How are you feeling?

[Nathália]

I was looking for a pair of shoes this afternoon and bought them. The whole time I was in the store I had so many doubtful thoughts about buying. I kept thinking about what others will think of it and didn't have any thoughts about whether I like it or not. In the end, I came to the realization that I got to start caring less on what other people will think. I bought it and I don't regret it one bit.

Good! As long as you love them. I hope you rock them with no shame

Depression got the better of me earlier today, but I feel a little bit better now. I hate that I'm so erratic.

Sigh, I don't know whether I coming or going. My mood is like a ride in the park, up and down * Pony tail spin *.

Good you're feeling better ♥

 

[Phoenixx]

I'm sorry you're so depressed. I know what that "cycle" is. It's terrible. My inbox is available if you need it.

^ Thanks, Mikey.

And dottie, I could really use some ice cream.

 

[MikeyC]

Sigh, I don't know whether I coming or going. My mood is like a ride in the park, up and down * Pony tail spin *.

Good you're feeling better ♥

Yeah, I know what you mean. It's a roller coaster. And thank you.

 

[psych]

My head hurts, along with my whole right side... Ran out of muscle relaxer 3 days ago.

Direct result of tension from anxiety. m@%#^*!!!

I have used lidocaine patches in new ways today. (topical numbing agent)

 

[Nathália]

^ Durn! Muscle relaxers= life savers, work better than most things. Just me.

Get well psych, I hope your patches are working.

 

[psych]

Yep, I hear ya, they work wonders. Thanks much for the well wishes.

Patches help some, too bad they don't make a full body patch.

 

[KiaKaha]

Like I am not someone people take particularly seriously.

I sometimes read posts on here and am amazed at how oblivious posters are with their condescension toward other users.

Makes me wonder whether their apparent social phobia is merely a cause or effect.

 

[MsBuzzkillington]

It could be that a complete lack of social skills or social interaction causes a person to not realize what they are saying is condescending or that they are breaking some kind of social rule.

Or maybe it could just be the internet, and sometimes things on the internet can be misunderstood and misread.

 

[KiaKaha]

It's pretty obvious sometimes, despite the medium of the internet - and its increasing with frequency. It's annoying... but you can't say anything of course. I just sometimes wonder how they would feel if they were spoken too that way, but hey, whatevs.

 

[superfluouslyme]

So I took someone's advice (I don't remember who) and read before I went to bed. That helped make me tired. I also didn't have much caffeine or get on the computer or watch TV. I went to bed a little after 8pm. I woke up at midnight and thought it was noon. I felt rested. I had to check my phone; I couldn't believe it. I don't feel tired right now. And here I am on the computer again. I'm going to count this as a step in the right direction.

 

[Srijita52]

My head hurts, along with my whole right side... Ran out of muscle relaxer 3 days ago.

Direct result of tension from anxiety. m@%#^*!!!

I have used lidocaine patches in new ways today. (topical numbing agent)

I'm sorry to hear that psych. I hope you feel better soon.

Depression got the better of me earlier today, but I feel a little bit better now. I hate that I'm so erratic.

I'm glad you're feeling better, I hope the feeling lasts.

I've still been pretty depressed today. I have a feeling I'm sinking back into one of my cycles, where this will last anywhere between 4 days or a week, maybe more. How fun.

I'm sorry Phoenixx, I can relate to you though. Hang in there.

Sigh, I don't know whether I coming or going. My mood is like a ride in the park, up and down * Pony tail spin *.

I know what you mean.

Like I am not someone people take particularly seriously.

I sometimes read posts on here and am amazed at how oblivious posters are with their condescension toward other users.

Makes me wonder whether their apparent social phobia is merely a cause or effect.

Sometimes words can cause a lot of confusion and misunderstanding, specailly on the internet.
I take you seriously Kia, you're insightful, intelligent and you make some very thought provoking posts.

 

[Srijita52]

So I took someone's advice (I don't remember who) and read before I went to bed. That helped make me tired. I also didn't have much caffeine or get on the computer or watch TV. I went to bed a little after 8pm. I woke up at midnight and thought it was noon. I felt rested. I had to check my phone; I couldn't believe it. I don't feel tired right now. And here I am on the computer again. I'm going to count this as a step in the right direction.

Yeah, reading before going to bed is really helpful. I'm glad you don't feel tired anymore.

 

[MsBuzzkillington]

It's pretty obvious sometimes, despite the medium of the internet - and its increasing with frequency. It's annoying... but you can't say anything of course. I just sometimes wonder how they would feel if they were spoken too that way, but hey, whatevs.

And... why can't you say anything?

 

[KiaKaha]

And... why can't you say anything?

Because you have to keep the peace Mzbuzz. Sure I could let loose - but will it do me any favors? No - it will just make me unpopular and labelled as a trouble maker. The majestic clique that keeps this site functioning the way that it does is more important. People dont like to be ruffled or accused of disingenuous behavior, they will go on the defensive - emotions will get involved and its just more trouble than its worth. Thats the way all of us are - we all like to think we are perfect, rational beings and that all of our actions and thoughts are of sound judgement - and having that challenged will just snowball into ugliness.

 

[KiaKaha]

Sometimes words can cause a lot of confusion and misunderstanding, specailly on the internet.
I take you seriously Kia, you're insightful, intelligent and you make some very thought provoking posts.

I remember one time I was speaking to a girl on the internet. I said she was "cool" - she thought I meant she was unfriendly. I had to backtrack and explain very carefully what I meant. It can happen - thats why its better to meet people so you can pick up all those nuances.

Thank you Srijita - thats very kind of you to say so. You ain't so bad yourself.

 

[Srijita52]

I remember one time I was speaking to a girl on the internet. I said she was "cool" - she thought I meant she was unfriendly. I had to backtrack and explain very carefully what I meant. It can happen - thats why its better to meet people so you can pick up all those nuances.

Thank you Srijita - thats very kind of you to say so. You ain't so bad yourself.

I agree with you on that, these things happen to me a lot too.
You're welcome, I'm just saying what's true and thanks.

 

[MrJones]

Just told mom that her voice getting louder when she's 'making a point' gives me anxiety because it's on the verge of screaming.

2 seconds later-- she answers the phone and that is what she tells the person on the other end of the phone.
-___-'
Does it matter that I told her? no.
Will she take it into consideration from now on? no.
Was there a reason for me even opening my mouth? no.

So, why do I bother?
I feel like a moron.

My mother does that all the time. And now that I think about it, my father does too.

I guess they just don't realize what they're doing. Or that's what I want to think >.>

this is what i really want to post on someone's facebook:

YOU *pointy finger* are everything that is wrong in america. I JUDGE YOU!!!!!!

That actually made me laugh ::
You should definitely do it hehe

Depression got the better of me earlier today, but I feel a little bit better now. I hate that I'm so erratic.

Good to know you're feeling a bit better, I hope it keeps like this. You're a great guy and I can relate to a lot of what you say. Take care, mate.

^ Glad you're feeling better. Hopefully your mood stays up. I've still been pretty depressed today. I have a feeling I'm sinking back into one of my cycles, where this will last anywhere between 4 days or a week, maybe more. How fun.

I'm sorry Phoenixx. If you want to talk, you know my inbox is always open.

Like I am not someone people take particularly seriously.

I sometimes read posts on here and am amazed at how oblivious posters are with their condescension toward other users.

Makes me wonder whether their apparent social phobia is merely a cause or effect.

I always worry that I'm saying something wrong when I talk, in here or irl, but especially here since people (including me) are usually more sensitive. I always wanted to have something like a warning when I'm about to say something stupid or just inappropiate >.<

And I do take you and what you say seriously, btw.



PS: I usually don't reply here because I feel like I want to reply to everyone but I have to miss posts no matter what and now I feel bad... also because I had more tabs open and I closed a few by mistake >.<

 

[MsBuzzkillington]

Because you have to keep the peace Mzbuzz. Sure I could let loose - but will it do me any favors? No - it will just make me unpopular and labelled as a trouble maker. The majestic clique that keeps this site functioning the way that it does is more important. People dont like to be ruffled or accused of disingenuous behavior, they will go on the defensive - emotions will get involved and its just more trouble than its worth. Thats the way all of us are - we all like to think we are perfect, rational beings and that all of our actions and thoughts are of sound judgement - and having that challenged will just snowball into ugliness.

I don't think you ALWAYS have to keep the peace. I agree that it is better in some situations, but sometimes if someone is crossing the line, I think you should say something. Also it is possible that someone doesn't realize how they are coming across and maybe a friendly message that they are kind of being rude will help bring it to their attention. Sure someone may get defensive, but we all get defensive when we are challenged. Does that mean we shouldn't be challenged? nope. Change isn't made without rocking the boat.

 

[MikeyC]

Good to know you're feeling a bit better, I hope it keeps like this. You're a great guy and I can relate to a lot of what you say. Take care, mate.

Thanks, mate. I hope so, too, but you and I know that's unlikely! You're a greater guy.

PS: I usually don't reply here because I feel like I want to reply to everyone but I have to miss posts no matter what and now I feel bad... also because I had more tabs open and I closed a few by mistake >.<

Everyone misses posts, mate. It happens. We can't always teply to everybody...although I do underatand why you would feel bad.

 

[KiaKaha]

I don't think you ALWAYS have to keep the peace. I agree that it is better in some situations, but sometimes if someone is crossing the line, I think you should say something. Also it is possible that someone doesn't realize how they are coming across and maybe a friendly message that they are kind of being rude will help bring it to their attention. Sure someone may get defensive, but we all get defensive when we are challenged. Does that mean we shouldn't be challenged? nope. Change isn't made without rocking the boat.

No you don't always have to keep the peace, of course there are times when you have to speak up and let your thoughts be known, that as firewalk has just pointed out leads to resentment. The problem is that most people are compelled to believe that their own actions are so pure and faultless - that you would really just be banging your head against a wall. I mean I dont know if I am the only one that notices it, but there is lot of snarkiness, condescension and curtness here with people who are merely expressing the way that they feel. Yes we do get defensive, but sometimes it would be nice to see a realization of ones mistakes and an example of humility once in a while, rather than bull headed stubbornness.