theoutsider
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I've had this problem for a while now but I fear it's only getting worse. For some reason, people seem to always want to make friends with me. I guess I seem easily approachable. The thing is, I have never really been "One of the guys". What I mean by that is I have always been more of a loner. When a guy (at work for example) approaches me and I can see he wants to be friends, I just get a sense of dread. I like sports and am a car nut so I can pretty much shoot the breeze about most of those topics. But beyond that is where I am at a loss. It's mainly when they want to hang out that's a problem. I don't really get into the whole 'guy banter' thing. You know, when guys insult each other for fun. I'm far from overly sensitive where jokes are concerned but I just have never been good at the friendly insult thing.
I always feel like it's just a matter of time before they realize I'm not really like the other guys they hang around with and things will (and usually do) get awkward. Funny, I have no real problems with friendships with women. I guess because there's no real pressure to behave a certain way. But I keep all but a few guy friends at arm's length. Sometimes I will see a group of them at my job from a distance, laughing and having a great time. At those times, I wish I could casually join in but I know my SA will kick in and I'll wind up saying/doing something stupid. I don't know. For the most part I'm content to be left alone but I do feel sometimes as if I'm missing out on the camaraderie.
Anybody have similar problems?
I always feel like it's just a matter of time before they realize I'm not really like the other guys they hang around with and things will (and usually do) get awkward. Funny, I have no real problems with friendships with women. I guess because there's no real pressure to behave a certain way. But I keep all but a few guy friends at arm's length. Sometimes I will see a group of them at my job from a distance, laughing and having a great time. At those times, I wish I could casually join in but I know my SA will kick in and I'll wind up saying/doing something stupid. I don't know. For the most part I'm content to be left alone but I do feel sometimes as if I'm missing out on the camaraderie.
Anybody have similar problems?
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