How can I talk to girls, I feel so lonely and I need to get a girlfriend. I am just way to scared to talk to girls it is just not possible from what I can tell. I need help talking to girls but I don't know what to do.
All the other posts before me were so typical of a response towards a shy person,its stupid.All of this mentality that you're a product/they're products/get over it...is bs.Sir,its best to deal with this with poise and rtionality now tell me,do you want the benifits of a girlfriend or a girlfriend of benifits?
i work with alot of very self confident girls and all of them have sort of hinted at how they prefer a certain height and build and they prefer a tradesman manager type, alot of very specific traits ...not all girls want the same thing obviously but there seems to be a general consensus ...
Women are human too. This is something people seem to forget. Often times, we are intimidated by people because we tend to assume unrealistic things about them. Women have their own insecurities, fears and flaws like anyone else. Take all the women on SPW as example! A lot of us are just as afraid of approaching you and engaging you in converastion as you are afraid of approaching us. Behind whatever it is that you find so intimidating about women, lies blood, flesh and bone.
It makes no sense and does no good to attribute some inaccessible, god-like status to women. I'm not saying that you should look down on them, but you shouldn't place other human beings higher than yourself. Especially when you know nothing about them.
Also, as someone already said, you have to get over these fears before even thinking about getting a girlfriend. See it this way: You are not entitled to having a girlfiriend. A girlfriend is a person - a human being and you don't have any entitlement to another human being.
How can I talk to girls, I feel so lonely and I need to get a girlfriend. I am just way to scared to talk to girls it is just not possible from what I can tell. I need help talking to girls but I don't know what to do.
Let's use an analogy - sales. We're gonna go door to door and sell 10 widgets.
You have to figure that only 30% of the doors you knock on will have someone home. Then figure that only 30% of the people you find at home will let you talk to them about the widgets at all. Of those, maybe only 30% will buy a widget.
That means, in order to sell 10 widgets, you have to knock on 300 doors.
You can't just knock on 10 doors to sell 10 widgets - no matter how good of salesman you are. You gotta play the numbers to be successful - that's how the business of sales works.
You don't have to stress out about selling each widget - instead you just focus on knocking on those 300 doors - the rest will take care of itself.
It's not about the salesman, it's not about the product, it's simply about the math.
Does this make sense?
But because the sales system works on by rewards, some salesmen, with their charisma and great looks and overall drive, sell way more widgets.
So? It doesn't matter what anyone else is doing - if you have ten widgets to sell, you gotta get out and start knocking on some doors.
That's the only way they'll get sold. Otherwise, you'll just sit at home, playing with your widgets.