Honey, why are you on top of that man?

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I've been reading a lot of stories about cheating wives and girlfriends. More like being obsessed over it... But anyway, the more I read those stories the more I got pissed off. Its as if I was the one being cheated on. And now i'm just wondering; someone like me, who has low self-esteem and such. How would I handle such things; I probably could not do what those guys did in their stories. I feel as if the emotions that are bottled up inside me gets released in such a extreme speed. That I'll just go insane!
 
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lunarla

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Thread title is a hook, ha ha. In my recent days of insecurity and jealousy (that I've now moved on from a bit, thank goodness), I could not understand whyyyyy someone wouldn't cheat on me. And I would just reflect all those negative views about how men are cheaters and blah blah blah, even though rationally I knew that wasn't the case in my situation. But that's just the thing, my insecurity would suck all my rationality out of me, leaving only these terrible feelings. Feelings that lead me to my very lowest points because I couldn't deal with it at all! So I guess if you're really insecure and something like that happened to you, it could very well feel like you were going insane. But now that I'm mostly out of all that mess, I feel like I could look at it differently if it happened to me (which it won't, btw).
 
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O god... It would be worst if the wife doesn't want to do you but then you walk in on her doing someone else. O god! My hearts racing just thinking bout this kind of stuff O.e!
 
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I wouldn't want to physically damage anything; well maybe I would. But the thing that I would love the most is to emotionally damaged her. Like make her feel so guilty, that she'll be begging to come back crying on the door step. Massive heartbreak she'll have as I slowly closed the door on her >:]

I dunno why this is getting me all worked up :D
 
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Nack said:
I dunno why this is getting me all worked up :D
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I would consider it healthy that you wouldn't want to share your mate lol. I don't understand those who actually enjoy passing their spouses around. That seems to go against nature to me. :confused:
 
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men cheat as well not just women , if fact i bet any money you like more women have been cheated on by men than men cheated on by women , iv never done it myself but i know lots have men that have broken womens hearts .... women as a rule like security love kids ect men think they do then stray ... im not talking about myself here im just saying lol as far as if you caught your gf , wife , cheating well ........ just walk away in time your wounds will heal and over time you will realise your better off without them , revenge is pointless petty , you must be bigger than that ..
 
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Flowers-Of-Bloom

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Before things start getting into a debate... Let's not make this about gender.
Can we do that for once, SPW? Thanks. :)

If my boyfriend cheated on me... I would most likely leave him, forever. While I do believe in forgiveness, I don't want someone thinking that they can do whatever they want without consequences. I would never trust him again. Also, I would be completely heartbroken. I probably wouldn't even be able to look at him again.
 
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NathanielWingatePeaslee said:
I'd leave her. Period. Probably without much discussion--what would be the point? I don't take well to betrayal.
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I have to agree with you. I have my own issues with betrayal and being able to fully trust someone takes a lot from me. I'd have to get out immediately. A scenario like this would definitely destroy me.

I definitely wouldn't get physically violent and throw lamps, though ;)
 
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I have been more concerned with me thinking she might cheat then if she did. I have not been in a relationship due to my anxiousness, but I have feared that even if I did finally manage it I would end up sabotaging the relationship out of fear she may stray. I don't know if I would actually be that way, but I have worried that I might. I don't even think that if she did cheat it would be so bad, I'd have a good reason to get out then. It would be the fear of it that might cause me to ruin a good thing, for no good reason at all. Knowing I ruined it for no good reason would destroy me. Actual cheating would hurt, but I think I could get over that because it would not be my fault.
 
Lorraine Manca

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the title of this thread is great. im like that too nack, i get really pissed off when i hear about heartbreak that other folks go through, because its so cold and completely unnecessary. the cheater could just freakin hold off till they had a chance to politely end one relationship before starting another. easy! and if they're married, they ought to have enough pride to stick by their word. whats the point of even being alive if your word means nothing?
its funny because most of us here have trust problems to begin with, having your pessimistic view of human nature confirmed would be really ugly. personally i think i'd not kill the fella(as fun as burning in hell for eternity sounds), but at least give him a bad spell of food poisoning and diarrhea
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Nack said:
I wouldn't want to physically damage anything; well maybe I would. But the thing that I would love the most is to emotionally damaged her. Like make her feel so guilty, that she'll be begging to come back crying on the door step. Massive heartbreak she'll have as I slowly closed the door on her >:]

I dunno why this is getting me all worked up :D
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trying to make her feel pain will only prolong your own suffering. you will become fixated, obsessed, no amount of name calling/acid in her tooth paste will ever make you feel at peace with yourself or satisfied in any way. best just to accept and then perhaps run into the forest.
 
PhillyFlyersGrl

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What I can't figure out about cheating is, why someone would want the messiness of it, you can't live in 2 worlds, one relationship and another relationship on the side..eventually you have to choose one person..so why not if you want to be with someone else leave the person your with? Why make things so complicated? People seem to be drawn to those situations for some reason.
 
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