Fear of age, time speeding up

#1
Hi.
I know there are mostly young people here, but maybe is someone else scared of growing, of the number his last birthday...
I feel like there is only just about 10 years to live. After ten years I'll be old man ... no matter what the other ppl say about the best years, the man in the best years of life. I feel like I wasted all my life and I'm sick of it. Can't catch it anymore.

The other thing ... which is related with this... I feel like the time is speeding and speeding up. One day means nothing for me now. Nor even week or months. Las few years just disappeared. Nobody believes me. Every time I try do something through the day, I feel I am losing time only ... doing not important things only. Every time anyone call me to help with something (they only call if they need something - help or repair), I clearly see that another day is lost. And day after is lost to coz I have planed another useless thing.

I feel I should leave this place. But dunno where to go (tried few times, didn't work). And... the first thing....I'm already old man...

(sorry, I don't speak well english, but hope you can understand)
 

lily

Well-known member
#2
Hi.
I know there are mostly young people here, but maybe is someone else scared of growing, of the number his last birthday...
I feel like there is only just about 10 years to live. After ten years I'll be old man ... no matter what the other ppl say about the best years, the man in the best years of life. I feel like I wasted all my life and I'm sick of it. Can't catch it anymore.

The other thing ... which is related with this... I feel like the time is speeding and speeding up. One day means nothing for me now. Nor even week or months. Las few years just disappeared. Nobody believes me. Every time I try do something through the day, I feel I am losing time only ... doing not important things only. Every time anyone call me to help with something (they only call if they need something - help or repair), I clearly see that another day is lost. And day after is lost to coz I have planed another useless thing.

I feel I should leave this place. But dunno where to go (tried few times, didn't work). And... the first thing....I'm already old man...

(sorry, I don't speak well english, but hope you can understand)
Hi, i can understand your English. i don't feel that the day is speeding up but i feel bored/lonely so i need nice people around and a more active forum or to still come to this one once in a while. yes i feel that i have lost time or level of enjoyment definitely w/ my condition but I'm still dealing w/ it now and getting help. I'd say you can still enjoy eating and drinking your favorite foods and drinks and i'll pray for you that you can get on a journey of getting well. :)
 

LoyalXenite

Well-known member
#3
I dont fear aging, but I hate being my age and not having achieved what others my age have. Which is mainly because of my mental health and general history having held me back. So when I see my age its not a feeling of "Im getting old or running out of time" but an "god I'm wasting my life or I should be doing this or that by now, or have done this or that"
 
#4
I think a lot of us feel this way.

I'm 42 now and I haven't realized any of my dreams, in fact I've let them all go. The meager goals I've now set for myself include things that are so mundane that they don't even bear mentioning.

I basically just want to get through life in one piece at this point. No wife, no kids, no nice house. Just a job that won't kill me and enough money to support myself.
 

LoyalXenite

Well-known member
#5
I think a lot of us feel this way.

I'm 42 now and I haven't realized any of my dreams, in fact I've let them all go. The meager goals I've now set for myself include things that are so mundane that they don't even bear mentioning.

I basically just want to get through life in one piece at this point. No wife, no kids, no nice house. Just a job that won't kill me and enough money to support myself.
I'm outta thanks so giving you this instead :thumbup: :bigsmile: . I definitely relate to just trying to get though in one piece, pretty sure thats the best I could hope for in life too
 
#6
I think a lot of us feel this way.

I'm 42 now and I haven't realized any of my dreams, in fact I've let them all go. The meager goals I've now set for myself include things that are so mundane that they don't even bear mentioning.

I basically just want to get through life in one piece at this point. No wife, no kids, no nice house. Just a job that won't kill me and enough money to support myself.
Any goal a person sets for themselves is worthwhile, because it is worthwhile to that person, that is all that matters, imo.
I don't believe that goals have to be spectacular to be of value.

"Just a job that won't kill me and enough money to support myself" - This goal you that you have atm, is the exact same one I have! :eek:
 
#7
I dont fear aging, but I hate being my age and not having achieved what others my age have. Which is mainly because of my mental health and general history having held me back. So when I see my age its not a feeling of "Im getting old or running out of time" but an "god I'm wasting my life or I should be doing this or that by now, or have done this or that"
I also don't fear aging. The fact that I don't, makes me feel abnormal.
You don't have to worry so much LoyalXenite, because you are still young enough to achieve the things you want to in your life. With modern medicines etc people can safely live until their 80's now.
Apart from producing kids (as that is biologically age related) you still have years and years to achieve the things you wish to, LoyalXenite!
Has someone in real life mentioned that you are "wasting" your life? I know it's easier said than done, but try and not let anyone else put pressure on you, according to what society says you should have achieved by now.
 

lily

Well-known member
#8
I also don't fear aging. The fact that I don't, makes me feel abnormal.
You don't have to worry so much LoyalXenite, because you are still young enough to achieve the things you want to in your life. With modern medicines etc people can safely live until their 80's now.
Apart from producing kids (as that is biologically age related) you still have years and years to achieve the things you wish to, LoyalXenite!
Has someone in real life mentioned that you are "wasting" your life? I know it's easier said than done, but try and not let anyone else put pressure on you, according to what society says you should have achieved by now.
agreed .................
 

LoyalXenite

Well-known member
#9
Apart from producing kids (as that is biologically age related) you still have years and years to achieve the things you wish to, LoyalXenite!
Has someone in real life mentioned that you are "wasting" your life? I know it's easier said than done, but try and not let anyone else put pressure on you, according to what society says you should have achieved by now.
I cant have kids anyway so aging wont change the odds of that (not that I plan on having children anyway). I know I have time, but it just feels like Im never moving forward in life (coz everything always ends up going wrong and I stay stuck in the poverty cycle and things never actually come out the way I need them to).

I have actually been told by people I'm wasting my life. A few actually, some say it because my anxiety means I stay home alone most of the time when Im not at uni or at d&d, some say it coz Im 28 and a mature age student who is doing an impractical arts degree.. :idontknow:
 

Kiwong

Well-known member
#10
I understand how you feel Adios. I had a stroke in June. I faced my mortality straight in the face. You think how many years do I have left? Better get started on all the dreams I have.
 
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