Aletheia
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Sounds exactly like my first boyfriend.
Have you ever tried to get a girlfriend or boyfriend?
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Sounds exactly like my first boyfriend.
BlueDays
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Yep. I was aching with lonliness so bad by the time I was 27 that I went out and found myself a boyfriend.
Shame he turned out to be brilliant at playing the "Wolf in Sheeps clothing" part. :
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So the disaster that followed the one time I actively sought out a boyfriend has turned me off wanting to try again ever since :/
Shame he turned out to be brilliant at playing the "Wolf in Sheeps clothing" part. :
:So the disaster that followed the one time I actively sought out a boyfriend has turned me off wanting to try again ever since :/
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coyote
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Yes. Well. Sort of. Ive never done the asking but I have made the first move in the past. A 1yr relationship, a 3yr relationship, a 3 month relationship, 2 marriage proposals and a complicated non-relationship relationship later I realise that I have commitment issues....Ill apply my lessons learned in future ventures...the best advice is to work on yourself first. Two people is twice the problems. Better to work on you before venturing into relationships..
.Ill apply my lessons learned in future ventures...the best advice is to work on yourself first. Two people is twice the problems. Better to work on you before venturing into relationships..
MikeyC
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That sucks about your brother, but it does give me hope that I can relieve my anxiety and get a girlfriend in the future. I'm just not ready yet.
While I'm not really practicing what I preach, don't give up. He's out there.Yep. I was aching with lonliness so bad by the time I was 27 that I went out and found myself a boyfriend.
Shame he turned out to be brilliant at playing the "Wolf in Sheeps clothing" part. :
So the disaster that followed the one time I actively sought out a boyfriend has turned me off wanting to try again ever since :/
Aletheia
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Aww man, story of my life. I'm such a fool for love.
Aletheia
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The night my brother and his wife met, they spent all evening engrossed in conversation. Each of them had had a memory lapse while describing something. They wound up in bed together, and woke up at three in the morning, remembering what it was that filled the other's blank.
Maybe you just need to find she who has the missing bits.
BlueDays
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*feels all warm and fuzzy inside
* *sigh*
It is nice to hear situations where things do happen in such a romantic way. Keeps the cynicism at bay.:
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MikeyC
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Wow, that's awesome! Maybe that'll happen to me one day, but we'll see.
Aletheia
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Lucy puts her hand in mine
Finding someone. It's a negotiation. You need to find the balance point between Try Too Hard and Not Trying Hard Enough.
The best terms I can think for it are these.
A friend took me sailing once, and it's like that: keeping the sail as close to the wind as possible without pushing it through and having the boom swing around. You have to be gentlefirm. You have to feel it.
And to feel it, you have to drop the fear.
Finding someone. It's a negotiation. You need to find the balance point between Try Too Hard and Not Trying Hard Enough.
The best terms I can think for it are these.
A friend took me sailing once, and it's like that: keeping the sail as close to the wind as possible without pushing it through and having the boom swing around. You have to be gentlefirm. You have to feel it.
And to feel it, you have to drop the fear.
THeCARS1979
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that sounds like the same problem I have
drganon
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Even if I could get the courage up to ask a girl out, I don't really have any opportunities to do so. I work overnight with all males, I go to school online but also take night courses where most of my fellow students are way older than me, and I don't do facebook for reasons I'm not going to get into( they mostly have to do with not wanting former classmates to know what a failure I am) and to top if off, I still don't know how to drive. So I'm pretty much screwed.
DancingDann
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Getting a boyfriend is one thing that could never happen for me so i don't even think about it otherwise it would make me sad. I just focus on the good things in my life instead.