Have you ever asked a buddy to hang out?

[Diend]

I noticed that Ive rarely made the initiative to ask somebody to hang out. Its because Im too afraid of rejection, awkwardness if they say 'no'.

 

[lurknomore]

I never have, for pretty much the same reasons. I don't really have anyone (in real life) that I consider a "buddy" anyway.

 

[Conspiracy]

I used to organise parties, and even set up a place to hang out with friends of mine. Well, that was a long time ago.

 

[Nanita]

For me it´s one of the worst aspects of my social phobia and avoidant personality, this fear of being rejected. I feel it every single time I think about calling someone or when I want to ask someone to do something. Always a lot of worries and thoughts about how it will turn out, how the other person will respond, and so on.
Even when it comes to people that I have a friendship with, I get this fear. It certainly makes my friendships difficult to maintain.
I wish I could be free and not worry and just do whatever.

 

[jaim38]

I used to ask friends to hang out with me, but not anymore. Because hanging out requires spending money on things. Whether I go to a restaurant, a mall, a store, etc, I need to pay. I also don't want my neighbors to see me when I go out and come back. I don't have good clothes to wear either and don't want to get made fun of when I go out.

 

[Hellhound]

I can't. They're too far away.

 

[aNOTfox]

I'm getting used to calling my friend up every few days or so to go out. They've been on holiday though so think my phone anxiety may have returned by now

 

[takeheart]

Well I personally don’t have a buddy but even if I did, I don’t think I would ask them to hang out anyway since I got fear of bothering people.

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

You have a buddy? That's what buddies are for! How can you maintain a friendship if you don't make an effort. Even when I'm very depressed, I make an effort to keep my friendships alive. I call to talk, ask to hang out........That's what friends are for. Do something fun. Tons of things to do!

 

[SoScared]

You have a buddy? That's what buddies are for! How can you maintain a friendship if you don't make an effort. Even when I'm very depressed, I make an effort to keep my friendships alive. I call to talk, ask to hang out........That's what friends are for. Do something fun. Tons of things to do!

This is what I have been doing over Christmas. Visiting buddies and ensuring that the friendships are maintained.

 

[this_portrait]

Nope, not really. Well, I have, but the occurrence is so rare that I can't even remember the last time I asked someone to hang out.

 

[SilentAndShy]

My only fear is logistical. My friends live about 10 minutes in car and I don't tend to meet up with them incase they want to go somewhere and as I'm hesitant to drive there due to my lack of confidence in my driving abilities, I don't want to have to ask them to pick me up and drop me off home. But I tend to keep in touch via text.

 

[luiface]

No because I'm a complete idiot when it comes to friends, I don't know how long you should know someone to hang out with them. Should be common sense :/

 

[megalon]

No I never have. I feel like I'm not worth their time. I never ask people to hang out, never ask girls on dates, never even have the courage to initiate a chat conversation online. It has prevented me from ever making any meaningful connections with anyone. I guess it just comes down to lack of self esteem.

 

[vanillabear]

One of my buddies never asks to hang out, it's always me who takes the initiative so it kind of feels like I'm annoying her.. so I've stopped :-|