How should I quit my job?

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I do not like my current job for two reasons: the nightshifts weigh me down and my manager is a really aggressive, angry person. This stresses me out and has a big impact on me, I need to do something about it. I could try and ask for less shifts which would help with the fatigue. He would probably get angry at me, however I have worked there for a while and never called in sick, so I’m guessing he wouldn’t fire me? But even if this worked I would probably still get stressed out just dealing with this guy, even with less shifts.


If I get another job I don’t know how I’m supposed to get a reference from this place. If I ask for one while I’m there they will ask me why I am leaving a try and convince me to stay. If I quit, then I’m guessing they will ask why and I will have to come up with a reason. So then I can’t really use them as a reference until a certain amount of time has passed. And even then, they might be like, why don’t you come back and work here?


I’m thinking of quitting and not working for a while. I’m only studying part time atm so that may look bad. However, I think the extra time could really help work on myself socially, and I don’t really need the money. I was thinking, maybe I could tell them that I am moving and that I have another job close to where I’m going to be living lined up. That way, unlike if I say I need to focus on school or pretend I got an internship or something, it won’t be so weird if I call up in two months or so and ask for a reference. What do you think?



Maybe managers are in general doucebags and I’m being escapist and better off learning to deal with this. It also feels good earing money, even if its just to put in the bank. However I doubt I will get this amount of time to work on myself again. And if I keep the job, I don’t know if I will be able to deal with everything else or not. And if I quit it, I feel I know I will.
 
MikeyC

MikeyC

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I think you should try working less shifts for a little while and see how that works for you.

If that doesn't work, quit. You don't even really have to tell them why you're quitting specifically. Definitely try to leave on good terms in case you need a reference later on.
 
montejocarlo

montejocarlo

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whatever you decide on doing, spare yourself the trouble of weaving and maintaining false stories. it can ricochet back on you.
 
WeirdyMcGee

WeirdyMcGee

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You should say that you need a change of pace and scenery because
the nightshifts weigh me down and my manager is a really aggressive, angry person. This stresses me out and has a big impact on me, I need to do something about it.
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And if you don't think you can say it in person-- write a letter of resignation or something to that effect.
It's a perfectly acceptable excuse for wanting to quit.
 
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Agent_Violet

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When someone quits, I prefer they give a letter of resignation and no less than 2 weeks notice. They don't need to give a reason. Honestly, I found explanations to be childish and unprofessional so I'd rather not see them.

I've had my share of douchebag managers over the years but I found not all of them are complete jerks. most of them are just doing their job and trying to find a healthy balance between being a boss and being a nice person...it's hard to be nice and be a boss because people tend to walk all over a nice boss.

Some people go through crazy amounts of jobs before they find a place where they fit. i can't even count the number of jobs i've had since i started working at 15. ;-)
 
HH

HH

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If you don't need the money that much then leave and concentrate on your studies. Try to leave on good terms (don't go burning your bridges because it usually comes back to bite you in the bum later)
 
OceanMist

OceanMist

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I've worked over 15 different jobs and can tell you that at least half of bosses are at least somewhat mean, and oh about a quarter of them are ultimate dicks. I've been bullied by bosses before, had a couple jobs where I was bullied about every single day. One manager even called me retarded, a couple others made fun of my SA over and over again. Something I've noticed is that there are bosses that like to yell or tell you things in a really rude way.

The point is bosses around the world are often very assertive and many of them can take their assertive aggressiveness way overboard. A study was done and was published by AP or whatever and said that people's number one thing they would want to do at work is fire their boss or something along those lines, lol. So, it's not weird that your boss isn't exactly friendly, there are many other bosses out there like your boss.

As far as your situation goes, I can't really tell you what I'd do because I don't know your boss and don't know every detail about your situation. From what you've written, it sounds like you should continue working where you are because there is a good chance that the next place you go, the boss will be less than pleasant again.

From my own experience, I have quit too many jobs when I should have stayed and am now suffering the consequence of that as I am only working part time and can't afford my own place. That's why I'm saying you should probably stay, but again, I don't know your exact situation or exactly what you are going through.
 
mikebird

mikebird

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I agree with OceanMist

Loyality is everything. However difficult it is to maintain if you don't like it, stick with it.

After my first few jobs, as a graduate, I was fired. It feels weird. I was at my third place for 2.5 years. As the criticism piled up, I got really stressed, being suspended (at home) for months, on full pay. Gardening Leave. I felt on top of the world, enjoying my job, but suspension is horrible. Eventually, the point of getting fired made me want to quit, because I wanted to be the one with the power to decide, where the company loses a resource. This was my worst ever mistake.

I wanted to take my telecomms knowledge with me and find better. Life's gone downhill forever since.

Love your boss. This was never what I wanted, but if I'd pleaded them to let me continue, I'd be happy now, and wealthy. I may have not come to this site.

Nowadays, I endeavour to be a loyal minion, peasant, pawn, but this will never work. There's a inner self-hatred. Never let it happen. Just do what you're told.
 
LazyHermitCrab

LazyHermitCrab

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Before you quit maybe you could ask to work a day shift? I'm not sure what job this is but you could work 10 hours or less per week? If you wanna quit just type up a letter and give it to the manager before you leave.... easy ;) Just make sure there's nothing else you want to try at the place you are now.
 
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So do you think it is bad if I go without working for a while? I think it would help me be able to deal with this stuff better. I was planning to get another job just for the experience anyway. I have been there for over a year, so I don't see why I need to stay.
 
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