Okay, I'm making this its own thread because I really need help.
Do you know how I can make a guy who I (like inTooShyShy's thread) know is attracted to me, but who is so scared he cannot even bring himself to talk to me anymore, comfortable enough to talk to me?
He is afraid of rejection/closeness I believe. He won't answer my messages encouraging him to talk to me, but he sometimes talks publicly to me on mutual friends' walls (yeah, FB) and talks 'obliquely' through other people, and he's not getting me out of his online world when I've also wrote to him saying he should block me on the sites we're on if he doesn't want me trying to contact him.
We only talk online, so I can't do any of the in-person things that might help.
Any move I make to try to get closer to him results in him getting very scared and shying away. But if I leave him alone to try to give him space and make him more comfortable again, I think he assumes I'm not interested and backs away.
We used to be able to talk much more easily but as things have progressed it gets worse and he just seems paralyzed now.
He's not just socially anxious, he's avoidant.
Any ideas? Thank you very much for reading.
Do you know how I can make a guy who I (like inTooShyShy's thread) know is attracted to me, but who is so scared he cannot even bring himself to talk to me anymore, comfortable enough to talk to me?
He is afraid of rejection/closeness I believe. He won't answer my messages encouraging him to talk to me, but he sometimes talks publicly to me on mutual friends' walls (yeah, FB) and talks 'obliquely' through other people, and he's not getting me out of his online world when I've also wrote to him saying he should block me on the sites we're on if he doesn't want me trying to contact him.
We only talk online, so I can't do any of the in-person things that might help.
Any move I make to try to get closer to him results in him getting very scared and shying away. But if I leave him alone to try to give him space and make him more comfortable again, I think he assumes I'm not interested and backs away.
We used to be able to talk much more easily but as things have progressed it gets worse and he just seems paralyzed now.
He's not just socially anxious, he's avoidant.
Any ideas? Thank you very much for reading.