I feel like I don't have a personality anymore.

[Tulicks]

I'm on a mission! to find my personality. I'm not going to give up.

A few years ago I stopped caring about the worries and concerns that are in life and as a result I detached from those emotions that effected my behavior.

The problem I'm facing now is that I can't get my emotions back. I feel completely empty and desensitized from expressing sincere and true emotion.

I don't feel cold toward emotions... I just have a hard time expressing them because I feel Empty.

I want my personality back and will do anything to get it back, I want to feel again, and Connect with those around me.

This disconnected sense of reality that I live in is really getting on my last nerve. I want to feel close to those I care for, I want to care for them with sincere feelings.

 

[xDreamseller]

I really want this too. Especially with people who I am not terrible close to. I can read apparently horrifying stories in a newspaper or on tv and it doesn't affect me at all. "I don't know them, I don't care" seems to be how I think when it comes to things like that. It's kind of a pain, as I want to feel more than that...I just...can't.

 

[MikeyC]

Unfortunately you can't "buy" personalities. I guess try to find something you find really enjoyable, like a hobby, and pursue it. You will perhaps meet like-minded people through that who you can connect with on a closer basis. That's all I can really suggest, sorry.

 

[Shyangel]

Thanks for making this thread. I feel like you've read my mind. This is exactly how I feel and it's insanely tiring...I'm going nuts because of this. It's ruling my life, it makes nothing enjoyable, I'm pushing people I care about away, and it's preventing me from moving forward in life because no one wants to be around someone who apparently doesn't give a damn. This is a serious life ruining problem. It's like my mind a fell in a dark hole there is no way out of...I'm not sure I want to take this anymore. Life is not worth living like this.

Also, on topic. I can relate, Tulicks. I know our pain all to well and I wish you the best of luck in over coming it. If you want someone to talk to, I'm very willing to lend a ear. I wish I answers for you, but I do believe there's a way it. It' just a matter of finding it.

 

[persianfan247]

I really want this too. Especially with people who I am not terrible close to. I can read apparently horrifying stories in a newspaper or on tv and it doesn't affect me at all. "I don't know them, I don't care" seems to be how I think when it comes to things like that. It's kind of a pain, as I want to feel more than that...I just...can't.

This is exactly how I feel. I also wonder whether I am permaneatly like this. It is one of the things I worry about in relations to having any relationships. Whether I can care about someone else.

 

[ultra_materialist]

I'm on a mission! to find my personality. I'm not going to give up.

A few years ago I stopped caring about the worries and concerns that are in life and as a result I detached from those emotions that effected my behavior.

The problem I'm facing now is that I can't get my emotions back. I feel completely empty and desensitized from expressing sincere and true emotion.

I don't feel cold toward emotions... I just have a hard time expressing them because I feel Empty.

I want my personality back and will do anything to get it back, I want to feel again, and Connect with those around me.

This disconnected sense of reality that I live in is really getting on my last nerve. I want to feel close to those I care for, I want to care for them with sincere feelings.

How was your personality ?

 

[Srijita52]

Maybe you being detached from your emotions was a defense mechanism. It might help to open up about how you feel to others. I don't have any answers either but good luck

 

[Waybuloo]

I never understood what having personality really meant. I have my own way of doing things and likes and dislikes, but I feel I lack a personality as well. I get easily swayed by arguments and can be indecisive. I cannot feel emotions. I can laugh at jokes and stuff and cry when I get sad or moved, but I cannot relate to people on the normal level. I thought that it was just me in the whole world that felt like this.

Lacking a distinct sense of self identity or personality traits can point to a dysfunctional childhood, where lacking love or attention or socialisation meant that you did not build the foundation blocks of your person. In that regard, I match the diagnosis because I was an empty shell as a child. Throughout my life I've had fluctuating levels of emotion. About 5 years ago I stopped feeling attached to people, left parents, home and friends and felt nothing. I felt nothing about jumping on a plane across the world to live in another country. I felt absolutely no fear, no awe, no excitement. I couldn't feel any joy being with people. I wouldn't say I was depressed, it was more like I lost the ability to feel and to connect. I feel nothing about being a parent either, though at the fundamental level the instinct is there to care for my child. If you wiped everything away in my life tomorrow I wouldn't think or feel any different. I feel that I will be happy just spending the rest of my life playing Zoo Tycoon 2 and having nobody.

It is a very strange way to be and I empathise with you, if I feel that lol. I think this is probably the way I am going to be for the rest of my life. What I can suggest to you is to go back to things in your past that made you feel emotions. Look at old photographs and visit your home to get a sense of nostalgia. Talk to old friends. Maybe it might jolt a sense of who you are or were.

 

[Waybuloo]

Thanks for making this thread. I feel like you've read my mind. This is exactly how I feel and it's insanely tiring...I'm going nuts because of this. It's ruling my life, it makes nothing enjoyable, I'm pushing people I care about away, and it's preventing me from moving forward in life because no one wants to be around someone who apparently doesn't give a damn. This is a serious life ruining problem. It's like my mind a fell in a dark hole there is no way out of...I'm not sure I want to take this anymore. Life is not worth living like this.

Also, on topic. I can relate, Tulicks. I know our pain all to well and I wish you the best of luck in over coming it. If you want someone to talk to, I'm very willing to lend a ear. I wish I answers for you, but I do believe there's a way it. It' just a matter of finding it.

I've always thought that people are normally like this. Think of it as the facebook age, everyone has fast love, fast relationships, nothing is there to stay, nothing is meaningful. I've never met anyone who cared if I gave a damn or not. Guys also don't really care if you give a damn because they just want someone on their arms, a trophy if you like, or someone to pick up the washing, or to talk or gossip with. If you left they might care but it's just a feeling that they have nobody, rather than they don't have you.

 

[MikeyC]

Guys also don't really care if you give a damn because they just want someone on their arms, a trophy if you like, or someone to pick up the washing, or to talk or gossip with.

This doesn't sound right....

 

[Waybuloo]

This doesn't sound right....

I know right, it's not right at all !

 

[Tulicks]

How was your personality ?

Pretty much the complete opposite to how I feel now. I don't even feel like I have a personality anymore... before I could relate with people, I was good at giving helpful advice, because I was very empathetic, and understanding. Now I'm like brain dead... I can't feel anything anymore. It's like I shut off. I don't want to say I stopped caring, but in a sense that's what it feels like I did. Nothing moves me anymore, nothing makes me laugh, nothing even makes me smile. It's pathetic, and disgraceful. I hate what I've become. But I'm not stopping until I find my personality again.

 

[Roman Legion]

I know how you feel, but for me I have been dealing with this for years and I think I have just grown used to it. I wish you luck in attaining your goal, but don't try too hard to make this happen.

 

[ultra_materialist]

Pretty much the complete opposite to how I feel now. I don't even feel like I have a personality anymore... before I could relate with people, I was good at giving helpful advice, because I was very empathetic, and understanding. Now I'm like brain dead... I can't feel anything anymore. It's like I shut off. I don't want to say I stopped caring, but in a sense that's what it feels like I did. Nothing moves me anymore, nothing makes me laugh, nothing even makes me smile. It's pathetic, and disgraceful. I hate what I've become. But I'm not stopping until I find my personality again.

maybe you have some sort of depression.
Do you have peaks of happiness and sadness ? Or is it emptiness al the time ?

But fist...
There is no such a thing as a person without personality. Only a person in coma don't have personality. You should use better terms...
Maybe you have a condition... For example: I was a very social person. When I got into my 18 my personality started to change, I am 23 now... i am so different that my old friends are ashamed to talk with me. What I mean is this: I have a very strange behaviour and this behaviour was categorized as Social Anxiety first by a professional and i didn't agreed with that, but as the time passed I started to think that he was right.

If you are feeling down... maybe is sadness, just that.
But if you are feeling really empty, all the time... maybe you have a condition.

The majority of the people here are afraid of women, afraid of man, afraid that someone is staring at them and stuff like that. But they are not empty, you know what I mean ?
They post pictures in some threads... they like movies...

I mean, if you have some sort of depression, you should search for help with people with depression. But first you should talk more about yourself. How long you are feeling like this ? etc etc

 

[gustavofring]

I feel like you sometimes, OP.

When I look back at when I was 16, I was so much more full of life, passion and fun then I am now at 26. For example I looked at some old comics I drew, and such spontanity, humor and creativity seems now impossible. This too goes for just interaction with people, etc. I was in an evolving state, now I seem to be in this stagnating state.The spontanity seems to be replaced by repressed emotional, joyless, self defeating robot-behavior.

Sometimes I find that returning to some things I loved back then or thinking back of then helps me get back in touch with my "old" self.

 

[lilmutegirl]

I feel like I've never really had a personality (or at least, not one I was comfortable with). I've always been anxious and awkward. I've always been afraid to try new things. For years, I've had friends with very distinct personalities (almost like living stereotypes). They were always outspoken about their values, beliefs, activities, etc. I don't feel very strongly about many topics, and those that I do, I don't feel confident enough to voice my opinion.
I always thought that if I did a certain type of exercise, or dressed a certain way, or liked certain music, I'd be happy. I'm totally random, which I've learned to like, but I still feel pretty empty.

 

[MikeyC]

I don't feel confident enough to voice my opinion.

I knew a girl like this. I sometimes hold back my opinion, too, but not all the time.

I always thought that if I did a certain type of exercise, or dressed a certain way, or liked certain music, I'd be happy. I'm totally random, which I've learned to like, but I still feel pretty empty.

You are your own personality this way. That's a good thing.

 

[Meggy0001]

That is how I feel too :/ It's like I am not myself anymore and to be honest I don't know who I am or who I was so it's hard to be myself again if that makes sense. Go for it and don't stop

 

[Imaginary]

Pretty much the complete opposite to how I feel now. I don't even feel like I have a personality anymore... before I could relate with people, I was good at giving helpful advice, because I was very empathetic, and understanding. Now I'm like brain dead... I can't feel anything anymore. It's like I shut off. I don't want to say I stopped caring, but in a sense that's what it feels like I did. Nothing moves me anymore, nothing makes me laugh, nothing even makes me smile. It's pathetic, and disgraceful. I hate what I've become. But I'm not stopping until I find my personality again.

U're just like me~ TAT I cant help u, sorry~ But I ask u to keep moving forward~

 

[Tulicks]

U're just like me~ TAT I cant help u, sorry~ But I ask u to keep moving forward~

There's no other place to go than forward. Thank you for your encouragement.

I have confidence for all of us who go through these dark and despairing roads that we will all come to a place of Completion and happiness as long as we don't lose heart. We just need to keep moving forward, and trying our best to go through life with what we got to work with, as little as it may be for some of us.