I have a lot of issues

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jthomas

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I'm 25 years old, and I have no interest in anything whatsoever. I sleep all day, and the only time I have motivation to get up is when I need to use the bathroom or when I get really hungry, I get up to use the bathroom.

I'm clumpsy, I make a lot of mistakes, and I can't communicate well with people. I don't have anything to talk about.

A few weeks ago I felt fine. I used to be in inpatient for treatment of some weird disorder but I was basically "seeing ****". I'm very forgetful, I don't remember things all to well.

Sometimes I try to sleep my problems out. Even if i know that it will only get worse because i'm just letting it pile up. I have no motivation whatsoever and it is making me less and less social.

Even when i get over this hump, i would probably start talking to people, and then eventually, stop talking to people. I need major help. I don't know myself. It seems people can describe me better than I can begin to better myself.
 
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jthomas

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Thanks for the warm welcome. If you noticed its hard for me to be specific and stay on topic. I can't seem to do that.
 
Waybuloo

Waybuloo

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Hello and welcome. I am clumsy and lack common sense, short term memory like a fish. Maybe you have depression, anxiety is also known to cause above symptoms. I also lack motivation, but sometimes being in a less favourable situation force my mind to find the motivation to survive. Force yourself to explore what is out there. You might find something (or someone) to interest you, and surprise yourself with a drive you didn't know you had. Happened to me.
 
Honda

Honda

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You need something new in your life... Push yourself to go for something new... & never put standards or definitions to how you should be...
 
fitftw

fitftw

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I'm 26 and have no interest in most of what life has to offer either. I sit in my room when not at school or the gym. I surf the net, watch tv, play piano or PS3. I have serious problems talking to people or paying attention. I'm thinking I might have Asperger's.
 
EscapeArtist

EscapeArtist

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Hello welcome.. You aren't alone that's for sure. I suffer from an extreme lack of motivation also. I find motivation can return with strenuous exercise...anything is possible after you see yourself improving in something like distance running. Running can bring a lot of hope into life.
Happy you found the forum, take care
 
Mr.Moon

Mr.Moon

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You are surely not alone as said. I lost motivation in many things to awhile back. I'm 26 and struggling like hell to get a job now even. I'm often daydreaming instead of doing more productive things.

Welcome welcome to ze forums!
 
jamez

jamez

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Start doing something. Anything is better than anything. Learn a skill that can be productive. Get out and exercise. Go for walks or jogs in the sunlight.

When you start feeling particularly depressed like you do, you need to wage an all out war.

I'm 25 too. **** isn't easy but it has to be done.
 
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jthomas

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Thanks for all the kind words Everyone and the warm welcome. Today I tried something new. I'm already buried in debt but my girlfriend forced me to go pay em today. She's at work(we alternate, she works from 9-5 pm gets home at 7, and I work from 7:30 pm, to 4 am so we only get to see each other when i'm off Sundays and Mondays). So I wrote the checks out and went to drop them off in the mailbox. That little step alone gave me hope. I came back in the house and wanted to go back to sleep until it's time to work. It was hard for me to get up in the morning. I think i'm almost bi-polar, 1 hour I feel like I can do it, the next hour I feel like ****. But I just wanted to let you guys know how i'm doing. This is a social phobia forum, and I don't feel like socializing in the real world. I'm struggling at work also. I could go on and on.
 
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jthomas

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EscapeArtist said:
Hello welcome.. You aren't alone that's for sure. I suffer from an extreme lack of motivation also. I find motivation can return with strenuous exercise...anything is possible after you see yourself improving in something like distance running. Running can bring a lot of hope into life.
Happy you found the forum, take care
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Do you find yourself sleeping all day only to get up when you're hungry, need to use the bathroom or when you have to go to work?

Thats what i'm dealing with. However I was able to get up to walk to the mailbox to mail stuff out. Progress!! I'm gonna try and celebrate the little things I am able to do. Right now i'm thinking about doing a little workout. I'm going to try to do it.
 
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guessed

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i'm sorry you're having such a rough time but i'm glad you found this forum. a lot of caring people who understand what you're dealing with.

welcome!
 
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jthomas

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guessed said:
i'm sorry you're having such a rough time but i'm glad you found this forum. a lot of caring people who understand what you're dealing with.

welcome!
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I don't think anyone would understand. I don't remember anything that is presented to me. I never did as a child, young adult, and adult. Plus I have a hearing problem from when I was a child.

In addition, I don't have any friends that I've known for a long time. The friends I have now I met them through college. I know them but I feel like I don't really know them that well because I don't remember their birthdays. I have to keep asking them for their birthdays every year to remember.

I think something is terribly wrong with that because people remember an entire scenario that just happened, and I would have already forgotten that scenario. People can glance at a person and tell what they wearing and what color they wearing, but i'm not able to do that, unless if I program myself to do that. Everything, and I mean EVERYTHING has to be repeated for me to GET it.
 
Inspiration

Inspiration

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I have no interest in what-so-ever. But, now, i kinda have interest to chat with you. if you don't mind talking to male asian dude?
 
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Kinetik

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I know how you feel. Most days I also just want to stay in bed, unless I have something to look forward to. It's like I just want to pass the time and not do anything productive unless I absolutely have to. Sometimes getting things done can feel good, but other times I get stressed out/overwhelmed because I had to deal with too many people in order to make it happen. You're right to take small steps though, and getting rid of some debt and working out a little is a great start. I tried to install one of those pull-up bars in one of my doorframes the other day, but it turns out I'm too tall for it. Story of my life. ::p:
 
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Feathers

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Hi & welcome to the forums!

Well, you have a girlfriend and a job, and been to college, so that's a start, no?

Have you looked into ADD and if you might have it? I think I may be ADD-ish and bipolar-ish too, with me it's nutrition-related as well, and I feel better after a walk/jog outside or being with other people, doing something productive too..
So you might want to look into the nutrition thing also? And have you been taking any (new) meds (or changed dosage) that could cause any changes? In that case consult a doctor..

As for birthdays - one word: calendars!! No one expects you to remember stuff like that, people have online or RL birthday reminders!! (whatever is easiest to you!)

I've had episodes of just wanting to sleep too.. And then highly productive episodes.. If you do have ADD or such, it may be a factor too (the book Fidget to Focus - which is great! - says that some people may be like the hare in the story with the turtle: fast running and then sleeping, while some people are more like the turtle - one is not necessarily better than the others, we're just different!!) They may be like 'incubation' periods for great creativity.. Or maybe you're just overwhelmed with work and college and stuff? (I was at a time and fell asleep on the bus..) Could you try to find a different line of work, maybe so you can hang out more with gf or interesting people or friends?

What is wrong with college friends?? - I liked people I met at the Uni best!! We are changing and maybe later on you'll reconnect with people from hometown again.. There are no rules on what kind of friends one ought to have.. They can be older, younger, you might meet some cool friends when volunteering or going to interesting courses or such..
 
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jthomas

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I think I understand what you both are saying.

To be honest, I don't know what I have and it is very frustrating. I've been to the hospital and got on meds, voluntarily got off, and I think that may be the problem. Even when I was on the meds, I never felt I had will power.

I don't know man, sometimes I just want to just give up. Today I said I wanted to go walk but I don't feel like it. Last night I had a good day at work. Today I don't know how to take it and run with it.

I should go see a doctor and see what happens, but I have no insurance just yet so I have to wait. And the waiting is what is really eating me out. I hate to wait. I have no patience. Like when I started this job in July, I was very impatient, I wanted to know it all, and I was overwhelmed when I didn't know it all. I think I overwhelm myself.

All this self diagnosis is also making me nuts. One day I think i'm depressed, the next day I think I have ADD, the next day I think I have social phobia (i truly think i do). I don't know what to think.

Just thinking about it makes me say Help Me God.
 
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