I got married, but my situation is unique.
Originally, i was dating my wife's best friend. I met my current wife through my ex. Me and that girl broke up, but my wife and me stayed friends, and she ended up moving to my city to go to university. At the time we were just good friends, nothing was there feelings wise, but they say proximity breeds that. We discovered we both had ALOT more in common than either of us realized, including that both of us are S/A pretty badly. I realize the odds of this must be 1 in a million. And the whole time, my ex, and her best friends, had been waiting for us to hook up, thinking we were perfect for one another. And we are.
How did we get past the initial fears?. Well, considering weve known eachother going on 10 yrs now and have only been together for 5....yea it took a long long time. Eventually we fumbled our way into a kiss. And that was it for us.
My story most likely wont be very inspiring because of the circumstances surrounding it. And i understand that.
The reality of just how rare this is for someone with S/A makes me cherish her all that much more, and i make sure i always stop, kiss her, tell her i love her, at least once a day. Doesnt matter if im late for work, or whatever is going on.
If i had to start again and find a life partner im really not sure i could.
Sorry, I've meant some people who think that the guy should do everything and women should do nothing, and were really serious. I guess the wave of feminism and female empowerment might contribute to women not being afraid to be more dominating now.
