fear to be watched

Falkor

Falkor

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Hi,
I came to the conclusion that SA is a fear of being watched/looked at.

Everytime I am in a crowd of people, I am afraid of people looking at me
and judging me on the way i look, behave, speak, and my face starts to tense, i don't know how to not awkward behave myself, i laugh weird, i think i look like i am ugly and i think everybody sees my heart poundng and my weird body behaviour

i think the fear of SA is being watched. If everybody was blind in the crowd around you, would you guys still have SA? I wouldn't.

If I was blind, I probably still would have the fear, because I know people can see me and judge me and I can't even check if they do I would freak out

So how about you guys
 
Steelsoul

Steelsoul

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Me too. I think all of us have the same fear of being judged by other people. This is the reason why i don't socialize much. I was scared of the way i look, behave and the expression in my face being talked about. Maybe us SA-er are more sensitive to criticism or judgement than others. In conversations, i even avoid eye contract. If anyone looked at me, i'd turn my head to a different direction.
 
Bo592

Bo592

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I had a problem with my eyes one day where everything went black and strange enough I was not afraid of anybody I could see the people body but could not see there faces in this moment I was able to speak to people with out fear I had no SA problem in tell my eye sight came back.
 
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jaim38

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i think the fear of SA is being watched. If everybody was blind in the crowd around you, would you guys still have SA?
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I wouldn't have SA either.

I also have this problem of afraid of being watched. If people watch me study, cook, type, etc, my performance goes down real fast. My heart rate also goes up and people usually do notice and come to the conclusion that I'm shy. But avoiding eye contact does help alleviate my SA to a certain degree. I wish I can put on sunglasses all the time even at the bank or at school taking a test but some places do not allow sunglasses to be worn.
 
selon

selon

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jaim38 said:
I wish I can put on sunglasses all the time even at the bank or at school taking a test but some places do not allow sunglasses to be worn.
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same here!! I wear my sunglasses even after the sun goes down.. it makes me feel so much safer. Don't even care if people look at me because of that!!

But without my sunglasses its awful. I totally agree, it is the fear of being watched and judged and laughed at.
 
MBinMN

MBinMN

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Yes I could be in my car and feel the other drivers are judging me, people waiting in line at the store are judging me, eating in public --- oh this is a big NO, Im overweight so I know they are judging me and looking at what I am eating, exercising outside --- same deal "look at that fat girl trying to exercise its going to take her years to lose weight etc..."
 
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mariospap

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When I am being watched, I act like a robot. Especially in the classroom, in which I try to get the last chair. If I can't catch a chair in the back of the class and I am in the front, that's a big torture. My heart is beating like crazy.
 
frankota

frankota

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Yes, social anxiety is a fear of being looked at, but it's also a fear of meeting people and going to events.
I feel the same way. I'm always afraid that if my outfit isn't super fashionable, people will judge me. If my hair isn't frizz-free people will judge me. If I am texting people will judge me. If I am reading, writing, laughing, smiling, breathing, people will judge me.
PS
Ik spreek Nederlands.
 
Falkor

Falkor

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frankota said:
Yes, social anxiety is a fear of being looked at, but it's also a fear of meeting people and going to events.
I feel the same way. I'm always afraid that if my outfit isn't super fashionable, people will judge me. If my hair isn't frizz-free people will judge me. If I am texting people will judge me. If I am reading, writing, laughing, smiling, breathing, people will judge me.
PS
Ik spreek Nederlands.
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Yes, it's a combination indeed. But what if people could not look at you? If they were blind? Aren't you a bit less afraid of saying what people think? Because on the internet you probably feel more safe to speak out loud, like on SPW here. But if they were all blind, it's just like the internet. :giggle: Only the voice could make us still self concious.

Of course it won't change, people will still be able to view us, but maybe we can invent glasses, whereas we can't see the people, we just see their face and body but their eyes aren't noticeable, those glasses could offer help for people with Social Anxiety. They should add a specific contrast in the lens with a detector for the eyes. :) Lol I came up with this idea this morning. ^^

PS: Wow, te gek, ben je een nederlander of spreek je gewoon nederlands? want je woont volgens je profiel wel errug ver.. haha... wel gaaf, zal je een vrienden uitnodiging sturen. groetjes, falkor
 
Kiwong

Kiwong

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A fear of being watched walking was a big part of my anxiety for many years. Not so much now.
 
Froggy246

Froggy246

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They would have to be deaf too. I do find that I feel less stage fright when I'm talking to a blind person yes, but not completely cured of SA, so that's why I say it's not just being looked at, it's being heard as well.
 
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