I finally did it!

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Rise Against

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I actually started a conversation with the girl i have a crush on and it went way better than i expected... I just tried to stay calm and thankfully i didnt have a panic attack, blush, or stutter lol. The conversation but wasn't very long (maybe 45 seconds) but its a good start. She seemed to be interested in me, she smiled and looked me in the eyes when she responded. Hopefully i can do it again tomorrow :cool: But i hope i don't freeze up like i have in the past. Oh by the way, im not experienced with women (ive never had a girlfriend) so should i try to start conversations often (like every day) or should i try to be mysterious and start conversations every once in a while (like once every 2 or 3 days)? She seems like an outgoing person and she told me that i need to talk more, is this a good thing, does that mean shes interested or does she think im weird because im so shy? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
 
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SalemEdgerton1

SalemEdgerton1

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Awesome man! Just be yourself, Rise. Girls love when a guy is honest. The mysterious thing tends to get old really fast (I'm very guilty of doing that with the shyness and it's really messed things up). You may feel a little uncomfortable but just keep going with it. I think you should try to talk to her often but not so much that you smother her ya know? What I'd do is maybe say hi to her and ask how her day is going every day and maybe initiate a longer conversation when she seems up to talk, so you can get to know her better. I wish you the best of luck man.
 
SickJoke

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Cool.

Try shootin the shit with a buddy beforehand, to get yourself into a talkative, positive mood.
 
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Nl54

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Good job man! Every little step in the right direction is gradual success. Yes, talk to her every chance you get. She will get the impression that you are friendly and open up to you more. Just keep the conversation casual at first, don't get excited and rush things, just relax and be yourself. Remember...you did it today, so you can do it tomorrow, no problem!! Stay positive friend :)
 
Zubie

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Ugh, I hate when people tell me I need to talk more. :confused:

But I wish you all the best. Maybe if you're too shy to talk too much with her right now, you could ask her more questions. People like to talk about themselves, or so I've been told. ::p:
 
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Rise Against

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Zubie said:
Ugh, I hate when people tell me I need to talk more. :confused:

But I wish you all the best. Maybe if you're too shy to talk too much with her right now, you could ask her more questions. People like to talk about themselves, or so I've been told. ::p:
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Yeah its really annoying when people tell me that i need to talk more... But ive been thinking that maybe they say that because they want to get to know us, not that there just judging us.
 
SalemEdgerton1

SalemEdgerton1

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Rise Against said:
Yeah its really annoying when people tell me that i need to talk more... But ive been thinking that maybe they say that because they want to get to know us, not that there just judging us.
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I think you're right in some cases at least. I think people generally are interested in getting to know people and when they see us rarely if ever say anything they get frustrated because they really want to know what kind of people we are. I've noticed how friendlier people are when they get to know me and don't feel uncomfortable or put off by the typical quietness I show them. Maybe use that as a personal goal if you truly want to talk to them more.
 
Satine

Satine

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If she suggested that you should talk more then she's hoping you'll do so. I suspect she finds it a bit strange that you don't talk all that much, but she's giving you a chance there.

Go for it - you're doing really well!
 
Argamemnon

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Rise Against said:
She seems like an outgoing person and she told me that i need to talk more, is this a good thing, does that mean shes interested or does she think im weird because im so shy? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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I'm afraid it means that she thinks there is something wrong with you, and doesn't see you as boyfriend material. I hope I'm wrong.
 
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Rise Against

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Argamemnon said:
I'm afraid it means that she thinks there is something wrong with you, and doesn't see you as boyfriend material. I hope I'm wrong.
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She actually had her friend introduce her to me about a month ago but i froze up and basically sat there like a zombie. So she must be interested in me... i just havent had the balls to go and talk to her since, until yesterday.
 
gsmax5

gsmax5

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Rise Against said:
I actually started a conversation with the girl i have a crush on and it went way better than i expected... I just tried to stay calm and thankfully i didnt have a panic attack, blush, or stutter lol. The conversation but wasn't very long (maybe 45 seconds) but its a good start. She seemed to be interested in me, she smiled and looked me in the eyes when she responded. Hopefully i can do it again tomorrow :cool: But i hope i don't freeze up like i have in the past. Oh by the way, im not experienced with women (ive never had a girlfriend) so should i try to start conversations often (like every day) or should i try to be mysterious and start conversations every once in a while (like once every 2 or 3 days)? She seems like an outgoing person and she told me that i need to talk more, is this a good thing, does that mean shes interested or does she think im weird because im so shy? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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I think you're one your way! Remember to be a little bit of an asshole, but don't overdo it; I'm sure you won't since you're on a social phobia forum. :)

Just be like "Hey, you have something in your teeth" don't go over the top.
 
jamez

jamez

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That's really good. My advice, just continue what you are doing, try to open up a bit more and I believe you are already over thinking things (try not to over think). I've been in the same situation many a times. One more thing, don't expect too much. A crush is a crush, and in all honesty you most likely don't know much about her. So, just take things from there and try to get to know her better. A step in the right direction is good so enjoy it.
 
Errordotocx

Errordotocx

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Grats Rise Against. Hopefully things continue to go well. I'm still to much of a ****in vajayjay to go up and talk to some girl I have interest in. But a storm is comin...oh and is it gonna hit hard.

...THIS SUMMER...
...Me not failing at life...
...coming soon...
 
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