My dad told me to apply for some jobs. I don't know what to apply for. I've been locked up in the house all day for the past two or three weeks... I just want a job that I can do without feeling weird then leaving after a couple of months. This is something I've done in the past. Any ideas? What are good jobs for someone with SA?
I need a flipping job...
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mikebird
Banned
Any job without talking or monkey'ing about or mocking or overbearing annoyance from idiots would be something I'd enjoy.
Everything to do with my abilities is a back office job. I'd love it, but everything that goes with it is marketed as.."Excellent interpersonal communication" and client or customer-facing skills. Why do people want people to do that for them? Because they don't like doing it. Nor do I.
Everything to do with my abilities is a back office job. I'd love it, but everything that goes with it is marketed as.."Excellent interpersonal communication" and client or customer-facing skills. Why do people want people to do that for them? Because they don't like doing it. Nor do I.
JamesSmith
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Lower your standards and use an employment agency like Job Link. I had to turn in 30 different applications before I got the job I have now. It's only about 11 hrs a week, but it's something.
You have to accept something: 95% of jobs involve social interaction on a regular basis. I had a hard time accepting that in the past, which led to failure and quitting.
You have to accept something: 95% of jobs involve social interaction on a regular basis. I had a hard time accepting that in the past, which led to failure and quitting.
Shant
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This is important. Most jobs will require social interaction - when you get down to it, among those jobs, being a cashier is rather easy. But nevertheless, if you're looking for a job and having trouble doing so, you can't be picky about it or you won't get a job - beggars can't be choosers, and this is what I faced for well over a year of constant job-searching. It's possible, I'll tell you that, but I'll also acknowledge, that it is seriously difficult.
Chances are, you'll get used to the required social interaction for the most part - at the very least, you'll learn how to put up a good facade and make it look like you're handling socializing well. It's not something that in itself will remove your social phobia, but it certainly helps. I'm working at a fast-food/coffee-shop kind of store, and it can get difficult because it requires doing everything - being the cashier, drive-thru order taking (ouch), preparing everything, etc... at first it's difficult, but after a while, you'll adapt.
So if there's any advice I can offer, it's to just apply for almost every job you can apply for - using common sense of course, apply for jobs you may not necessarily like, but you don't need to apply for jobs you're going to downright loathe and everything. Or, don't apply for jobs you know you are not suited for at all.. (Example: Fast-food may not sound too fun, but try anyways. But if you're oblivious/uninterested in fashion, don't apply for a clothing store.) Unless it's something you know would completely hate more than anything else, apply for almost everything.
Don't worry about the socializing aspect, it will handle itself. Employers, upon hiring someone, tend to be patient here because with most people, it takes some time for them to ease into working normally.
Yeah, use people contact as 'exposure therapy' (read about it first maybe) and maybe 'start small' with what would be easier...
For me, it was easier to work in small 'mini' or 'micro' companies with 2 or 3 other people (in office, or even with some occasional people contact) It's good to research them a bit to see what they are looking for first.. ideally speak to people there to see what the circumstances are.. (is the company stable, good team & boss etc) Read the book 'What Color Is My Parachute' if you can..
You can also learn the infamous 'people skills' and read books on good communication etc.
Of course look what the options are at all!! Are you a student, do you have any qualifications, etc - what would those help you with?
Ideally it would be a job, firm or product you'd be happy promoting.. maybe something you're personally interested in too.. or at least wouldn't mind doing.. What are your interests and hobbies?
What are some jobs/work you would be interested in?
You can overcome some obstacles if you really like the job/place where you work/co-workers and have support team etc!!
Freelance writing or online work can take a while to set up, you could do that in free time, to build up portfolio and clients.. (Your dad will also most likely not believe you're 'working' if you're online.. if he wants you to 'get a job', so something outside the house might probably be better.. especially if your dad is of the 'loud' variety and you wouldn't have uninterrupted time for writing or building your biz online etc.) There is some interaction in writing too, depends on what you're doing, to interview people etc.
For me, it was easier to work in small 'mini' or 'micro' companies with 2 or 3 other people (in office, or even with some occasional people contact) It's good to research them a bit to see what they are looking for first.. ideally speak to people there to see what the circumstances are.. (is the company stable, good team & boss etc) Read the book 'What Color Is My Parachute' if you can..
You can also learn the infamous 'people skills' and read books on good communication etc.
Of course look what the options are at all!! Are you a student, do you have any qualifications, etc - what would those help you with?
Ideally it would be a job, firm or product you'd be happy promoting.. maybe something you're personally interested in too.. or at least wouldn't mind doing.. What are your interests and hobbies?
What are some jobs/work you would be interested in?
You can overcome some obstacles if you really like the job/place where you work/co-workers and have support team etc!!
Freelance writing or online work can take a while to set up, you could do that in free time, to build up portfolio and clients.. (Your dad will also most likely not believe you're 'working' if you're online.. if he wants you to 'get a job', so something outside the house might probably be better.. especially if your dad is of the 'loud' variety and you wouldn't have uninterrupted time for writing or building your biz online etc.) There is some interaction in writing too, depends on what you're doing, to interview people etc.
A back story for some of ya'll who say I should just get out there. I've done a lot of "getting out there" type of jobs. They never work out. I'm in college. I do interact. It's like a damn cycle. I interact, I back away, I interact, I back away, I interact, I back away. I've worked in retail and they never work out. I'm never going to get better until I'm properly treated which requires more time and ability than I have at the moment. So please, I appreciate your intentions but stop trying to be my doctor. You don't know what I need and that's not helping me. I'm exposed enough. That doesn't help and often times hurt more.
What I need is to make money and to gain experience. I've got experience in writing. So the freelance idea, I feel, is best for me.
I hate interacting with people b/c I wind up pissing people off or turning them off of me AND also because I have little tolerance and patience for people on the workplace in positions I don't take seriously at all...
Don't ever assume you know where someone has been or what they have or have not tried.
What I need is to make money and to gain experience. I've got experience in writing. So the freelance idea, I feel, is best for me.
I hate interacting with people b/c I wind up pissing people off or turning them off of me AND also because I have little tolerance and patience for people on the workplace in positions I don't take seriously at all...
Don't ever assume you know where someone has been or what they have or have not tried.
mikebird
Banned
Yep
Facing up to people would probably be a turnaround situation for me. As long as I can stick with the usual pro skills I like to do, without avoiding getting involved with internal staff or even the public!
It just takes some confidence. No point burying myself in the hole I'm in. I bet I might like it. Put the past behind. Flourish. I always tell people I like a challenge.
Facing up to people would probably be a turnaround situation for me. As long as I can stick with the usual pro skills I like to do, without avoiding getting involved with internal staff or even the public!
It just takes some confidence. No point burying myself in the hole I'm in. I bet I might like it. Put the past behind. Flourish. I always tell people I like a challenge.
I pushed myself to that challenge... I had to you know? If I didn't, I wouldn't have what I have now...
Nicole, that's why I asked about your background and interests - it's difficult to recommend anything otherwise..
Good that you've tried stuff before and have some idea of what you like and what rather not!
So actually a job where you can interact and then withdraw might be okay for you (I've seen such jobs, they're not so easy to track down tho..)
Okay, you got exposure at college, and wish for a 'quiet' job.. Check if there are any nice small PR agencies maybe? (Ideally not promoting bad causes/firms and such.. if that kind of thing is important to you)
Read as much as you can on freelance writing and such, there's a lot of info out there.. And just start sending queries...? And educate your parents about all that.. If you can get some articles into local press that'll give them some peace of mind that you're actually doing something worthwhile..
It can be sometimes stressful too, some people do find it very rewarding also.. Check writing forums etc.
Good that you've tried stuff before and have some idea of what you like and what rather not!
So actually a job where you can interact and then withdraw might be okay for you (I've seen such jobs, they're not so easy to track down tho..)
Okay, you got exposure at college, and wish for a 'quiet' job.. Check if there are any nice small PR agencies maybe? (Ideally not promoting bad causes/firms and such.. if that kind of thing is important to you)
Read as much as you can on freelance writing and such, there's a lot of info out there.. And just start sending queries...? And educate your parents about all that.. If you can get some articles into local press that'll give them some peace of mind that you're actually doing something worthwhile..
It can be sometimes stressful too, some people do find it very rewarding also.. Check writing forums etc.
Forums? I'm going to take a PR writing class pretty soon.... I wasn't interested at first. It can be demanding...
LazyHermitCrab
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You should apply at a zoo it seems like it would be fun. Or you can work at a dairy department like me.
nikkixo
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i need a job too, i haven't had one since i was 17 (i'm 19 now). i would say jobs at a library, or vet maybe where you can work with animals. most jobs require some social interaction unfortunately. my first job was a waitress and at first it was intimidating but after awhile you get used to it and it helps you step out of your comfort zones. i could never wait tables now though, my SA is way worse now.