I had a very nice weekend, fires, and barbeques, and some people I am comfortable with.
I think I know why I like it so much. There are no pressure. If I am tired of talking I just walk away and nobody complains. It is so non-demanding. None of the group are really friends, we just have this shared interest, so all conversations are related to smithing and metalwork.
And I did quite well on the sales front. I showed two new products I made and they were very well received.
My credit card is almost paid now. This is the last of my debts.
And my stitches were removed today. Lots of skin that still have to grow back, but things look much better.
1. Take care of your body.
-spend 30-60 minutes every day exercising
-eat food that is fresh and healthy
-play a sport you like every day
-avoid junk food
2. Take care of your mind
-read every day
-write every day
-develop your mind in other ways
-avoid junk in your mind
3. Take care of your relationships
-remember birthdays and anniversaries
-forgive them before they ask for forgiveness
-avoid emotional vampires
4. Take care of your finances
-get positive cashflow
-pay yourself first
5. Take care of your communication
-communicate at the 6th grade level
-learn the vocabulary of what you are doing
It is Hoppy, being able to live that would be bliss. However, I don't think I would be a hermit somewhere so cold. It'd be good to live like a hermit away from people, but maybe have a little bit of money to have food and supplies delivered every now and again.
I do my thing and you do your thing.
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations,
And you are not in this world to live up to mine.
You are you, and I am I,
and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful.
If not, it can't be helped.
From Carolyn Hax. Not really helpful for someone who really suffer.
Hi, Carolyn:
Are there lessons offered anywhere about becoming a less awkward, more naturally polite person? Yesterday, I was walking my daughter in a stroller when I passed another mother with her baby. She said, “Your daughter is adorable!” I said something like, “Thank you! Today’s her first birthday!” It wasn’t till the other mom was too far away that I realized I probably should have reciprocated with a compliment about her baby’s cuteness.
Things like this — saying the wrong thing or failing to say the obvious right thing — happen to me almost nonstop. How do I become a functioning member of the human race?
Learning to Be Normal
1. Forgive yourself. If you’re uncomfortable in social situations, then your mental energy will go into how you look and speak, which means you’re not putting mental energy into seeing or listening to the other person. It’s not deliberate, it’s just the nature of self-consciousness.
2. “I will ask questions” — that’s the new mantra you adopt. Keep reminding yourself — especially right after you notice someone, but before you start talking. You’ll still goof sometimes, and still be thinking more of the question than the answer at first, but, eventually, asking will become habit.
That habit will free you to worry less and listen more, the latter being the whole point of the reciprocal compliment: saying, essentially, “I’m paying attention to you.”