CHR]

Dude, I've told girls that I liked them. It's never worked out. I honestly wouldn't ever tell a girl that I like them explicitly ever again. Do it some other way.

 

[danstelter]

I wouldn't go and tell her you like her considering you never talked to her... she may think your a little creepy for saying that. Instead send her a message on msn being like hey we should meet up for lunch one day at the uni... although to some this might still seem strange because usually you go for lunch with people you talk to its a lot less strange than walking up to a person you never talk to and telling them you like them.

Don't be surprised if she declines though... that might be a sign that your not ment to be. And about you being nervous to go to lunch with her, the only way your going to further your relationship is if you interact/socialize with her. I have never heard of people bieng in a relationship without one of those two components, have you?

I hope this information proves helpful to you.
Good Luck.

The smartest advice in this thread. Telling a girl you like her directly is the surest way to turn off any girl, no matter how well you do or do not know here. This would be too abrupt and moving things too fast and it will scare her away FOREVER!

Better idea is to message her or contact her however and ask her to do something very non-threatening (do not make it seem like a date at all) like eating lunch, going fishing, or going bowling...whatever it is that the two of you might enjoy doing together.

Do not make any sexual advances until you can kind of gauge how it is that she is taking the event. If she seems attracted to you, ask her out again for something that seems more like a date.

If she declines, things are simply not meant to be between you guys, which is disappointing, but okay. This doesn't mean that things will never happen; perhaps you guys will run into one another and begin dating, but don't bank on that happening.

If she doesn't show interest, immediately go see other women and make sure that she hears about it. Who knows, you might find someone better for you somewhere else anyway.

Relationships are tricky, but these are generally the paths they take. Good luck, and something will assuredly work out for you at some point in time, so keep getting out there!

 

[Juliegoolie]

Make friends first see if she's actually sane/compatible first.
then ask her to coffee.
see if you guys have any mutual friends and have a get together, then talk to her about whatever. if you can't do it just yet just be yourself and act as though she was just another friend. this will make you look approachable in which case she may initiate talking to you.

 

[Kinetik]

Even if she could potentially like you, she'll shoot you down by default if you approach it this way. It's not like you'll uncover the real truth and be able to concentrate on school again once you know how she feels, because this is a guaranteed no and you'll wind up feeling embarrassed for having tried. Instead, find seemingly natural or coincidental ways to start talking to her. You have to build some sort of foundation, progress carefully from there, and gradually turn up the tension as you become closer. So try to break this down into stages first, because even if you've been admiring her from afar for a long time now, this is all new to her and you're just some random dude as far as she's concerned. Make a mental plan as to how you can become more involved without seeming creepy. You want short, sweet interactions, and you should always leave the scene first. Then think about how you can create some fun, chemistry-filled situations, because sometimes you have to orchestrate things yourself if the feelings aren't mutual initially. You can definitely boost your chances by practicing this and getting better at it over time. So hopefully that gives you some sort of basis to work with, whether it's with this girl or another in the future.

 

[PennyLane]

Hey I agree with the last 3 or 4 post from people. If someone I didn't know that well just announced that they liked me I would have no idea what to say, especially if I haven't been given the chance to get to know him.

Please don't just tell her. Start talking to her, become her friend. I like what Kinetic said about short and sweet social interactions where you leave first. This is the best advice I've heard. That way you are in control of the situation and entering her life in a positive non-creepy manner.

Once you have got to know each other and if your feelings remain...then you can think about making the arrangements more date like. Don't worry about that friendship zone shit...the best relationships come from friendships and girls know this.

 

[social_phobia2008]

she liked me in grade 11, but never talked to me..well kind of, i suspected cuz a friend of her's kept on telling me things about her, he was always like "Cindy this cindy that" "u wanna know a girl who likes you"...etc

Well u got a very good, and i mean a VERY good starting point. U say a friend of her told u she liked u...but that was 3-4 years go, right ? So u like her, she might still like u. Worst case...she feels indifferent for u. She cant possibly feel unatracted to you in some way if in some point in time she did that trick: hey tell him i like him, but dont say to him i told u to say so...

that strategy works pretty well, u can use that trick too. but not from the start. many guys said here: DONT tell her u like her from the start, nor from the first date, nor second. and if u make it to the third date, u can be sure the feeling is mutual.

try not to be her ''best friend'' for a long time, or you'll remain that way. from my experience with my ex 2 gfs, taking to know each other and talking a lot is best. do it on msn if u feel unconfortable face on. u can talk anything u like as long as u just talk, anything. i amazed myself how u can captivate girls only with nonsence talk, just blabbering, and i asked myself many times: what is this girl sitting like 3-4 hours on msn just to listen to all the sh*t im blabbering.

after a week or 2 of talking ask her for a date. this will be the most difficult part: ''surviving'' the first 2 dates..if u can get those well...mission accomplished

oh and it helps a lot if u can find a common hobbie, and also a common friend that will bring the two of u closer and will make it much easier for u.

good luck. let us know how u did

 

[lgsecretkf]

definetly find that mutual friend and get him/her to plan something with all of you together, that way you can meet her and go from there

 

[RND_CHR]

Dude, even if it doesnt work out, it'll help you build confidence. So do whatever you think works and learn from it. That's how people get good at this kind of stuff. Let us know how it goes.

 

[Darker Than Black]

srry, but i decided not to. my friend told me last night what she said on MSN

him: "hey, peter wants to be friend w/ u"

her: "If he wants to be my friend, he have to talk to me more"

and he also said she thought I was kind of creepy cuz i added her then deleted her on MSN, she said I should stop being so creepy. I don't like her anymore, I think, that's not nice to say to someone, saying they're creepy

 

[klytus]

and he also said she thought I was kind of creepy cuz i added her then deleted her on MSN, she said I should stop being so creepy. I don't like her anymore, I think, that's not nice to say to someone, saying they're creepy

Fascinating how easy it is to stop liking someone for being normal. Next time, if you want someone to like you, learn not to appear like a douche-bag waiting to be unleashed. How would you have reacted, had a basically random girl added you to her contact list, sent you a couple of lines, somehow openly deleted you from her contact list, and delivered to you a message through someone else that she liked you? (And how did she realize you deleted her on MSN?)