How do you feel when you see others enjoying with friends

[CursedSoul]

Does it feel like throwing up?erfect:

 

[Ignace]

Not exactly with those words. :: But it doesn't feel enjoyable indeed ..

 

[KerrBear]

I wish that I had a friendship. Hearing other people laugh and having a good time while I'm not in my own situation makes me sad and lonely. I think to myself that I should be happy too, but I'm not. I feel like I deserve happiness but I just don't get it.

 

[Agent_Violet]

I'm happy for them...if that's what makes their life complete and they have it,then that's awesome.I used to wish all it took was friends and fun to make me happy but I'm glad I need different things than that.

 

[coldhart]

i accept the fact that im not really good making friends, yeah im a loner type of person, i feel sad and troubled when i see others happy and enjoy themselves each others company. And i dont talk often, my mind sometimes go blank in the middle of conversation.. :-(

 

[jaim38]

I try to avoid them because I'm very anxious around groups of people. I've been picked on by groups before. They can have as much as fun as they want for all I care, but they better leave me alone.

 

[AdamE]

It makes me feel terrible. But the very worst is when I see the one friend I do have enjoying herself with friends - it makes me feel so jealous, and afraid that she is going to stop wanting to be friends with me, and who could blame her since those other people are obviously so much better and more fun to be friends with than me?

 

[CursedSoul]

It makes me feel terrible. But the very worst is when I see the one friend I do have enjoying herself with friends - it makes me feel so jealous, and afraid that she is going to stop wanting to be friends with me, and who could blame her since those other people are obviously so much better and more fun to be friends with than me?

I'd second that:kickingmyself:

 

[Hellhound]

I feel envious of everyone who is happy. Doesn't matter what they're doing.

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

Well, when I'm at a big event where there's a lot of people mingling and enjoying themselves, I feel lonely and out of place. I wish I was like them and could just go up and talk to people.
But then again, I guess the world needs quiet and reserved people. What if we all were really outgoing?.....That being said, sometimes the situation demands my interaction or I wish to be interacting but can't.

 

[FallenFeathers]

It doesn't bother me really. I try not to wish my situation on other people or resent them for leading the life I wish I could. When I'm feeling very low mood wise and lonely, it can cut really deep seeing say a couple holding hands through a park... and any really sweet acts of romance.

That does hurt a little and I get a pang of longing. But I try and turn that pain into motivation, stuff like that is what I remind myself of when I'm feeling like my problems are too hard to fight.

 

[OceanMist]

Great question.

For me, I'm just used to it and don't really think about it much. I'm so used to seeing people with friends when I'm on my delivery job, it's just normal to me now.

I've learned that jealousy makes people feel like crap so I try to avoid jealousy when I can.

I don't have friends, btw. Wish I did, wish i did, lol.

If anyone wants to be friends and lives near me, let me know, haha.

 

[1BlackSheep]

It doesn't bother me really. I try not to wish my situation on other people or resent them for leading the life I wish I could. When I'm feeling very low mood wise and lonely, it can cut really deep seeing say a couple holding hands through a park... and any really sweet acts of romance.

That does hurt a little and I get a pang of longing. But I try and turn that pain into motivation, stuff like that is what I remind myself of when I'm feeling like my problems are too hard to fight.

That's a healthy way of looking at it! I'm trying to re-train my brain to think more along those lines.

 

[Lonely_Writer]

It depends. If I'm having a good time with them, it's great.

However, there are other times when I see people having a good time that I long for companionship again. It's painful being alone. Sometimes I can go days without talking to anyone.

 

[Barrier]

I always think "Why isn't that me? Why can't I have that?" :/

 

[Dreamscape]

I feel that this reminder that something in my life is terribly wrong.

 

[IntheLabyrinth]

I hate it! I am so jealous of them. I would trade places with a really outgoing, non-anxious person who has lots of friends and a significant other without a second thought. Of course, I still realize they have problems too but at least they have support. It is rare that a person doesn't long for friendship and companionship. From an evolutionary standpoint, being alone would have been a death sentence so that trait didn't last. I think a lot of loners such as myself try to convince themselves that they like being alone but that's just denial. If you are offended by that last comment, I apologize in advance but that is just what I believe.

 

[OceanMist]

I hate it! I am so jealous of them. I would trade places with a really outgoing, non-anxious person who has lots of friends and a significant other without a second thought. Of course, I still realize they have problems too but at least they have support. It is rare that a person doesn't long for friendship and companionship. From an evolutionary standpoint, being alone would have been a death sentence so that trait didn't last. I think a lot of loners such as myself try to convince themselves that they like being alone but that's just denial. If you are offended by that last comment, I apologize in advance but that is just what I believe.

I love what you wrote here and agree with all of it.

The truth is that every human being on this planet desires friendship and companionship.

Anyone who tells you any different has found a way to lie to themselves so they don't have to do one of the most difficult things in the world: connect with another human being.

 

[Lonely_Writer]

I hate it! I am so jealous of them. I would trade places with a really outgoing, non-anxious person who has lots of friends and a significant other without a second thought. Of course, I still realize they have problems too but at least they have support. It is rare that a person doesn't long for friendship and companionship. From an evolutionary standpoint, being alone would have been a death sentence so that trait didn't last. I think a lot of loners such as myself try to convince themselves that they like being alone but that's just denial. If you are offended by that last comment, I apologize in advance but that is just what I believe.

Very well-said. We're hard-wired to feel empathy and relate with other people. When we don't we fall into a trap. You're wise for understanding yourself. Honestly, I think that's the best medicine we can give ourselves.

 

[Earthcircle]

I am very reclusive, so I almost never see people doing this. The first good day in my life will be the day I die.