How do you deal with extremely cocky,overconfident jerk guys

gustavofring

gustavofring

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I mostly do my best avoiding getting into contact the vain cocky fratboy type guys, but sometimes at parties or in daily life you meet them. They will do anything to prove their alpha male status, even at the cost of others. I often have these kind of subtle confrontations with pompuous gentlemen because I really dispize macho behavior. I'm just worlds apart from these guys in the way I behave, it's like a clash of two dimensions or something.
 
Sartana

Sartana

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Just let it be known that you're not there to entertain anyone's ego the moment they start to try.
 
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Iluv

Iluv

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The only advice I can give you, is run for the hills!
 
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twiggle

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I hate guys like this too. I'd avoid them but it's not always easy. They'll be more than happy to shout a sarcastic comment at me across the street like, 'alwight bootiful?' then burst into hysterics with their friends.

And don't get me started on guys who walk around with their trousers pulled down so far that you can see their underwear pulled up towards their waist. Urgh.
 
recluse

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Recently my sister's partner went to his local pub for a quick drink and there was this one guy in his 20's who is a regular there, and it seemed as if he was talking about him to the barman. My sister's partner went out for a smoke and when he came back in the young guytold him in his face ''Your hair is a mess, you need a shave and your clothes are old fashioned!''....My sister's partner was stunned at his cockiness. Way to knock a guy who's suffering from depression down! The young guy was the type who wore all designer clothes...I hate people like that who put others down.
 
Social_Monstrosity

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recluse said:
Recently my sister's partner went to his local pub for a quick drink and there was this one guy in his 20's who is a regular there, and it seemed as if he was talking about him to the barman. My sister's partner went out for a smoke and when he came back in the young guytold him in his face ''Your hair is a mess, you need a shave and your clothes are old fashioned!''....My sister's partner was stunned at his cockiness. Way to knock a guy who's suffering from depression down! The young guy was the type who wore all designer clothes...I hate people like that who put others down.
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What kind of assclown actually says that to a stranger?
 
twiggle

twiggle

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recluse said:
Recently my sister's partner went to his local pub for a quick drink and there was this one guy in his 20's who is a regular there, and it seemed as if he was talking about him to the barman. My sister's partner went out for a smoke and when he came back in the young guytold him in his face ''Your hair is a mess, you need a shave and your clothes are old fashioned!''....My sister's partner was stunned at his cockiness. Way to knock a guy who's suffering from depression down! The young guy was the type who wore all designer clothes...I hate people like that who put others down.
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The guy who said that to your sister's partner is obviously missing something inside if he feels that his nice designer clothes and looks propel him above others.
There really are some idiots in the world.
 
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DevC

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I heard that in prison, wearing baggy jeans the droop below your butt is a sign to other inmate that you are "available for action" aka, my pants are down, go ahead and shove it in there lol.
 
gustavofring

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Beleza said:
Isn't this the same thing as narcissism? In a more obvious 10x douche bag way?
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Yeah I guess it is narcissism. Sadly it's regarded as cool by their peers to act like douches.

Like at a party I was at recently, there was a guy who was a bit, well, overly present. But he ment no harm, he was just a little in your face and a bit awkard. I guess you could call him a bit of a nerd. But there was this cocky douchebag who started emberrassing him in front of everyone else by slapping him really hard on the back multiple times to make him leave and he said "What a dork" when he left. Just a sad display of a cocky bastard who thinks he's a king. I honestly wanted to smack him in the face for that, to put him in his place, that's not how you treat people.
 
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Acegame

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Those types used to bother me allot when i was younger, but now when i see one i actually pitty them and don't feel intimidated at all anymore.

Think about it. They care so much about appearences that they laugh at people and make remarks. This must make them insecure about themselves too, because apparently it's very important to them. They think they only fit in when they meet certain standards. Like wearing designer clothes or behaving in a way they think people will accept them. Also they never laugh or make remarks when they are alone. It's always when they are with other people. They do it to impress their friends.

People who are actually confident about themselves wouldn't feel the need to impress others. They don't feel the need to make negative comments about other people and even feel comfortable wearing rugs for clothes.

Now when i cross paths with someone who is like that i don't even feel socially anxious, because i don't care at all if they like me or not. I rather wish to be liked by people who i like or admire.
 
dpr

dpr

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I suspect you are closer to a true "alpha male" than the *******s you described.

A true "alpha male" looks out for the group, communicates effectively, treats women with respect, etc. Most importantly, a true alpha lives by his own code. He leads the pack, he doesn't follow it.

Vain frat boys aren't alphas. They are betas or omegas masquerading as alphas. This is very noticeable by the difference in their behavior between when their friends are around versus a one-on-one situation. There's a lot of insecurity and overcompensation going on with them.

I usually avoid people like that because they're sad and boring. If I found myself running into those types of people often, I would change where I hang out/who I hang out with, to be honest.

If these are work ppl, and you have no choice, then just be up front with them. If they tell a joke you don't like, don't laugh. If you disagree with something they say, tell them why. i.e. Be a true alpha and they will have no choice but to respect you.
 
dpr

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recluse said:
''Your hair is a mess, you need a shave and your clothes are old fashioned!''
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He should have said: "Wow, you must not be getting much action tonight if you're so busy checking ME out."

Problem solved :)
 
R3K

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at my work we get super young customers who try to buy alcohol without IDs. one time me and a girl i work with were both cashiering and she had a situation - kid getting pissed she wouldn't sell him liquor and i could tell she was getting nervous. i'm not stellar in thise heated confrontations either but i tried to restate our position to the kid basically telling him "no ID, no sale." he proceeded to curse us out while walking out of the store and flipping us off.

i was too nervous to curse back at him in his face even tho i wanted to because there was like 9 customers behind watching and i didn't want to lose the shouting war in front of a ton of ppl (super anxiety attack). but i also felt like i should have somehow defended our store against the blatant verbal attack so i felt almost worse that i looked like a coward.

next time it happened, i just gave the guy a dirty look as he was leaving, and when he was gone i looked at the rest of the customers waiting and said something like: "what a f****ing ***********."

so my strategy is: when ahole douche-sacks are bullying/talking sh*t on you, just give them a disgusted irritated look until they're out of earshot, then talk smack behind their back to third party individuals.
 
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