SeniorRedrings
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I have a problem being interesting.
The only way I can seem to illicit a reaction is by getting in peoples faces.
Help.
The only way I can seem to illicit a reaction is by getting in peoples faces.
Help.
I have a problem being interesting
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Bo592
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I feel it hard to be interesting sometimes too. But what I thank it is you have to feel confidence in who you are . Try writing in a journal start listing all kinds of good sayings then list all kinds of good things about you. I say this because some times it can be hard to process confident words to ourselves. To be interesting you need to know the topics that you enjoy. You have to open up and be proud of who you are and don`t be afraid of making mistakes everyone falls and has to pick their self up again. But those people you seen that look like professionals they fell too and they probly scared there going to fall again. So don`t worry about how interesting you are You are interesting because you have something that nobody else has ? I can`t tell you what that is, but it is true.
Ms Cloud
Well-known member
A lot of women love guys with an "attitude". The real badasses have to beat women off with a stick.
SeniorRedrings
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Thank you Monk...I mean Bo592.
The thing is though,having agoraphobia doesn't serve a person well when it comes to storing up interesting life stories to be told at a later date.
I am genuinely fearful of being the only dirty old man without any saucy stories to tell.
The thing is though,having agoraphobia doesn't serve a person well when it comes to storing up interesting life stories to be told at a later date.
I am genuinely fearful of being the only dirty old man without any saucy stories to tell.
SeniorRedrings
Banned
I can't get close enough to beat the women.
Their barge poles are a lot longer than my stick.
Their barge poles are a lot longer than my stick.
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The problem is not that your not interested but the fact that you depend on others for our own " happiness". Ever heard of Transactional Analysis?
Ms Cloud
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You don't need a lot of personal stories in order to be interesting. Not everyone cares about what you do or what you've done. Friendships can be formed on witty exchanges, humor, cynicism, self-deprecation, complaining, intellectual rapport, random ideas and observations, common enemies or aversions, and so forth. Who cares about your life history. I sure don't.
Great post. I think people here sometimes forget that rapport is most easily generated from banter that has nothing to do with the day-to-day bullet points of your life. It's about the spark. Life is not a job interview (thankfully).
SeniorRedrings
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No I haven't.I shall look into it.
SeniorRedrings
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This rapport thing is a big problem for me.I have a problem building one up.There are times I try to reply to posts on here and I kid you not the typing is so incoherent that I just wipe it.
Recently I got batteries for my flip cam to film something of interest for someone,show them I wasn't a complete jerkoff but the restrictions of my conditions meant that I had nothing to draw on.
Rapport needs a richness of subjects to draw on doesn't it?
Recently I got batteries for my flip cam to film something of interest for someone,show them I wasn't a complete jerkoff but the restrictions of my conditions meant that I had nothing to draw on.
Rapport needs a richness of subjects to draw on doesn't it?
SeniorRedrings
Banned
I understand what you say,but honestly I would love to be one of those brainless wafflers who effortlessly make popular noise every time they open their mouths.
Maybe this is why we can't talk?Second long pauses to pick words more at home in the split second continuenessness of a mood.Which is what a conversation is,a mood shared amongst parties.
Dunno.
Maybe this is why we can't talk?Second long pauses to pick words more at home in the split second continuenessness of a mood.Which is what a conversation is,a mood shared amongst parties.
Dunno.
Ms Cloud
Well-known member
No, I think that's where you're mistaken. Rapport has nothing to do with subject matter. It's just two people being themselves, and allowing each other to be themselves because it's fun.
You shouldn't have to make a film, or anything else, in order to prove your credentials as a human being. Once you get out of that mindset you'll be fine.
lol I don't have a problem being interesting
You basically need to find out what's interesting to people, ideally to you both, and talk/film about that - or you need to find people who find the same things interesting that you do!!
(People have different interests so no way can you be interesting to all at the same time, or have the same interests as everyone... It helps to be generally interested in people and expand your comfort zones...)
For example, if someone loves Nature, you can film Nature... If they love dahlias, you can film dahlias... There are little videos on MANY topics - what kind of topics/films are interesting to YOU? What do you feel you could say something interesting about?
Stand up comedians sometimes speak about the most MUNDANE topics, but with a sense of humor/twist/different perspective/unexpected ending/insight...
I recommend you maybe join a drama/theatre/improvisation class/course/workshop or join a drama club - see what's available?
There are also books and articles about screenwriting/writing or vlogging
if you might choose to pursue that as a passion
You basically need to find out what's interesting to people, ideally to you both, and talk/film about that - or you need to find people who find the same things interesting that you do!!
(People have different interests so no way can you be interesting to all at the same time, or have the same interests as everyone... It helps to be generally interested in people and expand your comfort zones...)
For example, if someone loves Nature, you can film Nature... If they love dahlias, you can film dahlias... There are little videos on MANY topics - what kind of topics/films are interesting to YOU? What do you feel you could say something interesting about?
Stand up comedians sometimes speak about the most MUNDANE topics, but with a sense of humor/twist/different perspective/unexpected ending/insight...
I recommend you maybe join a drama/theatre/improvisation class/course/workshop or join a drama club - see what's available?
There are also books and articles about screenwriting/writing or vlogging
if you might choose to pursue that as a passion SeniorRedrings
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It's shocking that I need to be told this,isn't it?
That's not the problem. You can find sufficient richness of subjects to draw on for the purpose of bonding just from what's inside that magic box in front of you. You may have noticed a lot of us here have certain games in common, for example.
SeniorRedrings
Banned
What types of Games?
Card games?WOW's?
Card games?WOW's?
I meant computer games. I know a lot of people here are into WOW. I'm not. I've talked with others here quite a bit about Dragon Age, and Skyrim (obviously). Really anything that's a common interest can be good conversational material.
Cloud is right, you certainly don't have to prove your credentials. Only a dick would need you to show how popular you are in order to talk to you.
Cloud is right, you certainly don't have to prove your credentials. Only a dick would need you to show how popular you are in order to talk to you.
KnuffleBunny
Well-known member
Gasp! BLASPHEMY!!!
He he, I HATE computer games, but usually still found interesting things to talk about with people...
So it's just based on your own interests, you need to find people interested in what you are interested in
Most people like to talk about themselves, so it helps if you're generally interested in people, and/or in health, psychology, life and/or events and such...
So it's just based on your own interests, you need to find people interested in what you are interested in
Most people like to talk about themselves, so it helps if you're generally interested in people, and/or in health, psychology, life and/or events and such...
Any MMO is a massive time-sink, of course. And you can't just quit whenever you need or want to because you end up obligated to other people and could get your whole group killed if you quit at the wrong time. Plus you end up essentially forced to socialize in order to get cool stuff, often with people whom you wouldn't otherwise want to spend time with. No thank you.
^^It doesn't have to be common interests, either. A difference of opinion can also be conversation material. :
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