^ Yes this.
I was also trying to say this but you put it much better in a brief and laconic way.
How important is appearance?
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^ Yes this.
I was also trying to say this but you put it much better in a brief and laconic way.
Well, I'm not that good at explaining so i try to say it in a simple manner.
But no worries that's what's cool here, you can start a sentence and other people can finish it because they feel the same.
I got this friend, he has about 3 different sweaters. And he's fat. SO first you're like .. ok.. but when you get to know him, you don't 'see' the clothes anymore you see what he really is. His personality. Which is totally awesome by the way and i really look up to him
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Pacific_Loner
Pirate from the North Pole
Society sometimes forces us to do that in order to survive (to find a job or be accepted, by example)
And the way we dress is basically just material covering our skin,
The way we interpret its meaning is mostly a matter of what our culture has taught us, I think....
So who can really tell if someone's clothing reflects or not one's personality?
kihira
1
^ Finding and wearing clothes for job interviews has caused immense anguish in the past
It's delightful when adults do this. One person I see around is always dressed as a pirate, another dresses alternatively as either an explorer in a safari suit; a sea captain; or a scot in a kilt.
It's delightful when adults do this. One person I see around is always dressed as a pirate, another dresses alternatively as either an explorer in a safari suit; a sea captain; or a scot in a kilt.
Helmaninquiel
Well-known member
I've been told that beauty fades and whats underneath still remains.
WeirdyMcGee
Well-known member
My own appearance is much much more important to me than the appearance of others. My standards for myself are impossibly high but I don't hold any standards for anyone outside of myself. People are beautiful. Everyone *but* me, anyways.
I still won't feel like I'm 'as good' as anyone else-- no matter how I wear my hair or how trendy my clothes are- doesn't matter.
I do like to attempt to look nice for my own sake.
I don't spend much money at all on clothes/cosmetics/hair/nails and I never have.
I work with what I have and buy things used or on sale.
No point in living beyond my means just to try and 'fit in' - I'll never fit in and that's fine... or I'd like to think it is anyways~
I still won't feel like I'm 'as good' as anyone else-- no matter how I wear my hair or how trendy my clothes are- doesn't matter.
I do like to attempt to look nice for my own sake.
I don't spend much money at all on clothes/cosmetics/hair/nails and I never have.
I work with what I have and buy things used or on sale.
No point in living beyond my means just to try and 'fit in' - I'll never fit in and that's fine... or I'd like to think it is anyways~
worrywort
Well-known member
I definitely believe that what's in my heart is the most important thing, but I just wonder sometimes whether I value my outside appearance too little. I used to spend barely any time or money on my appearance because I felt it would be superficial to do so. But in recent years I've started investing a little more energy into my appearance and I've definitely noticed an improvement. I feel much more confident, like my identity has become more defined, and I've even found that people treat me a little better too. Now that I dress like a guy who knows what he's talking about, people treat me like a guy who knows what he's talking about, which in turn has made me begin to behave like a guy who knows what he's talking about, until eventually I actually start to believe that I'm a guy who knows what he's talking about! That's the power of costumes! If you wear a costume long enough you'll eventually become that character.
coyote
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cool - i want to live there!
wait.... you're not in a mental institution, are you?
are there alot of people dressed in all white there?
Appearance is very important to other people I think, it's fairly important to me but I wont judge a relationship on someones looks. Everyones beautiful, you just need to look
coyote
Well-known member
Damn you coyote, I should be offended by the things you say, but they just make me smile. Grr
upndwn
Well-known member
It is no secret that physical appearance is a very important trait in modern western society. Beautiful people have an easier time getting ahead since they make a better first impression. Of course inner beauty is also valued, but that's not visible to the naked eye so you actually have to get to know a person to see how special they really are.
Beauty is also in the eye of the beholder. What one person finds attractive might be appalling to others. This is often connected to the subculture a person belongs to. F.ex I would rank myself as average looking, but I have chosen a lifestyle which doesn't appeal to most people, I dress in black and listen to metal and goth music, have long dark hair and a goatee. Other people within the metal/goth scene might find me more attractive, while the average person might find my appearance intimidating or strange.
Personal grooming and hygiene also plays a big part. If you dress in rags and never showers or cut your hair, 99% of people will scorn you and avoid you like the plague. If you always wear stylish and clean clothes, comb your hair and wash and shower regularly (which is both the cultural norm and important to battle disease and sickness), you will have a much easier time mingling with people.
Unfortunately for people suffering from mental illness like Social anxiety, Bipolar, Depression etc. these conditions will reflect on the outside making you less attractive in the eyes of many people. You might sweat, flinch, stutter or avert your eyes/look down when people address you, all physical signs that makes your appearance less appealing. Self-confidence is a very important trait (which I unfortunately lack, but have become pretty good to fake) for making other people see you as a more attractive. Luckily self confidence can be trained and (as in my case) may be faked with experience.
Beauty is also in the eye of the beholder. What one person finds attractive might be appalling to others. This is often connected to the subculture a person belongs to. F.ex I would rank myself as average looking, but I have chosen a lifestyle which doesn't appeal to most people, I dress in black and listen to metal and goth music, have long dark hair and a goatee. Other people within the metal/goth scene might find me more attractive, while the average person might find my appearance intimidating or strange.
Personal grooming and hygiene also plays a big part. If you dress in rags and never showers or cut your hair, 99% of people will scorn you and avoid you like the plague. If you always wear stylish and clean clothes, comb your hair and wash and shower regularly (which is both the cultural norm and important to battle disease and sickness), you will have a much easier time mingling with people.
Unfortunately for people suffering from mental illness like Social anxiety, Bipolar, Depression etc. these conditions will reflect on the outside making you less attractive in the eyes of many people. You might sweat, flinch, stutter or avert your eyes/look down when people address you, all physical signs that makes your appearance less appealing. Self-confidence is a very important trait (which I unfortunately lack, but have become pretty good to fake) for making other people see you as a more attractive. Luckily self confidence can be trained and (as in my case) may be faked with experience.
mikebird
Banned
At home, I'm generally naked. Nobody is here. No point.
When I go to an interview in a suit & tie, & in summer I wonder if employers would see me obsessive in a suit, rather than relaxing with no tie, and sleeveless. Which one would impress the interviewer?
I'd prefer shorts and sandals for an interview. Ain't tried yet. Maybe it's my downfall? I follow etiquette to get a professional job...
When i get home, i pull everything off instantly, open the windows, and feel good
When I go to an interview in a suit & tie, & in summer I wonder if employers would see me obsessive in a suit, rather than relaxing with no tie, and sleeveless. Which one would impress the interviewer?
I'd prefer shorts and sandals for an interview. Ain't tried yet. Maybe it's my downfall? I follow etiquette to get a professional job...
When i get home, i pull everything off instantly, open the windows, and feel good
mikebird
Banned
Vanity is not a favourite.
I'd prefer a lady in trainers much more than stillettos. More muscular than bony & skinny. Someone who can lift their own weight. Slapstik puts me off. Clothes mean little to me, as caviar is unnecessary. A pair of combats or dungarees gets me horny.
A game of squash rather than DVD watching.
Whooooops. Sorry
I'd prefer a lady in trainers much more than stillettos. More muscular than bony & skinny. Someone who can lift their own weight. Slapstik puts me off. Clothes mean little to me, as caviar is unnecessary. A pair of combats or dungarees gets me horny.
A game of squash rather than DVD watching.
Whooooops. Sorry
BleedTheFreak
Well-known member
I'm obsessed with my own appearance but I couldn't care less about the way other people look. I try to rationalize that everyone has things about themself that they don't like, and that I'm (supposedly) an adult and that (most) people don't judge you on looks alone. Unfortunately, when I'm ready to leave the house all of the rationalization goes out the window and I'm left struggling with myself in the mirror.