It's not uncommon to feel that way either, but don't discredit yourself - the important thing is that you're going, and stepping outside of the comfort zone a little. The longer we isolate ourselves the harder it can be to integrate. You might not enjoy your night out, but at least you'll be integrating again and it'll break up the recent isolation.
That's true, I suppose. I'm already finding it harder to integrate, even after a couple of days, but I know it's best for me to go out and do something big like spend the night in Sydney. As it is, though, the weather is gloomy so I don't think the beach is going to work.
Do you have a long-term target? A particular field you'd like to work in? Perhaps you could look into courses related to it or something, or volunteering. Write down where you want to be in 5 years time and brainstorm any ideas you have that you think can get you there. Gives you a sense of focus.
I got a job in the end yeah. I had loads of rejections from what people would described as 'mundane, minimum wage' jobs but in the end I got a job which, as fate would have it, is also the most suitable for my chosen career and will be great to put on my C.V. It's funny... it makes me glad I got all those rejections because if I hadn't, I wouldn't have found this job.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that things really do happen for a reason. I doubt your C.V is as bad as you think it is, you seem like a really intelligent guy with a heap to offer the world, but perhaps this can remind you that you need to put the power back in your own hands somehow, rather than 'bank' on a recommendation from a friend. Do you know of any careers advisors you could go to? It might help you realise how to put the power back in yourself.
Maybe not having a long-term target isn't helping me at all. I wish I knew what I wanted to be in 5 years (in which time I'll be exactly 30!) but I just don't know. I'd like to do a course, but not only can I not afford it, I am far too indecisive. Maybe it'll be clearer to me later in life.
Hey, as it turns out, those rejections were great for you! Now you've got a good job and it probably makes you a lot happier about those rejections, and happier about life in general. I do have some kind of intelligence, but nothing I can put on my CV. "Knowing how to spell" isn't a skill, unfortunately. Hopefully I'll get lucky one day.
Even the biggest fitness fanatics can find it difficult to resist the temptation of junk food. It is more tasty. Maybe try cutting things out gradually. Or allowing yourself to really indulge once a week or something.
I know what I'm supposed to be doing with junk food, and I'm more knowledgeable now than I used to be, but I still indulge too often with too much. That's emotional eating. You're absolutely right, though, and I need to take than on board.
No worries. I just want you to get back to being your normal positive self
I'm okay. Just trying to knuckle down with life at the moment after the over-indulgence and laziness of the holidays!
Thank you.
Heh, yeah, I'm still on holidays myself so I know what that's like! I go back to work in a week and that's going to be a tough transition to make! I'm glad you had a great holiday.
I hear ya' on all of the above! I practically have to force myself to go out and be social most of the time.
I'm not particularly happy with my job right now either (mostly due to some co-workers who are immature and not all that pleasant to be around), but I look at is as temporary. Someday (hopefully soon), I'll move on to another job that will be better! You will do the same - just keep searching!
I, too, am not doing quite as well as I'd like with eating healthier, but I'm making some progress. Even if I eat good most of the day and then cheat at night, I figure it's better than being bad all day, right?
It's bad when it has to be forced, right? I'm sorry you have to do that.
It's unfortunate your co-workers are the ones making you dislike the job, because if it weren't for them you'd be okay. Make sure you let us know if you do find a better job!
Haha, yeah, you're right. That's not bad. I ate fairly okay yesterday but we'll see if I can keep that up today. Good to hear you're making progress. Do you have any weight/health goals you're aspiring to?
Nervous........moving into new apartment,new surroundings,new faces!!!!worried but excited
I think you will be fine, Leonie! Good luck with the move and I hope your new location is even better than the old one.
Argh! I had been doing so well. I was feeling great and happy and optimistic and BAAM! Today has sucked arse. I had a small argument with my sister and I think I offended my mom. So now I feel stupid and selfish and I need to take the dog for a walk, but it's cold and still snowing and I just want to crawl back into bed for a while.
Having arguments with people you care about can be a tough pill to swallow. Maybe just take a few moments to yourself and then confront your family again. If they're approachable you can all chat about what happened and hopefully some apologies can happen.
I've just found out that the huge, love of my life, massive crush I had as a 21 year old, is now a dad-to-be.
Now this makes me feel quite old.
We had a chance to get together at one point.
Isn't it funny how things turn out.
Are you upset about that? If you don't like him now, I would doubt it, but is there a small part of you that thinks, "what if?"
Hi Mikeyc,
Sorry you didnt get the job you wanted. I dont know if people do this but can you find out feedback from the interview, to find out why. Are you not qualified enough - if so can you / would you be willing to work towards getting the qualifications you need and reaply. If you can get the feedback you can work on the things that are preventing you from reaching the things you desire. Can you try for the same job somewhere else? Its a cliche but if at first you dont succeed try, try again. Another employer maybe looking for the things you have to offer.
Heh, that's the thing: I never actually got to the interview stage! I never got a call or anything, so I guess I was at the bottom of the rejection pile there. I could try elsewhere but I have nothing good on my CV so I see it as a massive waste of time, unless I can legally embellish it somehow. We'll see. Thanks for the reply.
