How are you feeling?

[MikeyC]

Well good I'm glad your doing something for you. Really? Wow he is pushy!
No problem at all

Yeah, he has suggested going to these places. Malaysia sounds to me like his first choice. While I wouldn't mind going, they're not exactly my first choices on the list of international visits. But again, he's pushing me to save for it. I think his brother and another guy are going, too.

In September 2012 he wants me to go with him to Spain/Germany/Greece for his 30th birthday. Again, I would like to go but I know I simply won't have the money, if my financial situation doesn't change. But again, it's simply, "Michael's coming!"

 

[Aletheia]

curious

YWhile I wouldn't mind going, they're not exactly my first choices on the list of international visits.

What would be your first choice?

 

[Insanewoman389]

Yeah, he has suggested going to these places. Malaysia sounds to me like his first choice. While I wouldn't mind going, they're not exactly my first choices on the list of international visits. But again, he's pushing me to save for it. I think his brother and another guy are going, too.

In September 2012 he wants me to go with him to Spain/Germany/Greece for his 30th birthday. Again, I would like to go but I know I simply won't have the money, if my financial situation doesn't change. But again, it's simply, "Michael's coming!"

Mmm well he's gonna need to help out then if he wants you to go so bad. I still think he's being pushy but its kinda nice he's inviting you (or telling you you're going) for me its always nice being when people try to involve me in their plans. Its still wrong of him to force you to waste your money for something you don't much care for that and even if it was something you really wanted to its kinda mean of him for him to make you use up your money for it.

 

[MikeyC]

Re: curious

What would be your first choice?

I would love to go to the USA, probably my first choice destination. Followed very closely by Sweden/Norway.

New Zealand, Canada, and Finland aren't far behind that, either. I've never set foot out of Australia but I'd like to one day. ::

 

[MikeyC]

Mmm well he's gonna need to help out then if he wants you to go so bad. I still think he's being pushy but its kinda nice he's inviting you (or telling you you're going) for me its always nice being when people try to involve me in their plans. Its still wrong of him to force you to waste your money for something you don't much care for that and even if it was something you really wanted to its kinda mean of him for him to make you use up your money for it.

Well...the way you're putting it is that he's getting me very involved in his plans, which is a good thing. I didn't see it that way but I sometimes wish he would be less pushy about it.

If I was a millionaire none of this would be an issue.

 

[Aletheia]

Re: curious

Followed very closely by Sweden/Norway.

I'd love to go to Scandinavia (I think I'd like to live in Scandinavia).

Expensive though. And not just to get to.

 

[MikeyC]

Re: curious

I'd love to go to Scandinavia (I think I'd like to live in Scandinavia).

Expensive though. And not just to get to.

I think I would like to live in Scandinavia, too. I always hear Oslo is beautiful so I want to check it out for myself. Yeah, it is very expensive to live there, but so is Australia so I'm quite used to that.

 

[Insanewoman389]

Well...the way you're putting it is that he's getting me very involved in his plans, which is a good thing. I didn't see it that way but I sometimes wish he would be less pushy about it.

If I was a millionaire none of this would be an issue.

Just for me that's normally how I tend to see it when people involve me in their plans but I think that's just me being insecure and being happy when anyone even likes me haha

I'm not saying that he's being a great friend about because if you don't want to you and he's being pushy especially in a mean way then he's not being a friend he's just being selfish.

haha ah very true!

 

[MikeyC]

Just for me that's normally how I tend to see it when people involve me in their plans but I think that's just me being insecure and being happy when anyone even likes me haha

I'm not saying that he's being a great friend about because if you don't want to you and he's being pushy especially in a mean way then he's not being a friend he's just being selfish.

haha ah very true!

I like you. Maybe my number one overseas trip will be Jacksonville, Florida.

He's just being his natural self, always liking to be controlling everything and trying to get as much out of any situation for himself and himself only.

There's actually a couple of other scenarios involving his selfishness that exist. We're writing a pilot episode of a sitcom together...guess who has the most ideas in it? Hint: not me.

 

[Insanewoman389]

I like you. Maybe my number one overseas trip will be Jacksonville, Florida.

He's just being his natural self, always liking to be controlling everything and trying to get as much out of any situation for himself and himself only.

There's actually a couple of other scenarios involving his selfishness that exist. We're writing a pilot episode of a sitcom together...guess who has the most ideas in it? Hint: not me.

Awww ty! You've made my night/morning (its pretty much 4 in the morning). Hmm well Jacksonville can be fun and Disney's not too far away so there's always that!

Oh I can understand the control thing I guess but only looking out for yourself is just an ass like thing to do.
lmao I hate when people do that! Used to happen all the time during school projects. I hate to say but you might wanna look for some other friends to hang out with.

 

[MikeyC]

Awww ty! You've made my night/morning (its pretty much 4 in the morning). Hmm well Jacksonville can be fun and Disney's not too far away so there's always that!

Oh I can understand the control thing I guess but only looking out for yourself is just an ass like thing to do.
lmao I hate when people do that! Used to happen all the time during school projects. I hate to say but you might wanna look for some other friends to hang out with.

Damn, 4am. That's late! Or early. Whatever you prefer.

I do have some other friends, but he's my best friend now actually, and he's the only one who seems to have money all the time so we can go out and do things. Plus he's my drumming teacher so I don't want to lose that avenue.

 

[Kiwong]

Up and down.

One day I feel worthless and that I know nothing.

Next day I feel like I have something to contribute to the world.

 

[MikeyC]

Hey Mikey,

I completely understand how you feel.

I have a group of friends that are trying to organise a weekend on the continent next Spring for somebody's birthday. They've all booked and keep badgering me to do so too, but they understand that right now I can't because I have no income. But I know that as soon as I find a job they'll be pestering me again and tbh... I'd rather save the money and actually go somewhere I want to go.

Your best-friend sounds a lot like a couple of my friends within that group. They always have to plan weekends away for their birthdays even if it's not landmark ages whereas I'll just plan a meal out at most, and whilst the weekends are sometimes fun I want to be saving my money and putting it towards a return to Asia so I can meet the friends I made out there who can't afford to come here. Not spending it on a drunken weekend away with people I can see whenever I want in a country I'm not particularly interested in seeing.

Excuse the rant. Just wanted to make it clear that I completely empathise. All you can do is be honest. It's rude of them to assume that you can afford hundreds of dollars to take part in their idea. Have you thought about initiating maybe a trip to the U.S? Then see how they react or maybe even they'll like the idea and be really up for planning it with you.

I'm about to leave, but it sucks your friends are going to badger you when you already have another destination in mind. I think you should stick to your guns and say no if you feel you want to go to Asia.

My mate already went to New York in October 2010 so he won't want to go back to the USA. I've suggested Norway but he'll have none of it.

Thanks for your reply.

Up and down.

One day I feel worthless and that I know nothing.

Next day I feel like I have something to contribute to the world.

You always contribute...at least here, anyway.

 

[Insanewoman389]

Damn, 4am. That's late! Or early. Whatever you prefer.

I do have some other friends, but he's my best friend now actually, and he's the only one who seems to have money all the time so we can go out and do things. Plus he's my drumming teacher so I don't want to lose that avenue.

Its probably a combination of both late and early haha

lol Well ok just if he gets too pushy take a break from him ok?

 

[Kiwong]

You always contribute...at least here, anyway.

Cheers MikeyC

 

[Kiwong]

Same, I'm the top one today

I find the bottom type of day is much rarer. Hope it changes for you tomorrow Phocas.

 

[MrJones]

In September 2012 he wants me to go with him to Spain/Germany/Greece for his 30th birthday. Again, I would like to go but I know I simply won't have the money, if my financial situation doesn't change. But again, it's simply, "Michael's coming!"

*fingers crossed for Spain*


Your friend sounds pushy, yes. You're going out already, you don't have to do it everytime he wants, so don't feel bad for not going one day. You're a good friend to do things your friends want, but you have to be good with yourself too, so get some time on your own if you need it

Anyway, hope you have fun!

Hey Mikey,

I completely understand how you feel.

I have a group of friends that are trying to organise a weekend on the continent next Spring for somebody's birthday. They've all booked and keep badgering me to do so too, but they understand that right now I can't because I have no income. But I know that as soon as I find a job they'll be pestering me again and tbh... I'd rather save the money and actually go somewhere I want to go.

Your best-friend sounds a lot like a couple of my friends within that group. They always have to plan weekends away for their birthdays even if it's not landmark ages whereas I'll just plan a meal out at most, and whilst the weekends are sometimes fun I want to be saving my money and putting it towards a return to Asia so I can meet the friends I made out there who can't afford to come here. Not spending it on a drunken weekend away with people I can see whenever I want in a country I'm not particularly interested in seeing.

Excuse the rant. Just wanted to make it clear that I completely empathise. All you can do is be honest. It's rude of them to assume that you can afford hundreds of dollars to take part in their idea. Have you thought about initiating maybe a trip to the U.S? Then see how they react or maybe even they'll like the idea and be really up for planning it with you.

Same for you twiggle. It's your money and it's your life, and you don't have to do what other people want if you prefer to do something else. And btw going back to Asia sounds much more interesting than a drunken weekend ::

Up and down.

One day I feel worthless and that I know nothing.

Next day I feel like I have something to contribute to the world.

Same, I'm the top one today

You two contribute A LOT. This place has helped me a lot since I joined and you two are responsible of this improvement

I hope you feel better soon guys, and that you can keep it like that.

 

[JCVA]

I just did a complete 30 minutes meditation and I feel at ease and whole =)

 

[Phoenixx]

I feel crap. Just utterly crap.

I'm going to a friend's house tonight for a couple of drinks again, and I really, really do not want to go. I'm depressed and I just want to be on my own and do my own thing, that is listen to music and/or watch something and have some food. That's it. But here I am, going to his place. Better put on the smiling face.

He is being unusually pushy, too. He has basically said we're going to the pub tonight, and tomorrow we are going to get some Yum Cha (Chinese). Saturday night he asked me to go to a pub crawl. He knows I work Sunday morning, so his suggestion is to drink all Saturday night, get no sleep, go to work Sunday morning for 3 hours, sleep most of Sunday, go back to work that night, then go to bed again for Monday and sleep most of Monday if necessary. Hey, why don't I just rearrange my whole life, and waste two days, just to please you?

I'm sorry to dump this on the forum - truly - but my goodness, I'm not a puppet. Rest assured I am definitely not going to the pub crawl. I'll go tonight but I'm not drinking Saturday night.

^ Oh, I really don't like it when my friends get pushy when it comes to going somewhere. The more they push, the more I'm going to refuse. They don't do it often, but it's happened before. Glad you're watching out for yourself though. Drinking all Saturday night, getting no sleep, and then working? That sounds killer. I don't know anyone who could possibly even do that.

Hope you had fun though, despite your mood before. Did it cheer you up at all?

 

[Phoenixx]

I just did a complete 30 minutes meditation and I feel at ease and whole =)

^ Amazing how much it works, isn't it?

I love meditation.