Does anyone hate people getting annoyed by other people?

[gustavofring]

I am sitting in the library now, one woman is coughing really loud, and two stressy student girls on their laptops are constantly looking at her in an annoyed manner each time she coughs. Really awkward.

I see this sort of thing a lot, and it bothers me. Can the woman help she is coughing? For sure, it can be a bit annoying, but why not just accept it and move on. Why make an already awkward situation even more awkward by being so annoyed and stressy.

 

[montejocarlo]

i think it's normal attitude for some people, but discomforting nonetheless.

 

[Falkor]

I am sitting in the library now, one woman is coughing really loud, and two stressy student girls on their laptops are constantly looking at her in an annoyed manner each time she coughs. Really awkward.

I see this sort of thing a lot, and it bothers me. Can the woman help she is coughing? For sure, it can be a bit annoying, but why not just accept it and move on. Why make an already awkward situation even more awkward by being so annoyed and stressy.

They always act to me like that, Once I was really sick in a bus, and I was coughing EVERY SECOND.. and girls said ''That little twit baby can't stop coughing, poor little girl''

I was on the edge of crying there...

 

[Boby]

Hate?No(hate is big word for me). Dislike?Yes,I dislike when people get annoyed for something irrelevant like coughing,mostly because it make's me as or even more uncomfortable than the person that is coughing.

 

[Srijita52]

Hate?No(hate is big word for me). Dislike?Yes,I dislike when people get annoyed for something irrelevant like coughing,mostly because it make's me as or even more uncomfortable than the person that is coughing.

^I agree....

 

[bcsr]

I am sitting in the library now, one woman is coughing really loud, and two stressy student girls on their laptops are constantly looking at her in an annoyed manner each time she coughs. Really awkward.

I see this sort of thing a lot, and it bothers me. Can the woman help she is coughing? For sure, it can be a bit annoying, but why not just accept it and move on. Why make an already awkward situation even more awkward by being so annoyed and stressy.

I've had that happen to me. I have chronic bronchitis and asthma, takes me forever to get over a round of it. If anyone gives me that "look" I cough louder and over-exaggerated. I also add in some some grumbling noises after and some grunts.

Can't help it, it makes me mad. I'm soooo sorry my chronic lung disease bothers you.

 

[Silatuyok]

One time I was at lunch with my dad and sisters, and my dad started coughing, I guess from almost inhaling some food. We were all concerned for him and watching to make sure he wasn't choking, but the guys at the table next to us just gave us dirty looks and moved to another table. I wanted to get up and punch all of them in the face.

 

[sullyS25]

I think people do this to inflate their egos and feel better about themselves. Everyone does this, they put others down so they feel superior. It is annoying and can really get on my nerves sometimes as well but at the same time I can't to anything about it. I can talk until the cows come home about how they should just accept it and move on but it will not change anything. What I really need to do is practice what I preach and accept THEM for who they are and how they act and move on.

 

[Lea]

Well I find it unpleasant to be sitting next to someone who can´t stop coughing, because I feel like I breathe in all this crap and bacteria. This once happened to me when I was sitting in a waiting room in a hospital, an old lady came who was coughing and coughing. I felt like wanting to run away, but I remained sitting so that I don´t offend her. Then I was in the same hospital room with her and she was quite cool, even had nothing against open window which I very appreciated. Once she came from the hallway saying how there were 2 ladies sitting next to her and when she started coughing, they looked uneasy and run away. She said that they probably thought she had tuberculosis or something, and that it made her feel bad, because she had only astma. I didn´t tell her I wanted to run away too and that I understand how they felt..

This is not the only thing I find unpleasant, I also hate sleeping with a shut window, even more when it´s with other people because I feel like they polute the air with their breathing. Even more when they snore, I would jump out of my skin.

Think what you want, I know that you label me the worst cow under the sun, but I can´t help that it´s unpleasant to me. I guess I have OCD about this because such oversensitivity isn´t normal and I was completely different as a child, but if for example an old woman who I´m caring for as a carer (which I once was) complains that I´m wearing gloves with her, I take it as offence back.

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

Hmm...I am always giving people dirty looks. Like today, I was at Starbucks and there were these two guys talking very loudly, playing music on their iphones. It was so annoying. I am not sure how I feel about people coughing...well, if I were eating food it would gross me out, especially if they were to spit or something, which some people do and it is so nasty and rude. Sometimes I don't even want to cough in public for fear of annoying others...so, yeah yeah. I think I would have an easier time if I could just accept these things, like loud people--among other things--and move on. I just have a hard time ignoring little things like that. But thank god for noise canceling headphones, right?

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Oh yeah-- people are rude without really noticing it.
The coughing... that was kinda rude-- but couldn't be helped, except by leaving the room and they may actually have work that needs to be done, so that can't be helped either.
The glaring... that was rude, sure it's annoying-- but you don't need to make someone feel bad for something that may not be their fault.

I bring earbuds wherever I go, so that if I'm say; writing during a family function, I can sit off in a corner and put on music and not be annoyed by the drunken screaming.
Same thing goes when I'm in a library.
You can choose to leave and do your work somewhere else or put headphones on.
That will eliminate the annoyance from others.
You control your own actions-- not the actions of others.

 

[MikeyC]

But thank god for noise canceling headphones, right?

I bring earbuds wherever I go, so that if I'm say; writing during a family function, I can sit off in a corner and put on music and not be annoyed by the drunken screaming.
Same thing goes when I'm in a library.
You can choose to leave and do your work somewhere else or put headphones on.
That will eliminate the annoyance from others.
You control your own actions-- not the actions of others.

I remember watching something that having iPods and stuff is detrimental for tolerating annoyances. Before any of that, if you sat on the train and there were loud commuters, you had to put up with it no matter what. Now, you can block it by listening to music or putting in headphones just to block noise. It's making us far less tolerant and we're likely to get more annoyed quickly if something outside of our control is bothering us.

Of course, I'm guilty of such things, too, so who am I to talk?

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Now, you can block it by listening to music or putting in headphones just to block noise. It's making us far less tolerant and we're likely to get more annoyed quickly if something outside of our control is bothering us.

Oh yes, I suppose that makes sense... the whole desensitization thing... haha
It's easier to ignore people but when you have nothing to distract yourself with, you probably get annoyed much faster, since you're used to distracting yourself.

Next phase of human evolution-- radio tuner ear implants.
Yes. Makes perfect sense! This will fix everything! >D

 

[MikeyC]

Next phase of human evolution-- radio tuner ear implants.
Yes. Makes perfect sense! This will fix everything! >D

I welcome this piece of Skynet technology!

 

[gustavofring]

There's of course a line to be drawn.

The woman coughing, yeah it was annoying, but I hardly think she was being obnoxious on purpose. Maybe she should've taken up responsibility and left because her coughing was in a quiet space where people try to work.

When people are just being loud and rude, basically to provoke a reaction or get attention I think dirty looks are perfectly appropriate.

But I do think people are getting less tolerant of one another. More the "Me, Me, Me" and the rest can choke, attitude nowadays. Forgetting we're all humans with earthly flaws.

 

[BlackPuma]

Well I find it unpleasant to be sitting next to someone who can´t stop coughing, because I feel like I breathe in all this crap and bacteria. This once happened to me when I was sitting in a waiting room in a hospital, an old lady came who was coughing and coughing. I felt like wanting to run away, but I remained sitting so that I don´t offend her. Then I was in the same hospital room with her and she was quite cool, even had nothing against open window which I very appreciated. Once she came from the hallway saying how there were 2 ladies sitting next to her and when she started coughing, they looked uneasy and run away. She said that they probably thought she had tuberculosis or something, and that it made her feel bad, because she had only astma. I didn´t tell her I wanted to run away too and that I understand how they felt..

This is not the only thing I find unpleasant, I also hate sleeping with a shut window, even more when it´s with other people because I feel like they polute the air with their breathing. Even more when they snore, I would jump out of my skin.

Think what you want, I know that you label me the worst cow under the sun, but I can´t help that it´s unpleasant to me. I guess I have OCD about this because such oversensitivity isn´t normal and I was completely different as a child, but if for example an old woman who I´m caring for as a carer (which I once was) complains that I´m wearing gloves with her, I take it as offence back.

Those concerns actually sound pretty reasonable to me. While it does bother me when people are coughing uncontrollably, I've learned to kind of tolerate the regular germs involved dealing with people (even though I remain aware of them still and can always see the imaginary germ cloud in the room creeping up to me, lmao).

What does bother extremely me is when people have a cold, and don't take any kind of precaution to keep the germs to themselves. Those anti-bacteria hand creams aren't that expensive, and I think that wearing a mask that covers the mouth during the a should be adopted everywhere out of courtesy.

 

[twiggle]

I don't think that finding coughing annoying is much different to a lot of other pet peeves. It's something which probably shouldn't be annoying, yet sometimes it is. I get annoyed by it and I can understand why others do too; particularly if people aren't putting their hands over their mouth.

That said, obviously coughing is something that can't be helped. Medicines are usually rubbish and quite often, the person has probably caught their cough from somebody else that was coughing in public. People shouldn't have to keep themselves hidden away when they have a cough just to make other peoples' lives more peaceful, but I also agree that if they have a particularly nasty coughing fit they should do the decent thing and leave the room for a few minutes or something. It's courtesy as well - reducing the chances of others catching your germs.

But I do think people are getting less tolerant of one another. More the "Me, Me, Me" and the rest can choke, attitude nowadays.

Yep, very true. Personally I blame the internet. I think people were a lot less selfish when they were less exposed to other peoples' lives (e.g Facebook often encouraging people to compare themselves to others), and when, to be famous, you actually had to be talented, not just film yourself doing something stupid on camera. I think I'd like to go back a few decades when the world was a lot less superficial than it is today.

 

[MikeyC]

Yep, very true. Personally I blame the internet. I think people were a lot less selfish when they were less exposed to other peoples' lives (e.g Facebook often encouraging people to compare themselves to others), and when, to be famous, you actually had to be talented, not just film yourself doing something stupid on camera. I think I'd like to go back a few decades when the world was a lot less superficial than it is today.

While I do agree with your point, I reckon superficiality was just as bad back then but social networking and the media wasn't around to broadcast it as widespread.

 

[sullyS25]

I just wanted to point out the irony of the title of this post which I hope will show the irony of the post as well. To me the content of this post and numerous responses are saying "I get annoyed by people that get annoyed by other people". Does that not seem a little.....hypocritical?

 

[gustavofring]

Yes it is hypocritical.

But it's also a bit self-critical, and a recording of a feeling I experience. With this thread I hoped to gain some understanding of the phenomenon of annoyance. I try my best not to let myself be bothered by pet peeves, but then I notice most other people don't try at all, and instead just let their negative feelings surface in dirty looks etc. That in turn annoys me.

So yeah, annoyance is probably something occuring in every human, no matter how much we condition ourselves to be tolerant of other people.