For those with kids and or partner!!!

[mummylala]

Hey all.. Does anyone here get annoyed when people assume that just because that you have kids and or a hubby, boyfriend partner or whatever, that the SA or what ever other problems you may have cant be that bad and shouldn't have the need to be joining sites like this...

I put this up because over the past few days i have had one or 2 people on here say to me that any condition i have cant be that severe, and have been asked why join sites like this?? I have been told that i have kids and a hubby,that i shouldnt need to do so Its actually made me feel like maybe i shouldnt be on here at all ::

 

[Felgen]

I think luck pays a vital role when it comes to this aspect. Dating someone when you have anxiety (regardless of what gender you are) is a lot harder than for someone who doesn't suffer from any mental illness.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

I think luck pays a vital role when it comes to this aspect. Dating someone when you have anxiety (regardless of what gender you are) is a lot harder than for someone who doesn't suffer from any mental illness.

I agree.

The problem is compounded by the fact that a lot of people who have never been in a relationship (or had sex) seem to think of it as the be-all end-all and cure to all their social problems.

I have neither a partner nor kids. I just have enough experience to know better.

 

[Remus]

I put this up because over the past few days i have had one or 2 people on here say to me that any condition i have cant be that severe, and have been asked why join sites like this?? I have been told that i have kids and a hubby,that i shouldnt need to do so Its actually made me feel like maybe i shouldnt be on here at all ::

If you would like to report these posts/PM's/visitors message I will happily give out infractions, nobody here has a right to tell anyone whether they think they have SA or not, this is covered by the 'my SA is worse than yours' rule within the forum rules.

 

[UnofficiallyMe]

yeah i am married. yeah i have a kid.

but i cannot answer the door. I am put into more really hard situations, like going to my kids school. does it help having them? you bet....

but there is so much more to it all. its hard to put into words. she has to put up with being with me. that is hard on her...

the grass is always greener, no?

i have no friends. i am very awkward wherever i go..

if i am not welcome here, then i was wrong about this place.. seems it should be the point, no judgment.. but what do i know..

 

[OneLove]

if i am not welcome here, then i was wrong about this place.. seems it should be the point, no judgment.. but what do i know..

you are deff welcome here!

 

[UnofficiallyMe]

thank you.. i would be hurting without this place...

 

[coyote]

Being able to meet and establish a close relationship with one person doesn't mean you can't have problems dealing with the rest of the world.

 

[missjesss]

For you to not be able to open the door is very severe I'm sorry to say it but in order to make some progress you have to tackle your fears head on make your goal to be able to go to the shops alone at first and feel the anxiety but watch it go it will come and then go

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

No one other than you gets to decide whether you belong here or not. We all have our problems regardless of their severity. Some don't display it as much as others, but that doesn't mean that they don't have problems.

 

[MollyBeGood]

Hey all.. Does anyone here get annoyed when people assume that just because that you have kids and or a hubby, boyfriend partner or whatever, that the SA or what ever other problems you may have cant be that bad and shouldn't have the need to be joining sites like this...

I put this up because over the past few days i have had one or 2 people on here say to me that any condition i have cant be that severe, and have been asked why join sites like this?? I have been told that i have kids and a hubby,that i shouldnt need to do so Its actually made me feel like maybe i shouldnt be on here at all ::

wow... That is ridiculous for anyone to assume, that people would be-excluded(stay out of the club bah) it excludes you because of having your own family/relationship partner. I think there are different levels of SA and some people are able to maintain relationships but they struggle with other aspects of life or they may struggle in the relationship because of the anxiety symptoms and not having say, a supportive partner. I don't know if that makes total sense. I guess what I am trying to say is whoever said that to you is wrong Hi and welcome!

 

[kihira]

Possibly the issue is that some people objectively see themselves in a hierarchy, with others either better off or worse than themselves, when it really is subjective. SA can be bad no matter where you are at - hasn't there been royalty with anxiety problems in the past?

 

[Felgen]

Possibly the issue is that some people objectively see themselves in a hierarchy, with others either better off or worse than themselves, when it really is subjective. SA can be bad no matter where you are at - hasn't there been royalty with anxiety problems in the past?

Ludwig II was a poster child for anxiety.

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

Ludwig II was a poster child for anxiety.

I went to go see his castles (the most impressive being Neuschwanstein) in Bavaria. Apparently, people in his court tried to have him declared insane and therefore incompetent to be on the throne. His psychiatrist insisted that he was indeed sane. They were both found drowned in the lake next to the castle(according to the guide/historian). Some say that his court did not want a homosexual on the throne. It is also said that he had a thing for Richard Wagner - became his patron and had a private chamber built for him in his castle.
How did you find out he had anxiety?

 

[Felgen]

Gabriel Knight II is where I first learned about him. It is also believed that the suffered from Asperger's syndrome.