help me please
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LoyalXenite
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I am the same, i can do a great fake smile on command but i cant maintain it, most of the time i look either angry or miserable. But then i guess my face just reflects my emotions too well.
cowboyup
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I have the same problem. People - strangers have come up to me and said, 'don't look so sad/mad/blue/down'...
it infuriates me. Overall, I am not that way, but I do know the curvature of my mouth turns down naturally. But I try to remember to smile if I go out. Even though it is forced, it helps stave off the strangers invading my space and irritating me with their comments.
it infuriates me. Overall, I am not that way, but I do know the curvature of my mouth turns down naturally. But I try to remember to smile if I go out. Even though it is forced, it helps stave off the strangers invading my space and irritating me with their comments.
Lonelee1, I'm having a trouble. Someone told you that you always look to be dissatisfied? So you look for dissatisfactions?
Know what, Jaim38, don't worry so much. If you smile you smile:thumbup:
People who care about your well being want you to be happy in life. When someone asks or tells me I should smile more I invite a conversation. I ask them 'what do you mean?' Not everyone gets that some people don't need to smile to be happy. I sure as hell don't. They just wanna know why you're not happy.
mixedupgirl
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Yeah people have said to me "Smile or it might never happen" it's so annoying...
I get told "You don't look very happy" but I'm perfectly fine.....my relaxed face must look miserable....:idontknow:
You can't smile all the timeee, you'd look weird. Two examples of smiling gone wrong: 1) I started a new job and I was really nervous and didn't want to come across like nervous or unfriendly so I kept smiling at my new work mates when they walked past and my supervisor said "Your weird!" and when I asked why she said "Why do you smile all the time"... Ugh people are never happy....
2) I was havin a conversation with a girl at work and I was goin through a really bad period of anxiety (like my face would automatically frown from being so scared) so I forced a smile through out the whole conversation because I didn't wanna frown and I could feel my lip twitching now and again....anyway this girl looked really uncomfortable
mg:.....looking back I'm like oh my god I can't believe I did that! But at the time I had no idea what to do or how to be when someone was talkin to me all I remember is I didn't wanna look angry.
It's difficult to know "how to be" when you haven't been around others in a long time like socially or if you've been unemployed for a while like i had at the time of that example....
These days I'm a bit more clued up as to when to smile and how to be (facial expressions) durin convo but still get really nervous....
I get told "You don't look very happy" but I'm perfectly fine.....my relaxed face must look miserable....:idontknow:
You can't smile all the timeee, you'd look weird. Two examples of smiling gone wrong: 1) I started a new job and I was really nervous and didn't want to come across like nervous or unfriendly so I kept smiling at my new work mates when they walked past and my supervisor said "Your weird!" and when I asked why she said "Why do you smile all the time"... Ugh people are never happy....
2) I was havin a conversation with a girl at work and I was goin through a really bad period of anxiety (like my face would automatically frown from being so scared) so I forced a smile through out the whole conversation because I didn't wanna frown and I could feel my lip twitching now and again....anyway this girl looked really uncomfortable
mg:.....looking back I'm like oh my god I can't believe I did that! But at the time I had no idea what to do or how to be when someone was talkin to me all I remember is I didn't wanna look angry.It's difficult to know "how to be" when you haven't been around others in a long time like socially or if you've been unemployed for a while like i had at the time of that example....
These days I'm a bit more clued up as to when to smile and how to be (facial expressions) durin convo but still get really nervous....
lonelee1
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yes, this is what i meant to say.
but, about looking dissatisfied,,yes, this happens to me all the time. i just have this like deer in headlights look on me, or a stern, upset face in public because i'm so worried.
i feel really over dramatic. i need to chill out.
lonelee1
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Yeah people have said to me "Smile or it might never happen" it's so annoying...
I get told "You don't look very happy" but I'm perfectly fine.....my relaxed face must look miserable....:idontknow:
You can't smile all the timeee, you'd look weird. Two examples of smiling gone wrong: 1) I started a new job and I was really nervous and didn't want to come across like nervous or unfriendly so I kept smiling at my new work mates when they walked past and my supervisor said "Your weird!" and when I asked why she said "Why do you smile all the time"... Ugh people are never happy....
2) I was havin a conversation with a girl at work and I was goin through a really bad period of anxiety (like my face would automatically frown from being so scared) so I forced a smile through out the whole conversation because I didn't wanna frown and I could feel my lip twitching now and again....anyway this girl looked really uncomfortable
It's difficult to know "how to be" when you haven't been around others in a long time like socially or if you've been unemployed for a while like i had at the time of that example....
These days I'm a bit more clued up as to when to smile and how to be (facial expressions) durin convo but still get really nervous....
gosh, i totally know all about this. i feel like i look angry all the time.
nerves.