How Old Were You When You Lost Your Path in Life?

[mikebird]

All was fine, until 2001, at age 25, when my prospective fiancee, buying property together, she decided to give up and leave after 4.5 years. That turned my life upside-down, although I didn't realise that for a few years.

Stuck with a mortgage to pay by myself, work just timed out after that...

Scratching in the dirt, ever since... for girlfriends, and work.

 

[SeniorRedrings]

I do not feel I have lost anything by losing my way.
In fact I have gained a lot.

The torch of my heart was lit and it chased away the cold.

 

[naji12]

right now,,.,.

 

[dead24]

since i started college. Im about to graduate but my awkwardness reached new heights, i got no friends and nowhere to go.

 

[Agent_Violet]

I haven't lost my path. i just realized I was on a path and got restless and anxious at the thought of having to stay on some path of life. I started looking for meaning in everything and when that happened i began pushing away those relationships i perceived as being without purpose.

I struggle daily with wanting everything to mean something deeper...i pull away from things and people because of that.

 

[MrJones]

I don't think I lost it so maybe I shouldn't post on this thread, but I think I'm just too unexperienced in life for having losing it already. I still have those bright red arrows to show me where to go... and still I almost jump off the road a couple of times in the past.

Now I'm just wobbling from side to side of the road, just knowing that I must go ahead and not looking back. Don't know where I'm going or where I'm coming from, but I know that I can't stay here anymore. I have to move. Somewhere else.

And in front of me, not so far away, I see the crossroads waiting for me and I have no idea what to do once I get there.

 

[Fighter86]

7 years ago, coming to 8, frightening thinking of it. Things improved since 2 half years back when I got employed, but have been stucked at the same spot since. It's such a hassle, fighting questions yet again on bfs, what I do over the weekends etc, when I speak to my colleagues. It's embarrassing that I did nothing, I normally hide it quite well, but at this new job, I feel people have spotted me for the loser I am

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

I have always had "issues," though I would say that about three years ago things started getting hard for me, lost contact friends, was stuck with a job I hated. But then last year it really went downhill when I lost that job I hated. Instead of seizing that opportunity to branch off into something new, I became a hermit. Without money I can't really plan for a future. And yet, I am too anxious to look for work. It is a vicious cycle.

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

I haven't lost my path. i just realized I was on a path and got restless and anxious at the thought of having to stay on some path of life. I started looking for meaning in everything and when that happened i began pushing away those relationships i perceived as being without purpose.

I struggle daily with wanting everything to mean something deeper...i pull away from things and people because of that.

This. I struggle with the same thing.

 

[lilmutegirl]

I don't know that I was every really on a path. If so, it didn't last long. I have felt my entire life has been random chaos and I am trying to get on track now (and I'm pushing 30).

 

[JamesSmith]

I've always been a loser. I made a few friends here and there, but I've always been the weird guy that doesn't talk to anyone and never gets talked to. I've been that way since grade school.

 

[Kiwong]

It is more common to discover ant lions scratching around in the dirt.

I lost my path about ten years ago and thought I was lost, but since then I have found new and completely unexpected brilliant paths to explore.

 

[coyote]

my path has forked and branched off many times.

i always chose the direction i thought was the best at the time,

and i wound up here instead of there.

but since here is the only place that exists,

i guess i made it to the right place.

 

[Graeme1988]

16 years old. My grades started to slip in secondary school, pressure to do well from teachers and my parents got to me because I knew I couldn't live up to their expectations. The isolation socially because severe anxiety. That feeling of always being on the outside looking in made me wonder why I was even bothering with school anymore. I was a loser, an outcast.

And actually being told to my face that I lacked confidence and my view of life was wrong by the head teacher probably didn't help things either.

 

[KiaKaha]

Probably around 25 or so. Got mixed up with the wrong sorts. Have a conviction against me, havent been the same ever since. I try to convince myself that I am a decent guy, and I think I am for the most part, although its hard not to dwell on past foolishness. Met an American girl at age 27 who I was enamored with, which ended for various reasons, and hurt a lot. That and all the other small things that have built up over time have mostly shattered what little confidence I had to begin with. Been living in a state of complacency for quite some time now. I dont have enough support apparently anxiety/depression isnt serious enough to be given support or to have it recognized (unless you can pay for private healthcare)

I also started to develop a perfectionism attitude... I have set standards for myself that I will never feel satisfied with. If I am not the best looking, most successful, best at everything, accepted and liked by everyone.. I am nothing. At least I have the realization that I do this.. stopping myself from thinking this way is difficult.

 

[chrisjurban]

fourth grade...it's when the perfectionism started and it evolved into a whole new way of looking at the world that, for me, was completely maladaptive. then i had another paradigm shift in like, 10th grade after my grandfather died. i started to see things in black and white in an effort to avoid complexity and therefore lack of control...it really ****ed up my flow.

 

[Nanita]

I started looking for meaning in everything and when that happened i began pushing away those relationships i perceived as being without purpose.

I struggle daily with wanting everything to mean something deeper...i pull away from things and people because of that.

That is exactly how I would describe myself.

And it started at age 18. I lost interest in people, things and hobbies that were not really meaningful to me anylonger. I began feeling lonely and different. And depressed. All leading to being nervous around people. And just nervous in general.

 

[ILovePocky]

Honestly I don't think I ever was on a good path. I've been pretty messed up as far back as I can remember.

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

When I was 13. I went through the most crap in life when I was very young (under 10 years of age) but all of a sudden when I reached 13 I became extremely depressed and suicidal. Since then, I became less social and started isolating myself from people more. So it pretty much all began after I went through a social hell in junior high and entered the even more hellish high school.

 

[nosferatu]

I don't know, I've never really thought about it. maybe when I was in my teens? Maybe I was never on a good path?