Darker Than Black
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how long did it took u to get over someone
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I'm definitely guilty of falling in love with every girl who shows me the slightest bit of attention.
My previous crush was on a family friend's daughter. She's a lot younger than me and she's shy as well (not as shy as me obviously). The crush lasted 3 months. But I got over her a few weeks after she moved away.. It was absolutely disabling while it lasted. And I knew, rationally, that it was not gonna go anywhere. But day and night I couldn't stop thinking about her. The obsession was consuming my life and affecting my work. My boss would be displeased for sure if he know that he was paying me $15 daydreaming.
The girl I have a crush on at the moment is an interesting case.. we happen to live in the same building; we're in the same courses; we have interesting conversations; and I know she likes me too. But I just know that this is going to end in disaster if I don't just get over her. Based on past experienced hat these infatuations can do to me, i know better. I should just avoid her for now, otherwise i might actually fail school.
My previous crush was on a family friend's daughter. She's a lot younger than me and she's shy as well (not as shy as me obviously). The crush lasted 3 months. But I got over her a few weeks after she moved away.. It was absolutely disabling while it lasted. And I knew, rationally, that it was not gonna go anywhere. But day and night I couldn't stop thinking about her. The obsession was consuming my life and affecting my work. My boss would be displeased for sure if he know that he was paying me $15 daydreaming.
The girl I have a crush on at the moment is an interesting case.. we happen to live in the same building; we're in the same courses; we have interesting conversations; and I know she likes me too. But I just know that this is going to end in disaster if I don't just get over her. Based on past experienced hat these infatuations can do to me, i know better. I should just avoid her for now, otherwise i might actually fail school.
agoraphobickatie
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i've been in a few serious relationships.. the longest being almost three years.. the last relationship i was in was pretty much perfect, we always got along and he was the kind of guy that showed me he loved me, i mean i knew that i meant everything to him and it was an amazing feeling.. we had been living together when my SA spiked and i became extremely agoraphobic.. we stayed together for a month and i quit my job and stayed home every day and he came home from work and did his best to help and support me.. out of nowhere, during the height of my depression/anxiety he broke my little heart and basically said he didn't know what was happening and didn't think he felt the same.. i had to pack up all my shit and move out =/ dammit! haha.. i had to leave a place that i had made my home after a few years of living place to place with friends or relatives... and anyway, through all of that, i find that i have a pretty damn strong mind when it comes to the relationship thing.. nothing can get in the way of my faith that one day i'll be truly in love and live 'happily ever after'... it's only been about four months, and i can't say that i'm 100% over it (okaaay maybe 95%, hehe 
), but i got done with crying my eyes out after a few weeks, and i know that if he suddenly decided he'd made a mistake and asked for me back, i wouldn't go back to him (that's a great feeling... i win! :: haha) ..it just didn't work out, if it was meant to be, then we'd be together... the way i see it, every failed relationship is just a way for me to learn what i truly want in a relationship and what true love really is.. so i wait for that day that i'm with someone and say "damn... this is what i was missing??" i know i'm very strong in relationship situations and i do have hope and faith.. i wish a lot of others were the same way because heartbreak can really tear people apart =/
), but i got done with crying my eyes out after a few weeks, and i know that if he suddenly decided he'd made a mistake and asked for me back, i wouldn't go back to him (that's a great feeling... i win! :: haha) ..it just didn't work out, if it was meant to be, then we'd be together... the way i see it, every failed relationship is just a way for me to learn what i truly want in a relationship and what true love really is.. so i wait for that day that i'm with someone and say "damn... this is what i was missing??" i know i'm very strong in relationship situations and i do have hope and faith.. i wish a lot of others were the same way because heartbreak can really tear people apart =/
agoraphobickatie
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any reason is a good reason to be against drugs, barry.. haha
i feel you about being scared and all, but you have to know that not everyone is going to be that one girl, ya know? this is where you just have to have excellent judgment and drop a girl at the first sign of some craziness, haha... i know i don't know your situation, and you've probably heard what i just said a million times, but best wishes for ya, bud!
i feel you about being scared and all, but you have to know that not everyone is going to be that one girl, ya know? this is where you just have to have excellent judgment and drop a girl at the first sign of some craziness, haha... i know i don't know your situation, and you've probably heard what i just said a million times, but best wishes for ya, bud!
jmroszczak
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the only Love i have ever experienced is cyber relationships... O.O
That said they were/are? still very emotional...The first one I got my heart broken completely and it took me months to get over her and the 2nd..I had my heart broken about 5 times I guess she had hers too..Anyways with the second I think it hurts more because she was my best friend before I fell for her..and it still turned out bad..I think now we are at the point where we both no its not going anywhere but we still continued to be "friends" and still tell one another we love each other..very unhealthy. I personally think Online relationships are just horrible(at least for people who don't leave their house like me!) but every time we broke up we always got back together O.O
That said they were/are? still very emotional...The first one I got my heart broken completely and it took me months to get over her and the 2nd..I had my heart broken about 5 times
I guess she had hers too..Anyways with the second I think it hurts more because she was my best friend before I fell for her..and it still turned out bad..I think now we are at the point where we both no its not going anywhere but we still continued to be "friends" and still tell one another we love each other..very unhealthy. I personally think Online relationships are just horrible(at least for people who don't leave their house like me!) but every time we broke up we always got back together O.O
Pink_Paula
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I get over people pretty quickly, i'd say a week at the most i don't believe in making a fool of myself and begging them to come back or explain why we broke up, if it's not meant to be it's not meant to be!
PennyLane
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When I was in my teens it took me literally years to get over people. Both guys I fell for were 10 years older than me and so I guess it meant much more to me than to them but at the time I didn't understand. One of them hurt me continuously (which I allowed) for at least 5 years into my twenties. Now he tells me he loves and I tell him...no chance!!
My last relationship, here at uni lasted a year and a half. We broke up 9 months ago and I'd say it took me 7 months to properly get over him. He lives next door to me and I have to walk past his bedroom everyday. I think it would have been quicker if that wasn't the case.
Also I think SA blows this stuff out of proportion...we don't have loads of people to go out, have fun and forget about the other person like they do. I reckon we all worry because of our issues that maybe we won't meet someone else too.
I've learnt that every time I think it hurts so much it won't get better...it does! and every time I think I won't love again...I do...and usually more than the last one!!
My last relationship, here at uni lasted a year and a half. We broke up 9 months ago and I'd say it took me 7 months to properly get over him. He lives next door to me and I have to walk past his bedroom everyday. I think it would have been quicker if that wasn't the case.
Also I think SA blows this stuff out of proportion...we don't have loads of people to go out, have fun and forget about the other person like they do. I reckon we all worry because of our issues that maybe we won't meet someone else too.
I've learnt that every time I think it hurts so much it won't get better...it does! and every time I think I won't love again...I do...and usually more than the last one!!
FountainandFairfax
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I've dated people for a year, and when it ended, hardly looked back at all. And then I've dated people for 6 weeks, and when it ended, felt like a stick in the mud for a year.
I think having a strong idea of who you are and what you're looking for helps in those bad breakup situations. If someone doesn't like who you are in that case, it's easier to say "Oh well, this is who I am, I have to stay true to myself. So be it."
I think having a strong idea of who you are and what you're looking for helps in those bad breakup situations. If someone doesn't like who you are in that case, it's easier to say "Oh well, this is who I am, I have to stay true to myself. So be it."
I don't think I've truly ever had anyone to get over. I was married, but I was severely depressed at the time we were dating and decided to get married. Once I got over the cloud of depression (a few years later) I came to realize that I wasn't actually in love with him, just the idea of love- and I was in a pretty bad spot when he initially showed interest in me, so I latched onto him. I figured out that I didn't even like him and wasn't attracted to him in the least, but I hesitated for a while because we have children, and probably because of pride- not wanting to admit to the world that I had made a mistake. When I left him, I was relieved/happy, and I've never missed him or looked back and wished I was with him again.
So I don't think I've truly ever been in love, and I've never even been infatuated with a person to the extent that I can't forget about them right away if they show zero interest in me.
So I don't think I've truly ever been in love, and I've never even been infatuated with a person to the extent that I can't forget about them right away if they show zero interest in me.